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Q: I am 13/f and am in the 8th grade. Im not really skinny but medium. I have never been asked out by a guy and I dont really want a bf but I want to be liked. I play sports and am kind uf tomboyish. Also usually I panick if I find out I guy just likes me a little and say something mean. How should I handle a guy that like me w/o bursting on him, is it bad ive never had a bf or been asked out, and should I be more girlish?

I think that every girl is liked by at least one guy... And i think that a guy should like you because of your personallity. I don't think you should turn more girly if you love the things you do now. I think that when i guy likes you and someone tell's you he does just smile and say "he's cool" or something like that... If you don't like him try to avoid saying something mean.. Just be yourself and you'll fine

Q: Ok, so here's the deal, I have this REALLY good guy friend, I mean he's like my best friend. Well, he just recently broke up with his girlfriend, and it looks like they aren't gonna get back together like he wants to.Well... I have started kinda liking him. Well, last night, me and two of my other friends went over to his house while one of his other friends was there. Well, he kept flirting withme, and like touching me and stuff,then I was like "Let's play truth or dare" and he goes "I dare myself to have 7 minutes in heaven with -my name-" so, I kinda just laughed.. but, he was serious, and so was everybody else in the room. So, we go in the closet, and they shut us in. Well, I didn't think he liked me, and I didn't think anything would happen. Then, he started touchingme, and like pullin me closer, and we starting kissing (this was my first kiss),then we started making out and he was like touching my butt and everything. Then, we get out of the closet, when our time is up, and a little while later he started talkin to his friend privately, and I found out that he told his friend that he was gonna ask me out. Then, we went back in the closet for a few more minutes.. and that was it. But, I'm so confused, cause this was last night, and he hasn't asked me out, and he has said a few things about his ex-girlfriend. I don't know what to think.. and I feel so crappy cause I really dolike him alot.. and I just wish he would ask me out. Sorry this was so long, but if anybody has any advice it would be greatly appreciated, and I'll rate 5's. Thanks.

hey i think tht you should call him and ask him to go to a movie or sumthing and see wht hapens mabe he'll ask you out or if he puts a move on you then tell him you dont feel right cause your not going out yet then he'll prob ask you out or you could just ask him out!!

give some feedbak
and tell ya friends about me and amd amanda!!!

best of luck, becca and amanda

Q: im sure everygirl has the problem but i am confused me and my bf were at a party on the golf course and there was the bench like away from everyone he asked if i wanted to go up there with him and i said yes...so we went up there and all he did was sit there and barely even talked...i was kinda let down if u know what i mean.. but finally he started to talk and all of our freidns came up there being there nosey little selves........it seems like im making the first moves ..... i know he likes me but how or what can i do to make him come out of his shell

be your self infront of him and mabe he'll come out of his shell make sure you tell him to be his self infront of you cause if he cnt be himself with you the relationship isnt worth it if tht doesnt work go on group dates with a lot of his friend he has to be himself infront of them

best of luck becca and amanda
ps make sure you right in our feed bak!!

Q: Okay, Hi
Im having a bit of a problem, my friends brother, we'll call him mark, has a MASSIVE crush on me and I'm not sure i feel the same way.. I might a little bit, but definatly not the way he feels about me! I stayed at his house for a few days this summer because his sister is my best friend... or one of them, and i came in looking like myself, i am big on makeup and hair and stuff, but i came out with none, if not hardly and makeup on, a couple zits and limp hair that was a little greasy. I didnt look to good and a week or so later he said that he thinks that im beautiful - not hot, beautiful. On my first night there, my friend fell asleep on the couch and so it was just him and i, we talked for three or so hours and it was so easy to talk to him, and i could tell he was sooo happy he got to talk to just me... im not sure if that means anything but just thought i would share that with you.
Please help, im so confused as what to do!
and i cant ask him out because my friend would kill me!

I understand how you feel! Your friend should understand your feelings with this guy. If shes a true friend she would look past the bad in this relationship and more towards the good. He sounds like an awesome guy, and passing the chance might not be smart. You don't want to regret going out with him but you don't want to regret not going out with him. So its a hard situation. I think the best thing to do is to talk to your friend. I think she's probably afraid your going to spend more time with her brother and forget about her. Write back if you have any more problems with that.. Good luck talking to your friend. And i hope all goes well.