I am 14/f. I am a complex person and believe I am well beyond my years. Anyways I specialise, wait that makes me sound official, am better at talking and giving advice about sexuality confusion etc as a young teen like myself. I will give loads of my questions a try and not afraid to do so but don't blame me if you wanted my opinion and didn't get what you want.
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Okay so I'm mostly straight (I've only dated guys), but my first kiss was with a girl (I was at most 7 and my older sister kinda...you get the idea.) and I've made out with a female friend a couple of times.
I come from a strict Catholic family, from a homosexuality standpoint. But the times I made out with my friend, well... they were amazing. The first time we were just messing around and pretending that we were going to kiss eachother, but at one point our lips accidentally met. We both looked shocked for a moment, and then pulled in for another, and started to make out quite intensly. I was becoming a bit overwhelmed afterword, because my parents view it as sin and because we both had boyfriends (we were 12 for gods sake), but she reassured me that we were just practicing on one another. The second time, I was feeling aroused and invited her over. We ended up making out, each taking turns to stimulate the other, and eventually dry humping. We both decided then that that was the farthest we'd go, including 'scissoring'. But that was the last time because I freaked out and almost killed myself over shame.
Now I feel kind of bad, because I could tell that both of us were developing crushes.
I guess my questions are:
1. Is this sin? Should I be ashamed?
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2. should I contact her- the friend- and apologize? Its been 2 years, but we're still in contact.
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You like this girl a lot if you tried it on then that's serioyus it is not a sin at all you should try contacting her as well coz she may feel the same way you do so if you feel sexually aroused then try it on again don't confront anyone unless you 100% trust them!!!!
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here is my story.im a 13 year old female and have had an obvious attraction for women since a very young age. I would deny it every day and say this cannot be happening your straight you like men.I fell into a habit of self destruction. I had 1 crush on a guy, but I was 8 my parents were fighting and I only liked him because he was girly.Last summer a friend who was also questioning her sexuality came out to me at a fair. I talked to her recently and she says shes straight again.At that moment I realized that maybe I am as well.I always would fantasize about women,men almost never.I have come out to a very few close people including my mother who is very accepting and understanding and a few very close friends.they understand,I live in a tight homophobic racist community and have been made fun of for being a bit if a tomboy and holding hands and even hugging and kissing my 2 best female friends good-bye.my dad is one of those guys who never accepts anything like this.im afraid im in a phase, but am sure i'm not.comments?i have anxiety as well. I have had a crush on a girl for he longest time she's straight and knows I like her its complicated she acts like she likes me all the time and says stuff like o shes my half gf, I'm so lost.im a cutter and bruiser and lost.im made fun of constantly and need support and an answer to my questions in my heart about who I like in that way.thank you and I apologize for thwe length. (link)
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First, you seem really nice and don't need to apologize for the length. Heres a little tape about a girl with the same problem ignore the things like the cutting videos around it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEiDyG-POA4. You shouldn't resort to cutting yourself. If it's blatantly obvious you like this girl and she knows it leave it and if she wants you she'll come and get you, she does know where you are after all. My friend is bisexual and I helped her through it and she is now in a happy relationship though , I haven't spoken to her in a while. Don't worry about opening out to you're Dad he's your Dad he'll learn to except it because you're his daughter. If you have liked women for ages but also liked a man because he was girly then you're a lesbian. You're family and neighborhood will learn to except who you are and what/who you like if you come to find yourself to love a man count yourself as a bisexual although leave it a couple of years as you say, it might just be a phase as I know people who thought they were and they weren't and they then grew out of it.
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This is an opinionated question; how do YOU know when you're in love? (link)
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It's hard to explain and most people cant so just go with the flow. I suppose you know when you're in love when you look and someone and you tend to think that he/she is cute. You can sometimes get butterflies in your stomach or find it hard to bring up topics to talk about and just come out with random things. This is the same if you're gay or think you are but don't know it, if you look at a guy and think ' oh he's kinda cute lets see if he likes me' then talk to him don't hide yourself away, also ask people when they were first in love how did they know it!
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OK! I'm a 14/f and I've been talking with my crush who is just a few years older than me (not much and don't talk about age, its not that huge of an age gap) we are both mature and are both in a school activity. Since it's summer we text literally everyday. I love talking to him (its very easy talking to him :D) and lately we are both struggling to find topics. Cause I can tell he likes talking to me just as much as I like talking to him. I want to keep conversation fun and continuous but I need help with ideas. So please give ideas!! We usually talk about the activity we are both in and how our days are. SO PLEASE HELP!!!! :) (link)
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Okay so heres the thing! You both like talking right! Maybe tell a joke or play a game or something. Or you could maybe tell him how you feel because then you might have a shot at going out so then you would have a lot to talk about you're fourteen so maybe go to the park or beach and I know because you're fourteen you have a lot on you plate at the moment, like puberty and things so just go with the flow and see where it takes you.
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