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what do i do when i like this guy and my mom doesnt like him but i am going out with him? hes really nice but my mom doesnt think so. she doesnt really kno him. im scared to ask if we could hang out. what should i do??
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Well you can't sneak around with him because your mom will eventually, if not right away, find out. It's a mom's job to know everything, unfortunately for us. You need to talk to your mom and ask her why she doesn't like this guy. Discuss with her (calmly) why you like him and why you think he's a good guy. Ask her to give him a chance and to let you hang out with him at least once. If she doesn't oblige, then there's nothing you can do except obey her. And I know... it bites :-/
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what do you do when you like your best friend? i cant decide on weather i should tell him or just forget about it..hmm what should i do? (link)
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Chances are that when you fall for your best friend, he's probably going to fall for you also. If you really like him and think that this will work out, then go for it. You have nothing to lose! However if you think that this can hurt your friendship, in any degree, than you need to take time and really think about what's going on. This is a really tough decision, and I can't tell you what to do. You have to make the choice that's right for you. I'm sure that whatever you decide will be the answer in the end. Good luck!
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wow you gave me so much advice!thanks tara your amazing and ill try out your solutions and see how they turn out! (link)
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Aw thanks. I'm glad I was able to help you. Let me know if anything works!
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what do you do when you finally get over some jerk off but want to take it slow and you think no guys are into you but out of the blue they're interested? it's so aweful because one guy liked me freshmen year and i never went out with him and he went to a different school then all of a sudden my friends and i started hangin with him again and now one of my best friends likes him but i just found out he wants to go out with me again! but she doesn't know and i don't want her to be sad or mad at me. then one other friend iv only talked to before wants to hookup with me and meet up all late at night and stuff! then there's the jerk off who cant except the fact that i hate him and still wants me to like him! lord have mercy i need my taras help! (link)
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Ok well I'm going to start with your "jerk off" because he's the easiest to deal with. If you're calling him that name, then there's a very good chance you really don't want to be with him at all. So tell him. Say something like, "Listen, you're pretty cool and I love our friendship, but I just don't feel anything more for you." And leave it at that. If he still comes after you, just talk to him a lot less until he lets up. You wouldn't want to give him any false signals, however unintentional they may be.
Next up is the guy who liked you freshman year. Do you like him? Because if you do that makes the problem bigger. If you don't like him however, then we're in excellent shape. You can let this guy know that you don't like him either subtly or bluntly. The blunt way is obviously to tell him straight up. The subtle way is to bring up your friend... "So, how do you feel about so-and-so? I noticed you guys were flirting the other night and it seemed as if you liked her or could like her..." That way, you'd helping your girl out too. If you feel the need to, tell her that this other guy is into you but you are SO not into him and nothing will EVER happen. REASSURE her of that. Whether you tell her or not is up to you, but I would tell my friend and I certainly hope my friends would be able to come to me.
Finally, you have this guy friend. And suddenly, he wants to be MORE than just a guy friend. Only not in a boyfriend sense. The late-night meeting up and hooking up... sounds like he wants to be friends with benifits. Which is cool if you want that too. A lot of people these days are just friends with benefits. However if you want more you need to make that clear and understand that he might not be feeling the same way. If that's the case then DON'T hook up with him. You're only setting yourself up to get hurt.
I think that pretty much concludes all of your problems and solutions... so good luck with all of them :)
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My ex boyfriend has left me a total of THREE times , each time or a different girl . Well we got back together 2 days before i left for camp for two weeks and i came back to find out he liked someone else so we broke up . we didnt talk for a week and then he called and said he loved me and is going to come back yada yada . Its just soooooo hard to beleive anything he says . I want him back but I cant let go of everything hes done to me .. he left me for the first girl and lost his virginity to her .. and this third girl he treats SO MUCH better than me . idk what to do. should i let go of the past and take him back? or am i getting fucked over again? (link)
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Um... quite frankly I think you are getting screwed over. This guy is SO not worth your time. He left you THREE times. He obviously has commitment issues and while he may be a good guy and have good qualities... the things he did are not acceptable. It might be hard but my advice to you is to let go of him and the past and move onto the future. Good luck.
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okay, my guy is a lot older than me. Like a lot. But, we are really into each other, does age really matter? I think love at age 16 is a joke but for me and him I think it's different! HELP! (link)
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You think love at 16 is a joke but you think it's different for the two of you? Correct me if I'm wrong, but you contradict yourself. To quote a song, "What difference does his difference in age make?" Age shouldn't matter if you two are really meant to be together. Look at Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore for example. They really love eachother... and he's closer in age to her DAUGHTER. So no, age does not matter if you really love eachother.
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you dont know me but i have a question... ok i was with this guy for like a month and we were so happy together!! so i go to florida for 2 weeks and i come back and he has a girlfriend!! wtf?!! even tho that was like the worst thing he could do to me..i still like him!! and i dont know why..please help me!! (link)
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Well, you must know why you still like him. It's not like any of the qualities that made you first notice him disappeared. He just happened to gain a few bad ones while you were gone... like getting a new girlfriend. And, Ok, that sucks. Ask yourself this... did you stay in contact with him while you were away? Or did you not talk at all? Because not talking to someone for two weeks generally tends to weaken a relationship... big-time. If you did talk to him... well then he's a butt. You do have to realize people's feelings change though. They meet new people. They move on to be happy with their new love and screw you over. Don't worry, you know how karma comes back around? His new girl will probably screw him over too. If he comes running back to you... don't take him. Unless of course you are sure he won't leave you again. Any guy who can do that and hurt you is not worth your time.
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Alright so here's the deal...I met this guy and he is quite a catch but I can't really decide if I like him as more than a friend. I know he likes me because he has basically said so...He compliments me all the time and we talk online and on the phone a lot, so there is a connection...but I am so back and forth with if I like him or not...and if I would regret going out with him. O yeah and I am going to a diff. school next year so that complicates things as well. Or maybe I just need to shut up and live in the moment and not look so far into things...what to do tara? (link)
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Well, seeing as how summer is almost over and school will be starting, you might think about giving up. I mean, what's the point? You're going to a different school and you're never going to see him. Ok, that's one way to look at it. Another way to look at it is so what? Who cares if summer is almost gone. No one said that you couldn't still see him on the weekends once school was back in session. And if you are going to a new school, there is most definitely going to be eye candy and more there. If you really can't decide whether or not if you like him... then you probably really don't. If you have doubts it's normally safe to say STOP. Doubts = major no-no. But if you won't regret it... then go for it anyway! Once school starts you are going to have plenty more guys. If i were you I would live in the moment. Then again, that's just me. Hope this helps you at least somewhat.
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Soo this guy named Orlando B..... (forget his last name) has been calling me and asking me 2 go on dates w/ him n he claims hes some big famous star..... yeah right!!! wut shoudl I do lol *BARDO* (link)
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ASHLEY JEANNE ELIZABETH BARDEN! Give him my NUMBER, duh! Hahaha. You think he likes BIG GIRLS? 'Cause you know, then we would be all set cause we are BIG GIRLS. We do BIG GIRL things. Like sit at the back of the tube. And across from eachother to "balance things out." Hahaha I love you so much BIGGS :)
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um ya ok im in love. but its kind of an unusual love. you see, im in love with my hampster. i want to tell him but i dont know how. every time im around him i feel so shy. how can i tell him that hes my true love?
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Hahaha. I hear hampsters are very loving creatures. He should understand if you tell him you love him, and will most likely love you in return. Um, hope it all works out for you guys haha.
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okayy um theres this guy that i used to going out with back in january then we broke up liek mutually and both decided that we wanted to be friends with benefits i guess and liek he started liking me again then all of a sudden one of his friends started talking shit about me andd i found out and then i guess he stopped liking me then moved on to liking one of my best friends. i kno hes an asshole but i still like him alot and cnt get over him and i dnt want to talk to him about it cuz i kno ill sound like a complete idiot. how do i get us back together again (link)
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If you talk to him about it, you WON'T sound like a complete idiot. In fact, you'll sound mature and wise because you'd be handling the situation in a professional way. Snaps to you if you can do that. He'll be left as the immature one, especially if he doesn't care for what you have to say. Maybe he WILL care though, and then we would know he isn't a complete jerk and wants to get back together with you. However, in the words of Maroon 5, "it's not always rainbow's and butterflies, but compromise that moves us along." Condsider this: he fell for one of your best friends. Did she fall for him too? If she did, you cannot, i repeat CANNOT screw that up for them. They like eachother, she is your best friend, and you just don't get in the way of your best friend's relationship blossoming. HOWEVER, if you are not comfortable with your best friend liking him becuase he used to be YOUR ex (Yes, ex's are SO off limit to best friends in my book) then you need to tell her. Let her know that it's uncomfortable for you. If she is one of your best friends, she should ditch the guy and hang out with you instead. This of course means that you can't have him either. Chicks before dicks, isn't that the golden rule? You've got a lot on your plate to think about. Good luck!
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I work with this really cool down to earth girl, but the type of job i work in is one where when we work together, it is only us two, no other co workers so when we work together, we are in contact alot, we both flirt and everything but it hasnt really gone past that. I dont think she would be opposed to it but say things dont work out then i have to be with this girl for hours and it could be really awkward, then again i could get to spend hours and hours with a girl that i love to be with. Should I Stay Or Should I Go? (link)
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You should go! What have you got to lose? From what you told me, all the signs point to YES. She seems like she is into you also, and the risk is completely worth it. If you throw the bait and she doesn't bite, remember there are other fish in the sea. The situation is only as awkward as you make it. So if you both decide to not make it awkward from the start, you will be saving a great friendship and also saving yourselves from the feeling of not wanting to be there. Work is work, never fun, so if you have someone to share it with, time goes by a lot faster. Why not make use of that time by being friends... or more? Good luck!
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ok well my 2 good friends sally* and bob* were dating , right? well when sally* dumped bob* bob* told me he liked me so we were gonna go out but sally* wanted him back . well ... even though i love sally* dearly , i still like bob* alot . but what they have is so special .. but its so hard to sit and watch them get back together . its even worse when I have to help them when they have a problem . i still like bob*! what should i do? (link)
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If you see that Bob and Sally have something special, don't try to step in and ruin it. Does Bob still like you, or are his feelings stronger for Sally? If he still likes Sally a lot, don't try to ruin a good thing. Of course, it is going to be very hard to sit and watch the game from the sidelines when you want to be on the feild in all of the action. But maybe it just wasn't the right sport for you. Keep looking until you find the sport that's right for you. There are many different ones to choose from, if you know what I mean. Good Luck.
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ok well me and my bf have been separated for a month and i want him back but right now he's playing like 15 diff girls and one minute he wants me back and the next minute he doesnt . its killing me inside cause i know he still cares and i NEED him back . but hes confused and so am i . should i talk to him? what should i say? (link)
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You said you NEED him. Why do you NEED him? 'Cause if he were my exboyfriend, and he was going after 15 different girls at once, I most certainly would not need him. If you want him back, tell him. Also tell him that it is only going to work if you work together. Relationships are a team effort. You both have to want it. And that means he is not allowed to go after any other girl than you. So he has to drop those 15 chicks you said he likes. Maybe you two just need a break. Either for a little while, or for good. Clear your head and sort your thoughts about him. And then ask yourself, "Do I REALLY want him? Do I REALLY need him?"
Sometimes, two people just arn't meant to be together. And that's ok. Othertimes, they are meant together and just need some time to sort it all out. So talk to him. Talk to yourself. And then decide what is going to be best. Hope it all works out for you.
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so i like this guy..alot.and i dont know if he likes me or if he just wants to hook up with me..like weve talked about hooking up.and he wants to.but i want more than that. what should i do and say? (link)
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Tell him that you really like him and you're interested in pursuing a relationship with him. He probably wants a relationship also. And if he doesn't, then you don't need him. Let him find some other girl to use to hook up with. You can do better.
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Alright, i feel kind of silly doing this, but whatever. I am a guy, and there is this young lady that I know. I like her a lot, she's a lot of fun to talk to and hang out with, but she doesn't got o my school. How big of a problem is that? Should I stick to my school, or can I test the waters in other places? (link)
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Seeing as how you like her a lot, anything is possible. From past experience, dating a guy (or in your case a girl) from another school has worked out just fine. "Long distance" relationships are only as hard as you make them. Go test the waters in other places. It'll all work out. Trust me. Good luck with your lady.
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ok so i like this guy n i dont kno if he likes me... how do i tell him i like him?
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well.. there are several ways you can go about t doing this. ask him if he's into anyone right now. or you can ask his friends. or you can tell him you like him and ask him if he'd ever be interested. it's kind of hard to get up the nerve to tell someone you like them. but once you do.. it'll be worth it. good luck!
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ok sOo i like this guy and he knows that i do...and people are telling me that he does..lately we have been talking alot lately over the phone (which is definately a good thing :) )...but the last time we talked he was like kinda talking about this other girl and stuff...like wtf...i think he is just probably seeing how interested i am and stuff..but yeah it kinda bothers me...what should i do (link)
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he could be testing you to see if you like him.. or he could be clueless that you're into him and views you as a good friend... and is asking your advice on a girl he likes. the second option is a major killer, i know, i'm sorry. but you can be honored taht he trusts you enough and respects you and is letting you into his life.
if it really bothers you, talk to him about it. say, " i don't know if you know this or not, but i really like you. i don't know if you like me back, or if you like the other girl you mentioned. even if you don't like me,that's cool too because i would still like to remain friends." (assuming you DO want to remain friends, of course.) if you're not quite feeling THAT bold, ask him, "so, what's going on with this girl you were telling me about?" see what he says. hope it all works out for you...
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Tara,
Hey i had this boyfriend for about 4 months and now he has been hanging around me for the past 5 months and it is totally over! & i dont know how to tell him that, i think i am starting to like this other guy too. But the thing is he is going to be a senior, and i cant tell if he is interested in me. What can i do to get the one guy to leave me alone and take a hint && how can i tell if this senior is interested??
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you need to tell this boyfriend that you do not want to see him anymore. that it;s really over. if this guy has been hanging around you, you've either been giving off the wrong vibe or he's thick and doesn't get it. or he does get it, and is just madly in love with you. :) tell your ex to leave you alone. it's time to move on and he's holding you back and you don't like it. he should understand. about the senior.. get to know him more.. hang out with him. you'll be able to tell if he's interested. asking around from his friends wouldn't hurt either.
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hi Tara,
i heard about this site from a friend, it seems awesome and my friend described u as really awesome, too.
i have a little problem. i want a boyfriend so badly--or maybe not a boyfriend, just a friend. i used to be a really touchy-feely person you know like i like people to hug me and hold me because a lot of times i just get really sad and lonely.
i dont want a friend that's a girl tho. i dont trust girls so much. i'm a girl, just to let you know.
what can i do? i know that this is like a really vgue questionbut like, i feel like i dont deserve anyone...i know that i dont deserve anyone...it just gets so lonely sometimes.
plz give me ur advice! (link)
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thank you! you're awesome too.
sounds like your depressed about not having someone close to you who you can go to when you're upset and just need someone to tell you it's ok. and you know what? feeling like that is ok. we all need someone to help us through those tough times. make yourself some new friends. and remember, you have to BE a friend to have one. you'll have plenty of trustworthy people to rely on, and who knows? maybe a whole new group of friends to hang out with this summer!
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