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what do you do when you finally get over some jerk off but want to take it slow and you think no guys are into you but out of the blue they're interested? it's so aweful because one guy liked me freshmen year and i never went out with him and he went to a different school then all of a sudden my friends and i started hangin with him again and now one of my best friends likes him but i just found out he wants to go out with me again! but she doesn't know and i don't want her to be sad or mad at me. then one other friend iv only talked to before wants to hookup with me and meet up all late at night and stuff! then there's the jerk off who cant except the fact that i hate him and still wants me to like him! lord have mercy i need my taras help!
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Ok well I'm going to start with your "jerk off" because he's the easiest to deal with. If you're calling him that name, then there's a very good chance you really don't want to be with him at all. So tell him. Say something like, "Listen, you're pretty cool and I love our friendship, but I just don't feel anything more for you." And leave it at that. If he still comes after you, just talk to him a lot less until he lets up. You wouldn't want to give him any false signals, however unintentional they may be.
Next up is the guy who liked you freshman year. Do you like him? Because if you do that makes the problem bigger. If you don't like him however, then we're in excellent shape. You can let this guy know that you don't like him either subtly or bluntly. The blunt way is obviously to tell him straight up. The subtle way is to bring up your friend... "So, how do you feel about so-and-so? I noticed you guys were flirting the other night and it seemed as if you liked her or could like her..." That way, you'd helping your girl out too. If you feel the need to, tell her that this other guy is into you but you are SO not into him and nothing will EVER happen. REASSURE her of that. Whether you tell her or not is up to you, but I would tell my friend and I certainly hope my friends would be able to come to me.
Finally, you have this guy friend. And suddenly, he wants to be MORE than just a guy friend. Only not in a boyfriend sense. The late-night meeting up and hooking up... sounds like he wants to be friends with benifits. Which is cool if you want that too. A lot of people these days are just friends with benefits. However if you want more you need to make that clear and understand that he might not be feeling the same way. If that's the case then DON'T hook up with him. You're only setting yourself up to get hurt.
I think that pretty much concludes all of your problems and solutions... so good luck with all of them :)
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