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my name's michaela..my friends call me kay, or kayla pretty much..im 14 years old (yeah i feel really young on here..there are so many older and more expierienced advicenators on here..o wel...live and learn) im not gonna go on about how "i give fantasmic advice!" because..that's an oppinion, and everyone should be able to have their own oppinion, so if you like my advice, thats great! and ill always be here to help you out. If you dont like it, well i'd love to hear from you about what im doing wrong so i can maybe improve a bit?
If you want to know more about me..well, i love to party and go crazy..thats like my life!! hahaha..trying to stay young as long as i can. I am really into art, painting and writing. I guess you could say i am a creative person. I like to listen to music. I like pretty much everything..rap rock r&b..you name it..EXCEPT i DESPISE country..blahhh =(..i have 3 amazing best friends..danni, kate, and izzi. They are all absolutly gorgous and amazingg..and they are always there for me. I couldnt ask for better friends. they tell me im beautiful..but i totally disagree on that one..i want to get a picture up on here..
thats probably not going to happen though..so if you want to check out my myspace..
http://www.myspace.com/xokaylao7
^^ check it outt..
i will answer questions through aim and email if you think its nessasary..
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im 14 and me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a month now. i keep askin my mom if i can go to his house but each time she says no. i think she thinks we r gonna have sex and im only 14 im not ready for all of that yet. the most we would do is make out. how can i get her to let me go to his house??? we really want to see each other outside of skool but its kind of had cuz i hate when people come to my house and i like goin to his house and i've been there before but my mom wont let me go now. please help me.

Hey,
She doesn't think your going to have sex, trust me. My mom did the same exact thing to me when i was with this kid nick..
Just tell her that your a responsible girl and you need to be able to make your own descisions or your never going to learn anything..you should make it clear to her that you want her to know that your not in a sexual relationship with him and you wouldn't do anything you wherent comfortable with with anybody.
k pce :)

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How Do You Like Makeout With Some One I Never Have Before So I'm Like Scared I'll Do IT Wrong.... Ummm soo whoever knows give me some feedback please i rate high, and dont give me the b.s like oo practice on your hand lol ok thanks

Hey,
Ok..definitly do not practice on your hand..its a horrible idea..its nothingg like the real deal..macking is not that difficult..im really disappointed that when i was younger i asked a similar question to this one..and not one person gave me one of the most important tips of all..
GO SLOW...and dont try and do a bunch of crazy moves with your toungue..at least not on your first time..but guys like it slow..because its not really attractive if you have a toungue squirming around quickly in your mouth..its like a fish out of water..GROSS!
pce :)

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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help

Hey,
I think he would respect you more if you asked for his permission first. I know it sounds kind of queer..but it acctually might make him stop and think that you really care about his oppinion and you respect him..let him know that you really care about his sister and you would never do anything to hurt her..and you just really want to have the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing with her.
Its alright to be protective of her..it is a sign of love..but you cannot go overboard with it...dont make her feel like its wrong for her to hang out with guys.
Well have a talk with the big brother..tell me what happens...
pce :)

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i really like this guy ...and its not like he doesnt know i excist we talk alot but he doesnt think of me in "that" way at all ...he goes for a different type that just is not me ..i dont know if i should change for him or let it go because i am just wasting my time. And hes kinda a bad boy so im not so sure he could hold a girlfriend even if i got the chance ...what do you think .. help me out please ?

ill rate high for helpful answers

Hey,
This sounds reallly corny..but DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE!! especially not a guy..at such a young age..guys have no idea what they want anymore..their hormones are constantly bouncing off the walls...its pretty hectic to say the least. Well anyways..you could change yourself to impress one guy..and there could be 10 other guys who liked you the way you were before..think about that...
:) pce

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okay i like this guy lets call him bob so at lunch my friend told me that she likes him too and then i was fine with it but then in 7th hour this girl that i CAN NOT stand told me that she likes him also and i was soo madd i like this bob alotttt BUT i also have a boyfriend we've been going out for 7 months but i really like bob and so do alot of others apperantly what should i do

Hey,
Dont break a 7 month relationship for some guy that a bunch of other girls like. He has a choice between all of you and if you are not confident that he would choose you..you need to stay with your current boyfriend..

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ok well I was the one who broke up with my bf, and its been three days and hes ready to ask out another girl! we went out for a month and a half! i mean im only 13/f but still... does anyone else think its weird? i mean im really hurt... what should i do?

Hey,
A monthand a half might seem like a long time to you..but it could seem like nothing to him. Maybe he holds relationships for longer periods of time then you do..
Moving on can be different for everyone..
Just do the same. Your the one who broke up with him in the 1st place. So obviously you dont "want" him anymoree..
pce :)

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okay well i have a bf and we have nothing at all in commin i mean we barly talk and now hes gone 4 2 weeks on a cruse and theres a dance coming up this weekend. adn theres this kid ((boy w/e)) that i kinda in a way just met and he told me he liked me and well he was flirting w/ me at the last dance and i just think hes cute i mean i dont think i like him. but hes a grade unger than me and i dont realli think age matters but i do have a bf and idk what to do i mean wen im single i barrley like anyone but now i have a bf i think i like alot of people ((well no everyone)) but i tend to flirt more or notice that i do. srry its so long. im just so confused about this hole thing.

Hey,
I notice that i flirt with people alot more when im going out with someone too. I think its because we gain confidence by knowing that the guy we like likes us back..so we feel like we can flirt with any guy and they'll flirt back..
Lots of girls tend to do that...its interesting the way things work..

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I have a boyfriend that I am very much inlove with. But in every relationship that I am ever in it goes great until they want to do something sexual! I duno why i just get really shy and scared. its not that im afraid of the thing its just im afraid of doing it with the person! its kind of confusing. I really love my boyfriend though and I want to be able to do stuff with him when the time comes cause I love him to death! How can I loosen up? Any advice?

I rate well

Hey!
Thats not confusing at all. I feel the same way. I really dont like having a sexual relationship with someone..im a simple person..i like to cuddle and makeout..and thats pretty much it.. Once you have been with him for a while..you will be able to totally be yourself around him and you will probably be very comfortable with doing sexual things..just because you know and trust him more. Dont worry about the future right now..just take each day as it comes and when that topic comes up..then you'll have to sit down and think about wether you're comfortable enough with him to have a sexual relationship.
pce :)

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Sorry If Its Long!!! .. Well here it goes

Ok well theres this guy .. well call him cody.
well me and cody have know each other for like almost 2 years. and over the summer we talked about how we liked each other .. and he kind of i guess strung me along for like 2 months .. sayin he liked me but wouldn't do anything about it, but when i asked if i should juss forget it he told me not to b/c he liked me ..

he said he'd call nd he said we'd hang out but he kept blowin me off and not callin but he "liked me" so i guess he thought it was ok. so i left him a message on aim sayin to call me so we coudl talk about it .. yahh well he got the message but didnt call. so we stopped talkin for like 3 weeks .. like i was pissed. and he knew it but didnt try to make it better.

soo halloween night me him and my friend kev chels and jenn all hung out. i didnt know he was gonna be there or else i wouldn't have gone. but we ended up having so much fun and i laughed the whole time .. all the feelings i thought i was over .. came rushing back soo fast!!!


so we talked about it and we talked online the next day and he told me he liked me and everything. so 2 nights ago we hung out and went to funspot and all of us were in a guy named brody's truck. i was like practically sittin on top of him the whole like 1 and a half ride, and he had his arm around me and stuff.
- - but when we were driving home kevie (the other guy who was there) was like "so cod are you 2 like goin out now. and codys like no. and kev was like wait what. how come? and codys like you heard me .. i didnt stutter ..

i juss dont get him .. so we talked nd hes like i REALLY like you, i honestly do i juss dont want a girlfriend .. but he told kevin that he didnt even like me at all .. hes pissing me off b/c hes not even tellin me the truth .. and i just wanted an honest answer

Hey!
That sounds alot like what one of my friends is going through. She's been talking to this kid joe for a while..and she seriously likes him..he tells her that "they are going to go out soon" and its been a couple of months since he told her that and nothin has happened..she comes to class crying like every day and it really sucks..because i know she is hooked on him..she wants to just forget about him (if nothing is gonna happen) but then he reasures her that they will be a couple soon..so she holds on a little bit longer and gets more attatched.
You need to tell "cody" exactly how you feel. No girl should be played around with like this. Personally, i think you should forget about him. If he's this confusing now..imagine how hard hes going to be to deal with in a relationship.
There are so many better guys out there. You dont want one thats going to be telling you that he loves you..and then turning the corner and denying all his feelings for you to his friends. Thats just not right.
basically,
just do what YOU think is right
go with your gut feeling
pce :)

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