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I really need as much answers as possible.
To start off, I'm 16 Female and I have HIV. It got transmitted to me from my mom at birth, so it wasnt my fault what so ever!! So I've been dating this guy for a while now and I told him i have this HUGE secret, which i will tell him when im ready and in the beginning of our relationship, I tested the waters to see How he would handle the HIV situation. So I asked him, "what would you do if I had HIV?" and He replied "I'd still love you, and i would still have sex with you." So, I was SO relieved to hear that, I was happy that he would accept me and we'd still have a relationship without worry! And that was about 2 months ago!! Then last night I asked him Again what he'd do, and he replied "well, if we were getting married then yeah I would have sex with you, but if we werent getting married, then no i wouldnt have sex with you " SO i was SO upset! and said how low that was, because his answer was completetly different before, and i also told him that
"if he wouldnt accept me if i had HIV then he wouldnt accept my "secret" " because IT IS my Secret! but he doesnt know what my secret is. so then he said "well if it was some girl i didnt know and didnt love then no i wouldnt have sex with her but if it was you then I would." so I DONT KNOW WHAT I DO! should I tell him now and get it over with??!! Tell me answers!! HELP! and please dont say that i shouldnt have sex!! BECAUSE I DONT NEED THAT ANSWER!! I've made up my mind that i do want to have sex with him.
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Honesty should always be the best policy. This talk should have happened a while ago. Before even considering sex, shouldn't you ask one another if there are any stds on the plate? i understand why you were apprehensive at first. if you tell the guy you may loose him. Although, if he doesn't mind, he will have wondered why you waited so long to tell him this important information. He may even be hurt you didn't come forward in the beginning. HIV doesn't make you any different from who you are, and if he doesn't support you for who you are, than he doesn't deserve you. In the future i sugjest you be more honest with one another. He sounds like a nice guy that will understand your reasons for keeping this quiet for as long as you did, and I don't think he will love you any less. best of luck :)
Tianna Audra
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im 15/f
okay so i have a boyfriend, lets call him "Mark". We just started going out like couple weeks ago. The thing is that we were BEST friends before we started going out and now that we go out, I cant see him as my boyfriend... just a friend.
So, theres this guy, lets call him "Joe". Well, Joe likes me. He wanted to go out with me before Mark asked me out but I said I wanted to get to know him more. Well, now I've gotten to know Joe more and I really like him too.
I know if I break it off with Mark and go out with Joe, things will definitly not be the same as they were. But I really just cant see myself in a relationship with Mark.
So what should I do? Stick with Mark or go for Joe?
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if you really like "joe" then go out with him. talk to "mark" and tell him you can only see him as a friend and that you hope that this doesnt hurt the relationship you two had before you started going out in the first place, follow you heart, best of luck:)
Tianna Audra
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Could someone please give me some long distance relationship tips.. he'll be driving in 6 months.. if that helps any.. We love eachother and ahve been together twice and will see eachother in less than aweek.. but yea, idk the next time we will before he gets his licence and i may start dating him soon! please hlep! (link)
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well, you can talk to him on the phone when ever possible, and instant message each other, you could also get a web cam and micro phon so he can see you and talk to you over the computer. best of luck with the relationship :)
Tianna Audra
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My boyfriend and I are about to go to college together. We have been dating for almost a year and I just want to know how I can keep it together during college. BEcause I know there will be alot of temptation. (link)
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I think you should talk to him expressing how you are afraid you two may drift during colledge, he is most likely thinking the same thing. try your best to kepp in contact, such as the phone, email, etc. visit up when ever you can. although you two will find this hard because college is very demanding and takes up alot of your time. my cousin is in a local college and he boyfriend is a couple states out. she calls he every night at a certain time, that they set aside for them selves, the try and talk for a solid hour at the least before saying goodnight. i hope you two work out well :)
Tianna Audra
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When I was about 13, I decided that I never want to get married and I still feel this way and believe that I will always feel this way. I guess it does kind of reflect on my family because both my parents have been married multiple times but it isn't just because of that. It seems as if married means nothing anymore to most people (not all people, I know). So I don't know, people are always telling me that not all marriages end and that mine doesn't have to be all bad like my parents and I know that but I just dont see myself getting married. Does anyone else feel this is way or am I alone? Please don't tell me reason why marriage is so great and how if it's the right person it'll work because I've heard it all before. 17/f
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Ever since my best friend was 7 years old he vowed he would never marry cause girls were icky. he is now 17, loves girls, and is in a relationship with some one he considers really special, although all this has changed, one thing remains, he refuses to consider the thought of merredge. you are not alone, sure its a great experianse for some people to settle and get married, but that just isnt were your at at this time in life, and you may never want to get married, is not a bad thing, i suggest you do wat you want in life as long as you are happy. best of luck :)
Tianna Audra
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Okay here is the deal.I like this one guy.He likes me back too.I dont know if i should go out with him though because we have been best friends for 2 yrs.I am afraid this is going to hurt our friendship if we break up..What should i do?This is really hard on me.I luv him! (link)
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If you really care about him and love him, you should risk it. If you are having doubts about your friend ship lasting, simply tell him that no matter what happens In the future you would like to always remain friends. he Is probably thinking the exact same thing. I hope the friendship you two hold never come to an end :)
Tianna Audra
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i really like this guy and he seems to like me.. we are getting to the point were he we talk all the time and he leaves me comments sayin i love you and he always wants to hang out and when we do hang out we cant be seperated, were always holding hands and he holds me in his arms like he doesnt want me to go anywhere and he kisses me gently. the problem is he hasnt asked me out yet and i dont know why. and when he calls girls cute on myspace like he'll say "whats up cutie?" ill get really jealous and i dont know. i know i shouldnt be jealous cause were not exactly goin out. his cousin is like one of my best friends and she told me that she thinks he is a player. but he doesnt talk about any other girls in front of me and he holds my hand in front of them and everything. but i know that his cousin (my best friend) wouldnt lie. so what should i do.. should i ask him out..should i wait and see if he is waiting for the right moment? (link)
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I think you should talk to him, tell him what you are felling. You should also ask your friend (his cousin) how she would feel if you went out with him. She may feel awkward about the idea of you to going out. I can understand how you may be jealous about how he acts around other girls, but give it time. You don't want to scare him away. Simply sit him down and tell him your uncomfortable with how he acts around other girls. He may not notice how he is around them. As for his cousin (your friend) saying he is a player, she may be right, so don't rule out all of the possibilities. From what you say, it sounds like he really cares about you, so talking to him is the best thing to do, im sure he will understand. If he doesn't, maybe he isn't worth it, I hope every thing works out for the best :)
Tianna Audra
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