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I'm a 20 year old college student at the University of Miami, majoring in Child/Adolescent Psychology. I'm young, but have been through enough and have tons of advice and experience on almost any subject! What I'll give you is straight up advice... no sugar-coating... with alittle psych terminology thrown in for effect!

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hi im a 16(almost) year old female and i have a problem with a guy that i like, and i was possibly my first love. we used to be very veyr good friends like talk to each other every day and we were jsut really relaly close, then we started dating for about a month then i broke i t off becuase i was scared of ruining the friendship, well about 4 months later i realized i had very strong feelings for him and we dated again for a fairly long time and we broke up becuase of a really big missunderstanding. we still talked for a while then over time it faded away and now we hardly ever talk. the problem being...i sitll very much have feelings for him. he was such a huge part of my life we were so so close and im having trouble with him being gone from my life. we lost our virginity to each other abot a month before we broke up. sometimes when i see him at school i just get this feeling, like i want to be in his arms again but what i was wondering was is there anything i can do to make myself feel better or to get him talking to me or something agian?

Ok.. u owe it to yourself to try to reach out to him. If you don't, you'll regret it. But you have to prepare yourself for both reactions... either acceptance or rejection. The best thing to do in this case is to be honest with him about your feelings and see what he thinks or feels. No matter what his answer is.. you have to learn to accept it and if it's "i don't want to talk to you ever again" you have to grieve the relationship and move on. It will be hard.. but there is nothing else to do short of making urself look like a fool and run after him. If you guys were close friends you should be able to work it out.. however, speaking from experience here... best friends who get together most of the times does not work if you start out as best friends. It's the old saying.. friendship in love always.. love in friendship NEVER. So.. reach out to him and see what happens! Let me know back how things work!! I hope this helps. Have a good one and take care.

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Hey Everyone ! Ok ths is a good one, How come when your single you have the hardest time finding anyone to go out with. But as soon as you have a BF and become Attached Everyone in the world wants to date you. How many times has this happen to you guys? LOL its agravating. But I love my man so no huge complaints here. Have a great day everyone ! xoxoxoxooxoxoxox

It's called Murphy's Law.. whatever will happen will happen.. especially when you don't need it to happen. Luck of the draw sometimes... but its the "unattainable get" to guys. They know they can't have... so it's just animal instinct. Hope this helped!

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when u make out with sum1 does it just cum like naturally or do u have to kno how to kiss or wut? im just wondering because it seems like a lot of ppl it cums naturally too...so would that b the same for me?

Usually.. kissing comes naturally, but the more practice you get the more you become a pro at it. I'm sure u'll know what to do when the situation arises. Hope this helps.
Beav

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im 14, and have been with my b/f for about 5 months and today i ACCIDENTLY stuck my hand down the back of his pants. i meant to put my hand in his pocket but i missed! he told me not to be embarrassed but i still kind of am! am i overreacting?

Lol.. I'm sure he did not mind at all!! Really, it was a simple "oops" moment and if hes cool about it, then you should be too!

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I had a boyfriend and we were together for 9 months..we had sex and I don't think I was ready. I was one of those girls who wanted to stay a virgen until I was married...and now its gone....should I regret it? B/c I feel like I do, but I know there isn't anything I can do about it now...

First and foremost, DO NOT REGRET ANYTHING YOU DO! Ok now... your not a virgin anymore... don't dwell on that but you need to think about why you are regretting it. Remember, you can always not continue to have sex until you 100% ready. But you know what... there really is no specific time when you just say... "Up, IM READY!" But, I do think that you should be in love with the person, that way it means more than just the physical feeling. What this all boils down to is... never regret.. so you dont think you were ready... next time, stop yourself... or stop him, if you are not ready.

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There is a guy I like his name is PJ but Im not sure If he likes me.WE hang out together we share snacks we are both afraid to go off the highdive and we always want to sit next to eachother are we better off as friends or should I start flirting more??

Trying flirting alittle bit more and see what kind of reaction you get. If he flirts back... continue flirting and see where things go. If not, then back off and try being just his friend.

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ok how do u play hard to get? i want to learn how to play hard to get .. im a girl 14 help!

I'M THE QUEEN OF PLAYING HARD TO GET! Here's the secret... show very little of how you feel about them. My friends and I at college have this little understanding.. its "The Covenant"... the main idea of this is to remember... THE LESS EMOTION YOU SHOW... THE MORE HE WILL RUN AFTER YOU!!!!!! Guys are easy to mold.. and have easy minds to play with. Whatever you do, flirt, talk, etc. make sure that you don't take things too far emotionally and then keep your space.

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hello, i am a 23 year old female. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six and a half years. we have had our share of problems, but nothing really bad. i think that our biggest problem is communication. whenever we are involved in a heated discussion, i start crying and he gets mad. i'm a very emotional person and i can't help it. i tell him this all the time. however, sometimes he yells at me and says mean things to me. i have told him that he can't talk to me any kind of way. he never says disrespectful things, but i still feel disrespected by the way he says things. i think that this is something that we can work out if we could communicate better with each other. if i start to cry he gets angry and doesn't want to talk anymore. we recently had an argument, i got really upset and told him that i didn't want to be with him anymore. i didn't mean it and i would like to talk to him about it, but i'm afraid that if i call him, he might make me feel like he doesn't care or doesn't want to talk about it. he has been a major part of my life. he has been there for me through so much. i love him and i know that he love me. what should i do? a part of me feels like if i give it too much time he might not want to be with me. another part of me feels that he needs time to see what he is missing. i'm so confused about what to do.

Dear confused about what to do,

I have been there, and done that. Everyone knows that communication is key.. but if he cannot deal with you being emotional, which by the way every girl is, then he is NOT strong enough to be your man. There is obviously some strong feelings there, and first you need to identify what those are.. and then take it from there. Remember, "never a truer word were said in jest"... if you didn't mean it, call him and ask to talk to him about it... if deep down you did mean it... I think it's time to lay this one to rest. I hope this helps.

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