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I'm 16 years old and I'm a Christian. I love to give advice and help people. I'm definitely not perfect and sometimes i need advice as well. I'm a Cheerleader at my high school and my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. He recently graduated and moved to Florida :-(. Well, that's a little bit of info about me! Feel free to ask me any questions!

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okay well my boyfriend and i just like started dating or whtever.And like when he asked me out and everything i really really liked him.. well after like a couple of days i kinda had a weird feeling and like i didnt really like him anymore.. so i asked a couple of people what they thought about us and like if i should break up with him, cuz like i was ignoring his calls and i really didnt want to talk to him.. well like after a while i was gonna tell him that i just wanted us to be friends.. and so i waited for his call, and waited and waited.. well he never ever called and like i tried calling but no one answered.. well like now i realy do like him i guess i was just scared i would get hurt so i was pushing him away..well i duont know whats wrong, i dont know if hes mad at me and like he hasnt called in like 3 weeks and theres no other way i could talk to him.. so what should i do and is he mad at me... i am soo sooo confused.. please help me i really like him... and i dont want to lose him and he wont answer his phone so i dunno.. thnks soo soo srry for the length.. **hearts**

Well if he hasnt called in three weeks and you havent been able to get a hold of him, I would say he's not mad at you. Try getting a hold of his friends and asking them about him and what he's been up to. I don't know how else you would try talking to him, and if you don't then I wouldn't worry too much about it. If he hasn't taken the time to call you and talk to you then I would say it's his loss and you should find someone else. I don't know what to tell you accept boys are dumb! lol, I hope things get better!

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Okay i'm 15 f and I have been going out with this guy (braiden 15m) on and off for about 3 years, and i really like him alot, but recently school started and there were alot of my old friends and peers that got really hot, and last night i was talking to one(kile 14m) on the phone and we were talking about our days and he was like i only saw like 3 hot chicks and i was like one is me cause i'm soo damn cute and he was like well yeah... and i was like Braiden is your bestfriend and he was like well the rest of his friends LIKE you too and i was like wtf do you mean and he was like nevermind... and I'm really confused because i really like braiden, but I also kinda like kile and i dont know what to do... Sorry so long, i rate high...

You should probably stay with Braiden. If you really do like him then you shouldn't be worrying about his friend liking you. If you did hook up with Kile then that might cause some problems between you and Braiden and if you've been dating on and off for 3 years then im assuming you'd want to still be friends with him even if things never did work out between you two. If I were you I wouldn't do anything about his friends. I would do my best to ignore it and let that blow over. hope things work out!

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ok.. here we go.. I am totally in LOVE with my ex boyfriend.. the only reason we broke up is because he went back home (to minnasota from newjersey) he's comming back durring the winter varation. I miss him so much! but i like this other guy who's about to ask me out.. but the thing is idk if i'm ready to stop thinking about my ex right now. but i don't wanna ruin my chances with this new guys.. wat do i do? PLEASE help!

I think you should call it quits on boys right now. When things get complicated and you try to do something about it to make things better, it usually makes even more drama and nothing ends up working out. Stay friends with both of them and just see where you end up later on.

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Theres this guy that I have been friends with forever and he has always liked me. The other night we were in his room and we kissed but it was just a peck. I didn't even like him and now after that I am starting to like him. Theres only one problem. He's a really mature and great guy and hes my type exactly and I think he'd make a terrific boyfriend except for my mom thinks hes too young for me. I'm 14 and he's 12. I promise you, I think he's more mature than me, hes definatly more experienced he already lost his virginity. I'd have to keep this relationship from my parents. I really want to date him because personality wise, he's great. Looks wise, he needs to have a growth spurt. He will soon. Should I wait a few years till he does? And then my parents might let me, or should I sneak it and date him now and take the risk of humiliation? I really am liking him and I don't want to wait! But I think it might be best...I need opinions!

I think what you need to do is sit back from this situation and look at it in a wider perspective. If you and this boy have been good friends forever then maybe you should consider jut staying that way. There's nothing wrong with just being friend with him and it would probaly be better that way. If he's only 12 and already lost his virginity, maybe you should think about the pressure that might bring on you. In a relationship it shouldnt matter who is more experienced than who. I think that its wonderful that you are into this guy for his personality, but if the odds are against you guys and you would have to sneak around to date him, maybe you should wait till you're both a little older. Maybe wait until you're both in highschool when the age difference isnt really a big deal. If you guys are really as good of friends as you let on then he will still be there for you in the years to come so don't worry about missing your chance. I hope I helped!
-Stefiny

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I really need some advice.
I am a 15/F ....I have gone out with this one guy about 5 or 6 times (we arent datiing just hooking up). We were introduced by a friend (he's 16) and is (or seems) like a really good guy. My parents are away for the whole weekend and my sister is going to be out tomorrow night and I think this guy is coming over. We have hooked up.. but nothing more then that. I am kind of concerned that something is going to happen that I don't want to happen (i am a virgin). I don't know If i'm just overly worried or what. do u think its a bad idea for him to come over considering the circumstances? Is it suggesting that I want something more then just hooking up? Please give me your advice. Especially the boys here. Thanks.

I do think it might be a bad idea if he comes over. He might get the wrong idea about you having the house to yourself and inviting him over. boys are very horny... I think that because you are a virgin you need to be comfident in that. If you still want him to come over to hang out I think thats fine (just don't get caught!lol) but if he tries something with you sexually that you dont think is a good idea then say no. make sure he DOES NOT PRESSURE YOU. If you feel like things might get a little awkward then plan ahead and think of an action movie or comedy movie that you can watch together, or have other friends come over as well so you're not alone together. If i were you I would wait a while longer before considering sex with anyone and make sure it's someone very special that you've gone out with more than 5 or 6 times. This could also be a great opportunity to find out who this guy really is and if hes someone you really want to start dating.
16/f -stefiny
g-luck!

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i have liked this guy 4 a year now and the other day he told me how he truely feels about me and then i did the same. and today i asked him if he would every consider havin a realtionship with me and he said ya for shu every body deseves a chance as long as you mean tha lovin part, and am just lookin for a girl tha i can stay with for a long time. and i dont know what to say more to get him to ask me out! he gave me a kiss today and i did the same back but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me and tell me what to tell him more? plz and thank you.

I think what you should do is just wait things out and see how they go. keep hanging out with him and get to him the 'real him'. be yourself around him and show him the 'real you'. if you are ment to be together you will just know. don't worry so much about him asking you out because I think that's so overreated. My boyfriend and I never really did that whole asking out thing. We liked each other and that was enough. We acted like we were dating and hung out all the time and kissed and did all the boyfriend/girlfriend things. I think that the name or title of a boyfriend/girlfriend it just pressure, thats all it is. It's just a name and a relationship shouldn't be based on that, it should be based on how you truly feel about each other. JUST BE PATIENT AND ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH HIM!
-stefiny

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