Hello everyone! My name is Lisa, I'm 15. I'm a freshman and I go to public school. I love to sing, read, watch tv, and I'm a big fan of Harry Potter. Most of my freinds come to me for advice because they know that they can depend on me and just because I am young does not mean I cant answer questions from older people who seek advice so please ask away!
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im just rele... not in a good mood. im pretty upset and i need some1 to talk to. i just feel like shit and like i shouldnt be. my whole problem is i wear my heart on my sleeve and ive already tried to cut it off but that didnt work. i just fall for people way to easy and then they never like me for anything than just a friend. tonight i went to a play to watch the girl i liek perform cuz lastngiht she invited me and i decided i would come again. well lastnight i couldnt ifnd her and tonight i told her after the play to come find me and i would be sitting where i was before. well i waited for 5 minuites then found one of my other frineds and talked to her until she helped me find the other girl. she was talking to and upperclassmen (btw, im a freshman and the girl i liek is a freshman) and it really hurt me inside to see her with him cuse it is obvious tht she probubly likes him and he probubly likes her only for her body. im tryin to hold back tears while writing this cuz my mom is downstairs and if i cry she knows something is wrong. this spring break has completely sucked for me. ive already thought of giving up on everything. i just feel so unloved and its got me depressed and its slowly killing me. (link)
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Dear Reader,
I know how it is, trust me, I do too but I try not to.
When you meet a girl, dont automatically say, "oh i like her," or dont like her because she's cute or something. Go deeper then that. Get to know her, talk to her be her FRIEND first. Just be a friend first before you do anything else. If you then like her for who she is after you've gotten to know her, then starting to like her is alright then because you know that underneath the prettyness she has personality. Don't take girls liking other guys too seriously, I know it hurts, trust me, Iknow, but try not to. If you do everytime it'll get you more and more depressed. I'm a freshman if it helps and I know how it is. You seem like a great guy and if you wait until maybe your sophmore year you'll find that girls change over the summer and its like they're new again. Give it time. I think with all the heartache that you're going through you just need a break. You seem really nice and really caring if you went to her preformance. The guy friend I'm intrested in didnt even do that for me, so you seem really cool.
Give it time, give yourself room, and you'll find someone. good luck, let me know how things go and i hope i helped.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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SO this dude i like says he likes me i say i like him back he asks me do i want to go with him i say yea i ask him do he want to go with me he says i dont know you seem like you are crazy ive been knowin this dude for like 3 months!!!! i really cant understand him ??? i need help
Last friday he literally stalked me to find out if i liked him or not and when ever i try to talk to him about US he says somthing like i dont know you i need to get to know you first i really dont know what else to do i really like him alot!!!!! (link)
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Dear Reader,
You should really get to know him, just because you've met him three months ago doesnt mean you know him, like, know know him. Do you know his birthday? Favorite color? Favorite band? I'm going through the same thing right now, and my guy took me to a dance. All you can do is talk to him more, be yourself and if he says he wants to get to know you, it means that he likes you and he wants to know who you really are inside. Why not just call him and have a talk with him, a talk aobut anything. Just to know him more then you do now. I hope this helped. Good luck and let me know how things go.
Sincerly,
lisa
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im going out with this guy for like 3 weeks now.i liked him like in the begining of the school year. sow now that were going out he tell me he loves me and stuff how can do i no if 2 believe him?? (link)
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Dear Reader,
If he says he loves you and you dont really believe him, then dont say "i love you" back because then you would be lying to him. Wait it out for a week or so and if he keeps saying I love you, maybe he means it. But really, the best thing to do is tell him that its too fast and to take it a bit slower if thats what you think. Hope this helped. Good luck and let me know how things go.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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22/f
I was just wondering if anyone can reccommend me some good Erotic novels that my boyfriend and I can read to each other. Thanks! (link)
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Dear Reader,
The Skyscraper by.. ohgosh, her name slips my head. I think its like.. stephanie something. Search it up on google.
You could always try Borders in the mature section of it.
I hope this helped.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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I am 15, and I'll be 16 in a couple of months. I have a boyfriend who is 18. All of my life, I have been around older people. I just don't really relate to many people that's the same age with me, and all of my male friends are older than 17.
Well, my parents don't really want me and my boyfriend to go anywhere together because they think he's too old for me. They're old-fashioned, and age is a big thing to them. My boyfriend is really respectful and everything. You would think that being their daughter, (and the only child in the house) my parents would know me, but they really don't. They don't know me as a person. It makes me mad that they're trying to say what's best for me when they don't even know me. It would break my heart to have our relationship be ruined because my parents simply don't know me. Is there anything I can say to them? I'm really confused on this one.
Thanks. (link)
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Dear Reader,
Welcome to my world, at least your allowed to date, I'mnot allowed until Im done college. And I'm 15.
Anyways, how about you invite your boyfriend over for a dinner so that your parents get to meet him and talk to him and see how he's like? Usually that would gain trust from the rents to meet the boyfriend if they havent already.
Tell them that you're getting older now and that with their strict rules and fair punishments, that they raised a headstrong daughter that cant grow up because her parents are holding her back.
I hope this helped, good luck, and let me know how things turn out!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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My boyfriend kissed another girl. What should I do?
It wasn't a french kiss and it was on the lips.
The thing is, my friend saw this. He was at karate with one of his classmates.
And I think my friend isn't lying because she told me the ADDRESS of the building and the time he was there. I know the karate place and I know what time he goes. And my friend doesn't go to his school so it's not like they talk about what time he goes there and where. We all hung out like 2 times [movies] so no conversation, basically.
My boyfriend didn't tell me anything though..
So i'm not sure how to go about this..
My friend isn't known to be a liar. But I don't know about my boyfriend. :/
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Dear Reader,
I would definitly trust the friend but just to make sure confront HIM about it. But dont make it so its like you were spying on him or anything. Bring it up in a way thats like... subtile. If you even need to, I know this sounds wrong, but if you really need to, take him on a guilt trip. Try to get him to tell you before you mention it.
Give it a day or two, and if he doesnt say anything, the guilt inside will eat him alive.
Well, how well do you know your boyfriend? How long have you been with him? I think you should definitly talk to him.
Sincerly,
Lisa
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I guess I probably just need someone to tell me I'm being an idiot for this, but I'm really pissed off right now.
19/F.
I've been living with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We're both university students. We've become really close over the time we've been dating, so it's not just a casual relationship.
Today is our six month anniversary. I wanted to do something really nice for him, because he's been really good to me. I told him about my plans, and he okayed them. I wanted to have a nice romantic evening and cook dinner for him.
He was at military training this weekend (for the reserves) and he got back about an hour ago.
He brought his brother with him. He knows I don't really like his brother at the best of times. He doesn't know when to back off and leave the two of us alone. He's loud and irritating, and he's obsessed with a certain children's card game (even though he's 20 years old).
This brother of his is staying all night. Instead of the nice dinner I had planned, we're either ordering pizza or having tacos, then they're playing video games.
I'm really hurt, because this anniversary really means a lot to me. He doesn't seem to see what the problem is (because I have a math test to study for).
Am I silly for being hurt? If I am, feel free to tell me. I really suspect that I am, and it would help if someone gave me a figurative slap across the face. If I'm not, I'll bring it up with him later tonight.
Thank you! (link)
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Dear Reader,
Oh yeah, I'd be upset to, acutally, I proably would have started to freak out then and there on the spot. Talk to him about it all and try to plan another day where it's just the two of you. Good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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~13/f~ im the kind of gothic rough girl and hes the kind of preppy nice guy.Im not sure how I like my friend bff or bf. Weve been really close friends for a long time then it started going to bffs. because I tell him more than my other bffs and he tells me a lot and were always there for each other. But then we flirt so much. people think or say were dating or should but were not. He knows I liked him I know he liked me but I have no idea now. I went to a paintball party. We both go paint balling a lot then at the party my team was my 5 bffs 3 of their bfs and him. we flirt so much that’s what im so confused about. He was showing off and when we separated he was looking for me and worried? hes just really to nice. Is that what it should be like. But now hes been wearin a lot of black and deppressed. Does that mean something. But then we do joke or do shoot each other on purpose. And my other bff and her bf broke up that night so I went with her. So he knew so he went to get him(the guy she broke up with). Then we went around me my bff(my ?bff or bf? As in him) and my other bff (she just broke up). he was talking to her about something ‘top secret’. later on she started truth or dare. I kept doing truths I was just to nervous. I knew it was a setup. He asked truth to me if id ever take a dare. Then my bff asked truth to me if I liked him then truth to him if he liked me we both said no. I regret it. Everyone already knew anyway but im just not sure if I like him bf or bff? And ive never kissed or been kissed. That’s what it was supposed to be…us kissing. I thought wed start taking it longer than just a ‘dare’ kiss like making out or something. I like him as a bf then bff then bf then bff I just am not sure whats wrong. Hes all I think and write about.
i really need help soon. we tell each other a lot of stuff and we both knew or thought before the party that we liked each other.
Do I like him as a boyfriend(bf) or best friend(bff). How do you think he likes me? What should we do? How do you kiss? How could i tell my mom?
How can I change what happened? What else should I do? i really lied i love him at times but then at times its just friends but mainly i love him but we both deny it when theres alot of people. is that love were too flirty. (link)
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Dear Reader,
You can't change what's happened, you can only change the future.I think that you need to talk to him, and stop beating around the bushes. If he's starting to wear black, and starting to be depressed, he's probably trying to make himself seem more like gothic, so you'll notice it. You need to tell him the truth, I think he likes you but b/c you told your friend that you didnt like him, he didnt want to be the dork and be like, "yes i like her" cuz, that's just stupid. Kissingg... well, tilt your head to a side, close your eyes, and thats all i can say about that. And to tell your mom, just tell her. Be direct. there's nothing else that you can do. Most importantly, TALK TO HIM as soon as possible. Good luck with everything and let me know how things turn out. hope that helped!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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I am in a odd relationship. the two of us (im m/16) and she (f/17) mutually like eachother. she keeps telling me she wants to cuddle. usually i am busy or out at night, and she calls and says how she just wants to cuddle. I have never had sex with her and not 100% sure on what she is asking. some advice on what to respond to her with, and what to actually do would be great. much obliged (link)
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Dear Not-sure-wether-to-cuddle-or-not,
I'm a girl to start off, and usually when a girl wants to "cuddle" she just wants to talk and be around you. By her definition of "cuddle" its just holding hands, sitting closly while watching a movie, you know, cuddling, in all senses of the word. I doubt she wants sex, cuz usually girls arent like that. If you dont feel comftorable and you still think she might be referring to sex, call her and ask her what she means by "cuddling" but be sure to ask in a subtile way or she might think that you're a dirty thinker. I hope this helped, good luck and keep me updated!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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Ok There is this guy and i have liked him for a while.. Well i wont go out with him because part of me doesnt want to.. But i just told him we can be friends with benefits..i totally regret saying that and i need your opinion!!!! (link)
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Dear Reader,
Why do you regret saying "friends with benefits"? Does he know that you like him? And does he like you back? I think that you need to talk to him and straighten things out. I hope this helped, good luck and keep me updated!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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So I went to a dance as a date with this guy (we'll call him Bob) a few months back. I said I liked him and he said he liked me but he liked another girl more. I was pissed but I'm over it now and don't like him anymore. But when I needed a date to my junior prom I asked him. It's in a few weeks and I really need to talk to him about things. But his junior prom was this weekend and he went with another girl, and I'm kind of worried he might have liked her--my feelings for him are coming back. We haven't hung out since January...so...
Should I ask him to hang out with a bunch of friends to catch up or what? I really need to talk to him about prom but he rarely picks up his cell and it's so annoying talking on AIM or text...you can't get your point across right. Thanks. (link)
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Dear Junior,
I think its best if you tried talking to him one on one without the pressure of other people around you. And it seems to me that you could be somewhat jealous that he may like another girl, now, I'm not accusing you of being jealous but could it be a possibilty? And as for his date to his junior prom, I think it's just a friend. If you arent comfortable talking to him one on one, a group of friends help, but make sure its not over 3 other friends, otherwise I dont think you'll get much talking done. I hope that helps and keep me updated!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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i really really like this guy, we broke up a few months ago and we've been hanging out occasionally recently because his best friend is dating my best friend. my friends say that when we hang out there is alot of a sexual tension between us. the first time we hung out after our break up was 2 weeks ago and we made out a lottttt. He's kind of a man whore and has realized it recently and says it's a bad thing. He's been acting differently lately and not flirting as much, what does this mean? should i start talking to him more? we're still friends and we still kinda flirt but idk what to do. HELP. (link)
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Dear Reader,
Well, sit him down and talk to him. I dont know how there can be sexual tension when you guys are making out. Shouldnt sexual tension be you want to make out but you dont and you're awkward about it? But uhm, thats besides my point, my point is, talk to him you'll never know what he's thinking for sure if you dont talk to him! Let me know how things turn out, good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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Basically I have begun to really really like my guy friend. I am 13/f. He has gone out with 3 of my girl friends but they always dumped him because they stopped liking him. I have liked him for months now and seriously think about him 24/7. We flirt alot and I was wonderring if you have any ideas on how to tell if he likes me other than just asking him. These are things that he does that make me think he does like me:
I catch him staring sometimes and when I do he'll smile back and stick out his toungue (i know childish)
I am of mixed race and when people bug me about it and call me names he'll defend me and get them to stop
Sometimes he'll trip me for no reason
He always says hi to me in the hall
When we talk we have total eye contact (never wavers)
When we talk we'll usually end up shoving eachother and touching eachother
When he says something mean (even if it was a joke) he'll say sorry afterwards
If he's talking to the guys and I walk into the con he'll acknoledge me immediatly
he shows concern when im upset and kind of demands a reason why and such
Sometimes he'll put his arm around me for no reason
Reasons I think he doesnt:
He flirts with my friend who dumped him last year
If people say we look like a couple he'll suddenly run away
If people say were flirting he'll yell something like "Stop Flirting With Me" or "AAH Shes trying to Rape Me"
We walk to our buses together and whenever he approaches his he'll see the guys then run away screaming
He says rude coments when people say "we should just go out" such as "Oh ya like Shes sooo wanted" in a mean sarcastic tone
I have no idea if hes just being a good friend or maybe likes me! Any signs? How could I find out? (link)
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Dear Confused,
Well, I was going to tell you to make a pro's and con's list but I see you already did that. I think some of your cons are ways of him flirting with you, like.
"If people say were flirting he'll yell something like "Stop Flirting With Me" or "AAH Shes trying to Rape Me""
that is a sign of flirting. And also, you guys are only 13, trust me, boys will be boys.
And us being mature young ladies with handel it in a mature way, like posting your problem so other females can help you out. I think he likes you if that helps. I REALLY think he likes you, shoot if I knew you and I see the way you guys are talking, you really are, more or less going out.
Ask him if he likes you, dont just sit there and wonder. ANd if he likes you, then talk it over with your friends and get the okay from them to go out with him, that is if you want to.
I hope i helped. let me know how things turn out. good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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i no you probably see 395839 of these questions a day but i need some helpp.
i really really like this guy and we have like 2 classes together. he recently just started coming over after school. well like 2wice. but my other friends are there. he acts like hes just a friend but i try flirting every way possible and idk if its working. my friends suck becuase they always cough when were together or theyre like *look at the love birds* and he doesnt even no i like him. i dont think. fhaipfadh i relle am soo confised because hes a sophmore and im a freshman and hes always like wow you freshman are gayy blah blah blahh...and he sits behind me in one class and is always playing with my chair ..kicking it.. and just like talking to me. welll anyways if your still reasing thiss HELPP because i dont no waht to do...what should i dooo!!?!?
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Dear Reader,
Well, I'm a freshman myself and let me tell you. ALL upperclassmen talk crap about freshman, its kinda a tradition in lack of a better term. If he likes you, he will show it over time. In the mean time, keep flirting with him, talk to him, get to know him. Maybe invite him over one day afterschool WITHOUT your friends to see what he's really like. Good luck and let me know how things go!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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This is sort of complicated but i really need help because it's driving me insane.
background:
I'm a senior in high school, 17 years old/girl. Anyway, there is this sophomore who was apparently 'madly in love' with me at the start of the year. A random fact was that even his mom knew and ended up telling my friend this... he told me this too but i didnt really believe him. I mean, i liked him a lot too, but insecurity has always been an issue with me.
But during the month of coronation, he ended up going to coronation with his ex-crush and they started going out afterwards. And it hurt. i mean, before he was telling me all these reasons why he liked me and how he really loved me. But he has issues with insecurity too and he bends under peer pressure really easily; his friends and older brother all told him to go out with her instead since she was in his grade too and in his band thus less social repercussions.
The way it should be, it should be really easy to get over him, but i still cant. I mean i have some crushes on my friends in my grade, but i still have feelings for him. And he acts like he still really likes me, even though he has a girlfriend and does stuff with her. He tells me everything and acts like we're close, but its not the same anymore, if that makes sense.
So my question for this is how to get over him? I mean i tried, i've been ignoring him for a few days now since i've been so frustrated especially when he admitted to me that he almost had sex with his g/f. It's like.. are you trying to see how far you can hurt me? Towards the end of our little 'romance', he was telling me to get a boyfriend so he wouldnt feel guilty about 'ditching me'. it was like ouch thanks for trying to get rid of me. but yeah, please give me advice how to get over him!! please and thank you (link)
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Dear Senior,
I had the same problem too. I used to like this guy and basically in the end I didnt go out with him, one of my friends did. And all I can tell you is, you can't go cold-turkey and totally shun him. That hurts even more then talking to him. I would still talk to him, keep in contact, and eventually you'll find someone else and you'll get over him slowly. It'll hurt, I'll tell you that much, but it'll be worth the hurt when you're over him. I hope this helped. Good luck and let me know how things turn out!
Sincerly,
Lisa
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I have a really good guy friend who's name is Patrick. We've been friends for like 2 months. He goes to my school and he's in my Science class. I added him onto myspace, and then I asked for his screenname. When I signed onto AIM, I IM'ed him and we talked for 4 hours straight non-stop. I talk to him every [school] day in person, and I IM him on AIM. We talk for a minimium of 2 hours. BTW, he's obsessed with Motion City Soundtrack. This was our conversation on AIM last night:
Patrick: So are you gonna get me anything for xmas lol
Me: Maybe, what do you want?
Me: It has to be 30 dollars or less maybe like a Motion City Soundtrack hoodie or something
Patrick: Those are like 50 dollars though
Me: Oh okay. *finds a shirt on hottopic.com* [I found a MCS shirt with the bear on it that says motion city soundtrack] Do you like this one?
Patrick: Hellz yea but you don't have to buy it for me I just want a paper hat
Patrick: whats the catch?
Me: What catch? There is no catch it's just a simple gift from me to you.
Patrick: There has to be a catch. The first guy said theres no catch but then he told me to bend down and squeel
Me: LMFAO!!!!!!! There is no catch though
Me: Patrick I'm not getting you a paper hat.
Patrick: YEAH YOU ARE
Me: NO.
Me: It's not a big deal I have money saved up from babysitting and from my relatives [I have money saved up for the trip that I'm taking to Argentina so I can buy stuff over there]. I have like 160 bucks saved up.
Patrick: 160?! DAMN!
Me: LOL. Yeah.
Patrick: But why would you wanna spend it on me? I don't deserve it.. [he made fun of this poserish girl who I despise strongly] I'm selfish.
Me: Patrick no you're not.
Me: I'm buying it for you
Patrick: Fine
Patrick: But seriously, thanks
Patrick: My dad is really cheap and my mom is low on money I never get anything new anymore
Me: Yeah it's no problem Patrick
His dad had to have a heart transplant so they had to pay for surgery [their insurance isnt that great] and they have to pay for his medications and on top of that, his dad is really cheap and won't spend money on anything, but he'll spend money for new things for his car.
Patrick's friend says she thinks that Patrick likes me because he says that we're really really good friends and he always brings up our conversations and actually remembers them.
I think that he might like me.
What do you guys think?
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Dear Reader,
Do I have to put a mistletoe above the two of you!?!?!? HE LIKES YOU!! *happy squeel* So now that we established that, if you talk to him this much and everything, I have no doubt in my mind that he doesnt like you. But now, do you like him back!?! And if you dont know, then ask yourself "does he make me happy? Do i enjoy being around him?" Then the answer is most likily yes. If he doesnt have a girlfriend, most definitly flirt around with him. Good luck and let me know how things turn out!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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Ill cut it short.
I love him.
We dont talk anymore , we used to be really good friends.
We had sex and all that stuff .
He has a girlfriend, they have a horrible relationship.
He stares at me at lunch.
Why why why?
ps, we dont talk alot anymore becuase we dont live as close anymore and a few other reasons. (link)
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Dear Reader,
Well, were you guys "really good friends" or more then that? Because you guys did have sex and all. But I'm not here to ask questions, I'm here to give you an answer. Why not call him? Or IM him? Or Email him? Or heck, even snail mail him? If you love him, it doesnt matter how far he is, you would do everything in your power to try to talk to him. He probably stares at you because he probably still likes you, and he's probably wishing that his current girlfriend was you instead. Try talking to him. Good luck! And let me know how things go!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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I'm 13/f
One of my guy/friends asked me out today, and my friend put me under a lot of presure of what tosay, so I said I'd think about it. He smiled and went on about his buisness. Then like, 10 seconds after the last bell rang one of my friends told him I'd said yes, but I hadn't.
Then at 4:59(sry 'bout that, I do that all the time) one of my other guy/friends who had him over called and asked me what I was gonna say because he wanted to know. As I said earlier, I hate being under so much as the tiniest bit of pressure, and I said "I guess." Know, I wish I could go back in time or kill myself. I don't like him, I like another guy, I don't totally trust him, and my mom said I couldn't have a boyfriend until I was 16. So now, I am disobaying my mother(whom I love very much and hate disobaying) gong against my scences, betraying myself( since I like someone else), killing myself from so much pressure, guilt, and worry, afraid I'll hurt him, might loos a friend, and wishing I could kill myself. HOW HORRIBLE!!!! HOw would I break up with him without hurting him or lossing his friendship??? (link)
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Dear Under Pressure,
Well first off you need to go tell your "friends" how you feel and that they really need to mind their own business. Secondly, you need to go tell your "boyfriend" the truth because it seems unfair that he's getting the short end of the stick. THEN, you need to stay single and straighten everything out. THen after that's done, take a nice bubble bath to wash away your worries. You need to tell your "boyfriend" and your "friends" to mind their own business. "Under Pressure by your peers (in this case your "friends")" is known as PEER PRESSURE. You have to learn how to deal with it because by your age, i'm guessing your either in 7th or 8th grade. You really have to deal with it BECAUSE once you get into high school and later on in the school year you're really going to go nuts if you dont deal with the problem NOW. Some ways I got over this was to not worry about the tinest things. Like if I didnt have one homework assignment done, I would say, well okay I'll just get done what i can finish before that class. You already made the mistake, so why dwell on it? Move FORWARD, talk to ur "friends and boyfriend" and tell them everything. And as for the guy you actually like, give it a month or so, maybe after the holidays, and then start making your move on him. Or else people are going to start calling you names that arent so great. Also, THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. if you say the wrong thing, your friends arent effected by it. YOU ARE. And if you ever feel pressured, tell them to back off. If you are mad at your friends right now, you have every right to be! So let me know how it goes! Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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right i talked to the guy one on one and now a big group of people are bullying her iv alreary kicked the shit out of 5 of them but theres about 20 what should i do now:(? (link)
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Dear Reader,
Well, I'm glad you beat them up! But seriously, try finding out WHY she's getting bullied in the first place. Go talk to the guys that started it or whoever and ask why, go sit your girlfriend down and also ask her why, and when did it start. There's no reason for a bunch of random people to start picking on someone without a good reason. (did that make sense?) serously, go talk to them. and then if things dont get better, then perhaps you should tell the teacher or something. I know it's like the corniest move ever, but really, i dont want you or your girlfriend to get serverly hurt or in alot of trouble. So really, be a man, and
a) talk it out
and if that doenst work
b) go tell a teacher.
Let me know how things work out. :) Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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My best friend's brother just got out of a four year relationship on Friday. He immediatley jetted off with his buds for the weekend to clear his head because -she- dumped him.
I've been friends with his sister for about four years too and I've been attracted to him but I've told myself to leave it alone because he seemed so happy with his girl friend.
Now he's alone for the first time and I was wondering whether it was a good idea if I gave him a go? He's a genuinely nice guy and he's a girls dream because he's so sweet and dedicated.
One problem is his sister. She shares all her feelings about him with me (i.e. she was mad at him because he was a tight a-- or she was sick of him and she wanted him to move out) and she loves him but would it be too weird for her if we hooked up.
Secondly, I need to actually figure out if he's interested or not but I can't because I've treated him as a brother. I've never actually made a transition from friend to something else before. Usually, men are either platonic friends or hot male friends I want to get with, never both. So how can I start changing the way act around him without freaking his entire family out?
I don't want to approach the sister and ask for her permission if I don't even know if he's interested because she likes to hold on to things. At the same time, I don't want to get him interested and then have to ask her in case she rejects the idea of him and me.
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Dear Reader,
Wow, quite a situation right there. If your best friend is really your best friend then she'd want yout to be happy. Talk to her about it and let her know how you feel. Second, signs of himliking you is when he's constantly smiling, or offering to do things, or if he's flirting back and stuff. And don't act strange, be yourself. Because if you change urself just so he'll be attracted to you, then they'd think that ur weird. Which you dont seem to be. Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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