Hey. I'm Seshlover.
I'm a completely dreamy/doesn't-know-what's-going-on girl who lives in her own head.
My life is way too busy, but I think I like it that way.
Nothing ever remains constant so I don't really know what to type here. I guess I will just tell you what I thought to seconds ago, lol: The only thing that has remained constant thru my life until today is that I am straight (but definitely NOT homophobic, I LOVE ANYTHING YAOI!!)..... And so utterly straight that if I were a guy, I would be gay!
I fell in love with this guy when I was 13 and am still in love, now this may have been 2 months ago or 7 years ago, or actually anywhere in the between, lol~ I don't know if I will ever get over him.
I write Romance stories and I am a part time Autuor under pseudonym
I am here to help anyone and everyone so please do not hesitate to ask me anything!
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ok im a 17 female and hes going to be 18 male. well he ses he is a virgin and promises and swears. i am a virgin. weve been together for almost 11 months. and oh my gosh i want him so bad...physically. we havent done anything sexual except like feeling eachother but over clothes like he will squeeze or touch my boobs my butt or my front area. ive touched everything on him except his front area. cause he gets tickelish when i put my hands down there. and hes scared that ill give him a boner or something cause were never like completely alone. which sucks! cause i really want to have sex already i think im ready to give myself to him! in everyway. im super comfortable with him. but like i just said were never like completely alone. well like he will grab me in places or touch me then when i go back to do it to his private area. he gets all giggly and shy and kinda pushes me away saying hes tickelish. well i mean i understand that cause so am i. but what do i do to get us more into the physical stuff. and im pretty sure hes a virgin i dont think hes lying to me. cause little things he does or says sounds so inexperienced. like he grabbed my boobs and asked why they felt like that and he didnt know boobs felt like that. idk i cant explain it. but i can just tell. well anyways how can i get us both way more super comfortable touching/rubbing/grabbing eachother in areas?! im searching for an apartment/house for us to move into once we get of age and first he told me why are you looking at 2 bedroom houses and now hes telling me too. idk if thats his way of saying just for more room or if he wants to have seperate rooms. i dont understand what can i do to make our relationship more interesting and fun with us getting more comfortable with eachothers bodies. and living together..we have spent the night together before and slept in the same bed if that helps anything but my babybrother was sleeping in the middle of us then on the side of one. and he always gives him more attention then he does to me whenever he is around. so someone please help me! (link)
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From what you say,I'm sure he is a Virgin 2. And if you are ready to give yourself to him then no one should come in your way. You can not always never be alone so I suggest you start mentally preparing yourself for that day.
And you must ask him straightout : 'I want to touch you, let me touch you'. Once you've done it once or twice and get the basics like how to pleasure him the way he wants to be pleasured.
Just ask him straightout, don't beat around the bush.
Also ask him if he wants more space in the house you're looking for.Thats the simplest way. Just say, " so baby, do you prefer a 3 bedroom, I am sure i'll be able to find one you like" or something like that.
And maybe he doesn't want to act sexual around your brother, I would have done it to, just to not arouse curiousity from your brother or akwardness between you 2.
Say whatever is troubling you! Talking does more good than keeping it all inside.
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I have been with my husband for 12 years now. We've had some really great times but I've come to realize that he is more like a brother or a best friend to me. We aren't intimate much and we both seem to be satisfied with that. I don't feel any closeness between us that would indicate to me that our relationship was closer than brother/sister. I'm confused and am not sure what I should do? My feelings are strange and I'm beginning to worry about many things. I wonder if he still loves me and if he feels the same way about our relationship as I am beginning to. What do you think should go on? I don't have any idea on how to confront him about this situation. Should I consider divorce? (link)
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If you're feeling breathless and you want out, then consider it yah.
But I think you'll be more secure if you leave it this way. Not all marriages are based on intimacy.
Divorces are messy affairs.
Talk to him about it if it makes you feel better
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I just broke up with my boyfriend on Sunday and through all the fighting and break-up and confusion there was this boy here at college to get me through the day. Even now he'll still text me almost everyday just to see how I'm doing. Just someone to check up on me and talk to. We met at orientation so I've known him for a while. Well after the break-up I developed a crush on this guy which hasn't surprised me at all. He reminds me so much of my best guy friend from home, and I'm physically attracted to him. We've hung out everyday since the break-up. Like from 7p-12am. He hangs out with my group of girls a lot and when we're in the group its just really casual conversation between us but then when we're in his room at night (with his roomate and everyone else who walks in and out of there) he's really sweet and flirty but he never really gets physical. Well sometimes he'll lean on me and other times he keeps his distance. Tonight we wrestled on his bed, obviously the most physical contact we've had so far. Yet I've only hugged him once.
I can't tell if he likes me or not. And if he does if he's waiting to make a move until he feels its long enough after the break up to do so. I'm not just going to kiss him unless I know he likes me. Because if he doesn't it would be incredibly awkward.
help! (link)
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You're doing the right thing, He's the sweetest guy going but things would go really awkward if he doesn't like you that way.
I lost one of my best guy friends this way except he's the one who made the first move. Things got bad, it was hard to talk without feeling weird or thinking about that moment and we hardly talk anymore unless we really have to because we're the 2 heads of our group.
Don't lose him that way, make sure x5 that he likes you first. Wait.
And if he doesn't, Better friend than nothing right?
Besides that, what a sweet considerate guy! You guys would be awesome together!
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Okay this is a bit complicated! I have always told my wife that I am open to a threesome with another man if it would make her happy. When we first got together she mentioned the idea, sort of playfully, and I took it as a serious thought of hers. I let her know that if things were going to be completely open between us then I would consider such things. I guess I didn't think she was truly serious.
Anyway, the last discussion about this sort of sexual fantasy was a month ago and she said, "No! Absolutely not!" and that she is married and only wants to be with me. To be honest, I was quite relieved. I have no sexual desire for me and I would prefer my wife to only be with me.
Well, about 3 days ago, completely out of the blue, she tells me she found another guy she wants to engage in sex with. The catch is that she wants to have sex with this guy alone and without me present. She said she doesn't even want me to watch. Apparently, she used to know him but did not like him in any romantic or sexual way. I feel like she may be hiding some past secret desire to be with him, sexually, and is afraid I will "freak out" if she opens up and tells me the truth.
After two days of talking with me about this other man, she tells me she is just curious and that just kissing the guy and not even having sex with him would cure that curiosity. So, now she's taken it down a large notch and says that she no longer desires to have sex with this other man but wants to kiss him?
I have noticed her talking on the phone to "friends" more often these past few days. She ends the conversation when I come into the room. She has also come home two hours late from work yesterday, which is something that has never happened before. I feel like she is distancing herself from me.
What should I do? I am not really comfortable with this but I feel like the whole situation is my fault. I shouldn't have told her I would be open to other sexual things, I know, but I really wanted her to be happy and satisfied in our marriage. I don't know to "take that back" without seeming like a prick.
Yes, I want her to be happy. No, I don't want her to kiss, make-out, hook-up, or have sex with another man. I made a huge mistake. How do I fix this? If she kisses the other man, I'm going to feel crushed, but I want her to be happy and satisfied with me in this marriage. Please, help me! (link)
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Lol, threesome...hot...Sorry....
Well tell her that you are absoulutely not comfortable with any other man touching her. Now this is exactly as you said, partly your fault but remind her that she's the one who said she only ever wanted to be with you.
Simple talking should solve the problem.
Explain why you suggested it in the first place. No yelling please. And make her understand that you had no actual wish to carry it out, just to see her fulfilled.
If everything comes to everything, Tell her to kiss the guy and get it over with and fall back into a now more-passionate filled life, (on your side) If you don't ever want her to suggest anything like this again, I would say start preparing to give up a few extra hours of sleep!
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So October 12 is going to be the one month anniversary for me and my boyfriend :) I'm excited, but I was wondering if anyone could give me some ideas as to what I should give or make him to celebrate? Any ideas for how to spend the day together, like what to do?
We live next door which means we get to see each other a fair amount of time, so we haven't exactly been on an official "date" because we just hang out at each other's houses. But I'd like to do something a little special. Thanks! (link)
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A nice home-made dinner and a pretty hand-made card.
Make everything because it shows that you care enough to spend the time rather than go spend a $ or 2 on it.
Also if you want to present him with something, don't make it to big, leave that for his birthday. Maybe if he like books, give him the latest good one on the market... Like maybe The lost Symbol, by Dan Brown...Unless he's already read it...
Have fun and good luck!
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OK. His name is Robert, but I call him Rabbit. We've known each other for a year and a half now. We've never met in person, but we've somehow fallin in love over all this time. He is my dream guy. Looks & Attitude. I adore him and he adores me too. We are always talking on the phone and being retarded together on txt messages. We've already promised each other we'll get married after high school, but during the time we can date other people. Our relationship is really complicated. I can't see myself with anyone else and yet everytime he says we're finally going to meet something comes up. I don't know what to do. He told me to move on and forget about him, but I love him so much and he's just everything i've ever wanted in a guy. We're both really jealous people and we talk about everything. Including other relationships. I just know that he'll do anything for me. I really wish me and him can be together forreal, but every single time we try to meet something comes up to where we can't meet. I've waited this long for him and I just don't know what to do. I've been through hell and back with him and all the other guys i've dated just don't seem to even get as close as he is to treating me right. I know he's worth the wait, but everytime I get with another guy they do something stupid to where all I can think about is being with him. What should I do? I don't want anybody else besides him, but at the same time i'm tired of waiting. Somebody please tell me what to do. :( (link)
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It's hard, I know. I actually had the same problem a little while ago, except we didn't get our happy ever after. My parents didn't approve and he had a few complications as well.
But I'm sure you'll be able to do this!
Don't let him shut you out of his life, Tell him you WILL NOT forget about him, that you love him!
Remind him that he promised you, he gave you his word!
It'll get easier after the first time you guys see each other.
It's kinda the last piece of the puzzle.
Insist and insist on seeing him and don't stop until you do! don't let anything stopping you come in your way. This is important to you!
This guy is worth it in your eyes right??
So girl what r u waiting for??
Go and get your happily ever after!!!
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Alright so there's this kid in two of my classes who's wicked cute, and I wanted to get to know him better. From what i've heard though:he'll flirt with any girl. But i have a feeling he's just one of those "wanna be" players, like he's the kind of guy that trys to act all cool at first when in reality he has no idea what he's doing :P. So i know when guys are flirts, they usually like girls that play hard to get or tease them. I've been doing that, but i want him to fall for me, not just think i'm a game. He gave me his number and told me to text him, so i did. He told me he thought i was gorgeous,which made me obviously in a good mood XD. But i'm afraid that to this guy, i'm just another cute girl, as the many others he talks to.I was talking to him and he was like " i could beat you up!" (jokingly) and i was like "Psh, i'd dominate your a$$" and then he said "In bed" ,causing me to say "Well thats a given" -- But i was joking, obviously,haha! i don't just want a hookup with him :( So! Question is! How in the WORLD do i get this guy to focus on me and only me!? He seems like he's actually kind of a sensitive guy underneath it all :P How can i tell if he just wants a hookup? How can i make him NOT just want a hookup with me? Should i even bother with him? Please help ! haha :P! (link)
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Yes you should bother! Sounds like you have a pretty good relationship going....now make it seem that you are the only girl for him.
Make it so that he doesn't go through a day without thinking of you..... whether it be of friendship first...
If he just wants to hookup, you'll be able to tell in the casual way of his manner not as serious or caring. It's in a girls instinct, you'll be able to tell.... This'll be easier since you want this(right?)
Any guy who's cute will flirt don't worry about that.
And him giving you his number is a good thing...unless he gives it to all girls??
I want to believe that every guy is a sensitive guy underneath...and it's true for many of them, you just need to find a way to make him think of you that way...
Just show that you care for him. That if he's at the end of the world you'll be there for him.
Once you're his girl, he'll stay away from the other girls becuase he'll know you're the only one for him!
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There's this guy in my school and I didn't know much about him until the Winter Formal dance and he danced with me twice! well, i didn't think much of it cuz that happens all th time but then he came to my play and said i did really good and laughed at my lame jokes. This is where it gets weird that night I dreamed about him that I was going out with him. I had that same dream 3 nights in a row. I really want to talk to him before school gets out, but he's not in any of my classes, and my friends nor I hang out with him, I just want to know more about him, but im WAY tooo afraid to just walk up to him!!! Please help me!!! (link)
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Ask around, you must know people that you don't hang out with. Anyone will do, just to find out the basic information, or maybe you can add him on facebook...provided you both have it.... Then talk there and maybe you can comment on whatever he said, in person as a conversation starter, and then maybe ask him out... casually to a movie or something or a hang out with a bunch of friends then get him to like you properly enough to ask you out formally. Fall in love. Live happily ever after. I hope ^_^
Good luck!
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so me and my gf plan on moving in together. She babysits for her roomate who really doesnt deserve kids because she is always working and when she gets home she goes to bed she puts them to bed also. So my gf is stuck watching them most of the time. When we move out she said she will prolly have to still do it because of a program (long story but yeah) and I wanna move out and start our own family is she gona be stuck with the kids all the time and the little one shes kinda attached to she said he would stay atleast one night a week and sleep in our bed and the way we would sleep is he would be on her side and shed be cuddling up next to him and I would be pretty much sleeping alone on my side of the bed. If she still has to babysit him do you think we wont stay? I am not jealous of the kids but I thought us moving out things would change which she said. And sometimes her roomate gets mad and says she wont be watching the kids so what do I do?? I wanna talk to her but how can I not make her mad? (link)
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You talk to her. Explain how you feel first and then tell her that moving in together and starting a family is a huge deal. Her roommate should manage for her own kids... you need her more then them right now...Let the sleeping with the kid pass for this time, there's nothing you can do, but try tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. Explain clearly that you are not jealous, that's very important.
If you don't want to make her mad, you should probably practice the speech a few times and write it in the way it would appeal to her, she's your girlfriend, you should know...
Tell her that you just want an equal part of her time and you appreciate what she's doing for her roommate.....
I hope it works, She loves you, She'll understand! Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now 9 on October 14th. He's 18 and I'm 16, we clicked the instant we met, only thing was he was a bit of a flirt. I've know him for about two years now, we'd flirt around and what not but I never took him seriously because of all the other females that were after him. He said he'd give up his flirtatious ways if I agreed to be his girlfriend. So I did, I liked him a great deal.
We "fell in love," or I did atleast. Everything was going well, we ended up having sex 5 months after we started going out, I sortah regret it he was my first.
Anyways, we've been having small problems. Well I think he thinks everything's ok, but he doesn't call me much. I'm always the one to call, usually.
At night, after 9 when he has free minutes. :/
Anyways, sometimes he acts as if I bore him, or he doesn't like me or love me...he gets annoyed and irritated with me for no apparent reason.
I want to know, does anyone think he's with me just 'cause of sex?
I mean he lives in chicago and I live in Aurora, he sees me once a week or so, we talk every night usually.
When we're together he seems to push onto sex fairly quickly.
I don't know what to do most of the time, I want to make him happy so I go through with it most of the time, we use protection of course.
But afterward I sortah feel sad, I feel kindda upset with myself, not sure why. Has this happened to anyone else?
I kinda get the feeling that's all he wants, but I do think he loves me, or did atleast at one point, but lately I been feeling as if he only likes the sex.
What should I do?
Am I wasting my time?
I love him alot, but (is this wrong?) love me more, and I've been hurt many times before and don't want to get hurt in the end.
He began to change since he recently started college...I don't know, could he be stressed?
Any help would be useful thanks. :T (link)
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I think this all depends on the intensity that YOU love him, how much you want to go thru to make this right...
Well not putting this lightly but a girls instinct, you know gut-feeling is usually right, If you feel it's just the sex, and based on the info you've given, maybe you're right.
Or maybe it's a completely different situation altogether and he's having trouble with school or at home and sex is the distraction? (was he a virgin when you guys....??)
In any case the only way you're gonna get an answer is to talk with him. Positive or negetive, you're going to feel relieved whether you find a guy who loves you more than the world itself, or he's that guy.
No one wants to get hurt but if it's not right for you then maybe it's the best thing.
If he's stressed,Try to make him laugh. Make yourself the center of his world, that he feels nothing could ruin the relationship you guys have.
Help him as much as you can, be the supportive girlfriend....
If he's just being a jerk, I hate to say this but dump him. You deserve better than that!
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