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I met a guy on deviant art who was 20 (I'm 13 but I turn 14 on January 7th) and we started talking. I never had my age or name up on my profile. Or how I looked like. So he didn't know how old I was or any of that. He saw my art, though and thought I was so great. He had a fan fiction series he was writing and I suggested he made a Wattpad account for it. So he did. And we chatted on there more. One day I suggested he added a cover to his fan fiction and he said he wasn't too good at making covers so I offered to draw one for him. I finished it within a week (I think). He loved it and even told me I did so well, he kinda wanted to give me virtual kisses because of it. I was kinda shocked and didn't know how to respond at first. Then I replied- "That's cute. *virtual kisses* 😘" He did the same. Ever since, we'd been giving each other virtual kisses and I was had been so into him while we were talking as friends so I went along with it. Later on, we got pretty close and I lived it. However, one day I was just looking around at his profile and I saw it. He was 20 effing years old. I didn't know what to do because I was already so into him and thought my age could scare him off. But I ignored it for a while. Months later (and quite recently) he asked me how old I was and my hear freaking SINKED. I freaked out big time and didn't know what to say. I was thinking "Should I tell him my real age?" "What if he never talks to me again?" "What's gonna happen?" Eventually, I freaked out and told him I was 15, thinking it would freak him out a little less (again, I'm 13). His reaction wasn't really good at first but he said he'd wait for me and he thinks I'm turning 18 in 2019 but I'm really turning 18 in 2020. So instead of 3 years, he'd have to wait 5 years for me to turn 18. It's almost been a month since then and I'm in love with this guy. I know how he looks, how he sounds, and everything. He has a YouTube channel as well but anyways yeah. We've been texting on Kik for awhile now. But idk what to do, PLEASE HELP. WE'VE BEEN FLIRTING A LOT AND WE ARE SUPPOSED TO MEET EACH OTHER ONE DAY. IM SCARED HOW HE'LL REACT AND THAT HE'LL STOP TALKING TO ME!!! HELP!!!!!
I don't even CARE if he doesn't want a relationship. Just having him still talk to me will be enough. (link)
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I know that once you lie you can't go back. It just piles up. That really sucks.
And I also know that you think you are in love him but you are not. You are in love with the idea of him, you are freaking 13 yrs, you haven't seen the world yet or meet the one. One day you'll look back on the situation and think to your self 'what the hell was I thinking'. What am trying to say is 3years is a long time, you might not even be in communication with him anymore. You would have met someone else by then. When you are in highschool you'll understand what am trying to say. What you should do now is just keep talking to him but not as much, cut back a little, hang out with pwopke your own age.
Best of luck
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Question Posted Tuesday October 4 2011, 1:28 pm
i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.i (link)
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It seems that she is into you and you already know that but you keep stringing her along, you may say you just want to be her friend but she's holding out hope for you too, frankly, what your doing is just hurting the poor girl, she knows your married and still hangs out with you. You should try put yourself in her shoes. The best course of action Is to sit with her and talk it out, it may seem hard right now but it is what's best for both of you, be honest and just lay it all out there. I know it's hard but you can't leave with the uncertainty and she needs to know that nothing can happen between you two.
Am sorry if I sound harsh but it had to be said. Tough love an all that
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It actually doesn't matter, what matters is that you love each other and if he is shallow enough to worry about that kind of things, he ain't worth it. If someone loves you it wouldn't matter to him that your a virgin or not.
Not am man but I felt like it had to be said.
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Okay so I am writing this post argument, might be still a bit angry but here goes.
I am dating and in love with a coworker. The company we are in has absolutely NO policy against employees dating, there are even some that are married. However we are quite high in the executive ladder I should say we work directly for the owner. So when this started because we didn't want our boss to judge or think decisions were biased, we kept it on the down low.
It has been two years now, in which I think our boss already might suspect something ( it has been a long time and he would be blind not to) but he hasn't brought it up. We havent made it public either at work its all professional.
This makes me think it really doesn't matter. The company also doesn't have any of the typical Human Resources department where you have to declare a relationship so we haven't.
Here comes the issue. The company we work for is owned by someone in high society. This is a society that my boyfriend was born into but I just recently came into because of this job. Not that I am poor or anything like that, it is just in a different country, a small country, and I am foreign. People have taken well to me and are really welcoming. However, my boyfriend keeps saying that in this society people are very judgemental and if they knew we worked and lived together they would judge and talk and gossip.
Not being from this country I don't know about this, and also, I don't care what people think. My boyfriend says he doesn't either, and he has introduced me to people , not saying he hasn't, but I keep getting the feeling that he thinks the situation is embarrasing and he doesnt want people to talk.....which obviously makes me not feel so nice.
The fight tonight was over a party, he was invited by some friends, some I haven't met, that are from that society, and he didn't invite or want me to go because of that reason that he didn't want to explain to people we worked and were together.
After two years of this relationship in which he says he loves me, it makes me angry and suspicious he still cares what people think when I know the company doesn't. His argument is that even though they say they don't care out loud they still judge and he doesn't want anyone to mess it up for us.
Now we argued for maybe 20 minutes in which he either saw my point of view or just got tired of arguing ( I cant decide which) and told me ok fine lets go you can come.
But to be honest by that point I didnt even want to go especially when he said " well its not a nice situation to explain to people". I didnt want to go anymore, I just wanted him to see my point. And he did, according to him so he invited me, but I didn't go. I dont want to be somewhere he will be embarrassed to have to explain me. To be honest Im debating wether its ok to be in a relationship someone is emabarrased to have to explain to society. Not his friends or family, they know, its just other people.
Did I act correctly, arguing a point and then not going??? I dont know what is right in this situation because its tricky. On the one hand, I don't buy this selective secrecy, after two years. And on the other, I really love this person and want to give them the benefit of the doubt they want the best for us. But I am not sure anymore.
Also I am not sure if I should have gone, but my feelings were just I really did not want to be somewhere I felt I wasn't particularly wanted, even if in the end he seemed like he agreed with me.
Another doubt is how do I act tomorrow. I stayed home, now I don't know what I should do when he comes home. I am pretty upset over this.
Advice?
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You have every right to feel the way you do. It has been 2 years now and he still hasn't acknowledge you as his girlfriend to any of his friend or family. We leave in a time where women marry women, men marry men, what am trying to say is, we live in a world where difference is celebrated and just because you're of different ethnicity or social standings doesn't mean your not worth it. You should ask him to make a choice once and for all, you have been far too patient for far too long. It's time to put you're foot down.
If you have just started dating, his hesitance would have made sense but it's been 2 whole years. I hope you understand what am trying to say here,you deserve better. Make the right choice for you, always choose you.
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I had an relationship wit a guy for year thn he ditched me ,after tat its almost two years times he calls mebut I rarely pick up ,a day I messaged him and his friend answer wit abuses ,actually I sent him I hate u asshole n his friend replies with abuses too ,shouldn't my ex should have taken his cell n replied n not let his friend tauk ? (link)
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He is obviously messing with you and the fact that he let's his friend insult you shows that he is a jerk. Don't give him the power to hurt you more than he already has. The best thing to do is try to forget him, don't text him or call, even if he or his friends insult you, don't reply to them. Nothing pisses people off more than ignoring them, trust me. Good luck!
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Alright, I'm in my 20's and I'm having an extremely hard time meeting guys. Everytime I meet a guy I have an interest in, they shove me away and will never give me a chance, plus they turn out to be complete jerks. It's rather frustrating. On the other hand when guys approach me they end up stalking me on social media or harass me non-stop up to the point where I am completely suffocated. This may sound whiny, but SERIOUSLY what's going on? I meet jerk after jerk or extremely desperate ones. I'm extremely casual around guys because of all the nonsense I've dealt with. How does everyone meet guys? I've tried some sites and have gone out but don't seem to be meeting healthy men. Advice. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Where do you meet a caliber kind of guy? Thanks in advance.
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You're putting too much pressure on yourself, I understand the need for a companion but you have to take it easy, don't come on too strong to the guys you like. Take some time for yourself. You are your first love, love yourself first. everyone has someone and you'll find yours. It's only a matter of time. Be patient and you'll find love
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