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14/f

Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month. We don't go to the same school so we see each other like twice a week. I like him alot and I just get really nervous around him still. For like a whole month whenever I sit by him or whatever I feel nervous. I don't think I really show it but is there anyway to make myself feel more comfortable? Then another thing is that I get these thoughts in my head since he goes to a different school like, "what if he finds some other girl and something happens with them" or "what if he stops liking me" I know its kinda stupid thinking these kinds of things knowing he likes me and all but I don't know...I think that stuff alot. I'm only 14 and all and I think its weird to be thinking that. My last bf broke up with me to go out with another girl so that might be it? I doubt the guy I'm with right now would do that but you know, I just think that stuff. Sorry this was kinda long and any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

Well i am 17 and my boyfriend also goes to a different school. We have been together for 6 months but i still get nervous around him..so don't worry about that...and believe me thoughts are always running through my mind like "what if he flirts with other girls behing my back" but i have to trust him. If he wanted to be with somebody else then he wouldn't be with me. I hope that helps :]

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how do you know when you're in love?

You will know when you are in love. It's a feeling that can't be described...a feeling so strong....:] its amazing

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14/m

theres a girl that I like that im pretty sure likes me, but i only see her once a week. We hang out sometimes on other days but mostly Its only once a week. Im wondering if its even worth it asking her out even if she says yes because I wouldnt get to see her a ton
your thoughts?

Some relationships are actually better if you don't see the other person a lot. Think about it this way...when your with her...you won't have time to fight with her becuase you will want the time spent with her to be good.

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Ok so lately i've been thinking about my love life, i'm so confused I feel like i can't like anyone, i thought maybe i was gay, but i don't like boyss at all, or have any feelings towards them. so than why can't i like anyone? is something wrong with me?

I dont think anything is wrong with you. You just haven't found the right one yet...the one that you will want to have a relationship with. There is nothing wrong with not being attracted to anybody...or maybe your just not putting yourself out there. Try going on a few dates...talking to a few people...usually connections take a little while. :] Good luck

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I can kind of understand why my dad doesn't want me alone with guys, but at the same time, I really do need to start to be more independent. The thing is that I am 16 years old and I think I am pretty mature. I haven't really screwed up anywhere; I get amazing grades, make an effort to help around the house, and I'm generally respectful to my parents. I'm sober too, which isn't the case for my brother. They don't trust him very much, but they let him go out with a girl if he wants to. It's a pretty messed up double standard. Lately, there's a guy who I really like and we aren't exactly dating but it's understood that we both like eachother. Anywyas, I want to talk to my dad about this, but talking to him makes me really nervous because he just says something like "no you can't go" without giving me a reason. He doesn't say, "I don't want you to have a boyfriend" he just says no to everything. Even when it's me and another girl and the guy, my dad is still skeptical. I want to be honest with him but it doesn't work. When I tell the truth about who I want to hang out with, he is against it. So I've had to lie a lot lately to hang out with him, but I'm tired of it. I talked to my mom and she said she knows I already had a boyfriend once so obviously I can do whatever I want, but my dad is very hard to read. Can someone help me out. Thanks

My dad is the same way. I'm 17 and I wasn't allowed to date until i was 16....finally i just got fed up with it and told him that i was tired of being treated like a little kid. It was hard to get him to understand but he eventually gave in. Just list off the reasons of why he can trust you....then ask him what his reasons of not trusting you are...if there isn't any then he won't know what to say and he will probably give you a little more freedom. I hope that helped you in some way :] don't give up...he has to let go sometime and he will realize that

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What to get My boyfriend for Valentines Day. I was thinking of a personalized mug or bowl but he lives with his parents and that wont really have much of a meaning cuz it wont actually be his. I might get him boxers but What else can I get him. Something cute and small we dont want to spend too much money on each other? What do you think?

Well you seem like you enjoy giving gifts that are personal and creative...and that is something that we have in common. Last valentines day I gave my boyfriend a picture frame that had a bunch of pictures in it that we had taken together...he liked it alot and it had a lot of meaning to it. The picture frame wasn't that expensive but it held a lot of pictures. Hope that helped you out a little :]

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my wife pressured me into a big mortage and many other fininical areas.I know it was my fault for saying yes, but i could not handle the rentless pressure.Now i have lost almost evreything i had even my will to succede.I love her but not in love.i feel she has taken advantage of my heart.now she is trying to fix it but i dont want her to. I am lost in life what should i do

If you don't want to work things out with her..then i think you should sit her down and explain to her that you love her but you have slowly fallen out of love with her. Explain what has caused you to drift away from her and try to resolve the problem by coming up with ways to solve it. Best of luck :] Feel free to ask if you have any more questions

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btw i'm 14. 15 in april


ok so i went ot with this guy about 5 months ago and it took me a while to get over him.You see he dumped me for his ex girlfriend in another town about 3 hours away.He broke up with me over the phone and it tore me apart.it took meso long just to trust him again.Well about 2 or 3 weeks ago he told me that he sorta liked me again which was kinda weird to me because i had started having feelings for him again around the same time. We flirted for a while and he eventuall broke up with his girlfriend. He said it was too hard having a long distance realtionship.So we weren't sure what really to do so we decided to meet up. We went to the beach and sat on some sand dunes. after about 2 hours of talking. we hooked up and it was my first hook up ever and i wasn't really sure what to do but whatever i did it felt good. Anyways. after a few weeks we sorta stopped talking he got really sunburnt that day and wasn't at school. i got an infection and also wasn't at school. I think i was confused about my feelings for him. So the other day i was bored so i decided to message him. We started talking. two of my best friends were over and i decide to flirt with him and see where it went my friend was telling me some things to say and it was fun. well we kept on flirting for a few days and i really started to like him again. i had this new found confidence like i could tell him anything.
And then today. New years day he tells me he has a girlfriend. That she asked him out two days ago and that they had started going out yesterday. I was upset of course. I just started to think we could get back together. and he does this to me. i told him that i liked him but was confused about what to do. and he said he was too.
I'm not sure if i can forgive him this time . for leading me on. its like i'm the back up plan for when he gets back from his holiday he gets back with me. its crap.
what do you think i should do?
i'm so confused. my friends think i forgive him too easily. but i dunno
please help me
xoxo
sorry for it being sooo long
i'll appreciate any help.

I've been in your situation more than once unfortunately....guys like to play games...and that is what this guy is doing to you...he wan't you to hold on..he doesn't want you to move on. Although you still care about him...guys like that aren't worth your time. Time heals everything so if you feel like it's gonna be impossible to move on...i promise that you are wrong. I thought that same thing way to many times. If you really really want to be with him still...make him prove to you that he is worth it. Make him earn your trust back. I hope my advice helps :] Good luck! & if you need more advice or have any more question...feel free to ask me

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Alright so i was dating this guy and he left me for his Ex and like Im still friends with him not nearly as close of friends of course but still friends and like at random times he'll text me or something and say things that make me think that he still likes me and I dont know how to take it... like the other day he text me and was like "hey" and I was like "hi whats up" and he goes "oh nothing just listening to Death Cab and it reminded me of you" and if you didnt know Death cab is a band they are really called Death Cab For Cutie but which was the CD that I bought him for his birthday when we were dating and some of the songs on that CD ment alot to the both of us... and i jsut dont know what to think of what he is say its like he still likes me but wants to be with her... what should i think...

I've been in your situation more than once...but don't fall for his crap. He wan't you to want him back. My ex used to send me stuff all the time...the first song we danced to was one thing that he sent me...and i thought the same thing you do..."he wants me back" but believe me the best thing to do is move on. Guys like that aren't worth your time...i mean he left you for his ex..how low down is that? Well i hope my advice helped you....just remember that time heals everything...it took me forever to learn that... :] best of luck & if you need more advice...feel free to ask!

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okay so i met this kid and i don't wanna seem obsessive and clingy but hes kinda sending mixed messages i met him at a party a couple weeks ago and we've been talking and he came over once and said i was cute after but whenever he texts me he just stops or is like well what are you doing today lets hang ill call u after work and crap but never does..and it bugs the crap out of me so i stopped acting like i care and he kind of noticed he sid i was being "quiet" so what should i do is he interested or not?

Guys are always complicated. Tell him that you don't want to be obsessive or anything but you would like it if he payed a little more attention to you if he really likes you. Just ask if he thinks ya'll have anything...and if not...move on

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