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What can i say I'm an 18 year old girl that loves to talk. My answers come from my personal experiences. I try, so be gentle with your feedback. I'm single and I really like the ''freedom'' i guess you could say. I'm a senior, and i plan on going to school to become a film producer. I set high goals for myself. But come on, I'm young and I will party until i cant no more.

I like to give advice. And it looks like I came to the right place. :]

Jill

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Okay, I'm a 20 yrs old and I adore a guy who is 30. ALSO, when I first met him I couldnt stand him to save his life. Well I've know him now for about 9 months now and CLEARLY these feelings came out of nowwhere for him. From what our co-workers say they all know that he likes me and I like him. (But I dont work there anymore) He dosen't act 30 (cause he still acts young, but is extremely responsible and truly push people to be the best that they can be) and I am 20, a college student who dosen't accept failure AT ALL but I am extremely mature. ANYHOW, I've noticed that when there was a full crew at work, he's quiet, reserved and keeps to himself, but when it's just me and him there at night, he talks to me and flirts with me and acts completely goofy. I was the manager of where we work and I used to get off of work late so just to ensure my safety he wouldn't leave until I am driving out the parking lot. But the thing is, it's like we look into eachothers eyes and there's both something we need to say but we dont know how. We've both been hurt really bad and we both are very try when it comes to this dating stuff. We had awesome chemistry and we are taking things very slow (which is good)... I'm already falling for him but I can't help it... I mean, when we're together, he always finds his way to stand close to me, and he touches me in non-provcative ways (like pokes my waists, and massages my shoulders), anything I ask him to do he does for me, he's a gentleman but isn't afraid to be himself around me... and I just truly appreciate him. He listens to me and asks me how I'm doin and always tells me to have a good night. What should I do? I mean what's holding us both back? The age difference? The race differences (cause I'm black and he's white)If I go for him, how do I get him to open up... like I text him to let him know I am thinking about him but he dosen't reply... I'm thinkin cause he's sooo shy. So please any advice, thoughts, feelings and emotions would be helpful to see whether I should pursue this him...

thats so cute. im sorry that paragraph totally reminds me of like a romance movie or something. the whole time i was ready, i kept saying in my head, aww..aww....awww. hah, anyway. to tell you the truth im kind of dealing with the same situation. given the details, i feel that things between you two wont be secret for long. you both want to be with each other. so make it obvious that you do. ask him to go places with you. like out to eat, or something corny like that. haha just dont be too corny. return the simple touches. and the communication might take a while but maybe thats a good thing. you dont want to rush into things if you dont really know his true feelings for you. things will turn out well. just play it right.

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Alright.. basically me and my boyfriend have been together over a year, then he moved to florida to go to college, i lived here still in new york.. we tried to be together, he couldnt put forth the effort to even talk to me, and this was us trying to work our a long distance relationship. then we broke up, ididnt talk to him for a few weeks, then a couple weekends in a row i got drunk with his friends that still lived here, and ended up texting him and talking to him on the phone.. so ya, then he ended up getting into two car accidents down there, made me care for him completely, on account last year i lost my best friend.. i dont ever wanna let anyone out of my life i care for. he recently a month ago ended up coming home cause things didnt work for him there, we're together again. My feelings are different.. i think its cause i am really hurt, by him just leaving, the little things he did.. before he left things were basically perfect though. anyways... when ever we dont hang out, i want to fight with him, like iwant to. Even about nothing, its not healthy i know.. we've kinda talked about things..but i think in me, i feel like i fight with him cause the things he did to me, he deserves it, but hes treating me good..

idk really, what should i do?

if you really don't feel things between you two are going well, than follow your gut. nothing is more true than that gut feeling. and if all you want to do is fight with him when he's not around, its just going to lead your life into stress. that's not worth it. just don't let go to fast if you think you guys could work. i know its confusing but your decision will come to you in time.

best wishes,
Jill

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15/female

well i've always been surrounded by gay people, my moms gay all her friends are gay and most of my friends are gay. I have this boyfriend but i'm not very attracted to him, hes great sweet romantic the whole package but i dunno he can drive me crazy but its by touch not really by him. At school i used to check out girls with my friends, lesbians and straight guys, as a joke, except now i'm really noticing them. I really wanna grab some around the waist and sometimes i do but not for long so it won't seem gay. I love the curve from the back to the ass and the boobs and the legs the face and the way whenever they kiss someone their hair hides their faces.... i never saw myself as gay and i'm totally open minded about it but being gay would make my life so complicated, especially since my boyfriend is someone i really care about, what should i do?
please help me

you could very well be. but you could never really be sure. you might just be bi-curious. a lot of people have this problem, especially in your case, where there's people around you that are comfortable to express their sexuality. whether you think it or not, the subconscious is telling you that women are attractive because of your home, and school environment. whats funny is, I've recently had this problem. and i found out that I'm bisexual. to me there's no problem being gay, straight or bi. the way i look at it is, there's too sexes; female, and male. why not love em both? of course I'll leave you to your decision because nobody can make it for you. but you have to realize, if your feeling is only through sexual attractiveness, that could lead to problems.

About your boyfriend. before you break off any relations between you too (if you decide to) realize that he may have very strong feelings about you. and you cant be selfish, you need to be upfront and honest with him. hiding things can only lead to worse, and worse, and worse problems. this is my heart speaking. think about it. and maybe test out your feelings.

any questions let me know. and good luck :]

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theres this boy that has been trying to get with me for a long time now and every time i turned him down, all his friends kept trying to hook us up. but finally yesterday i told him that i liked him and now today he is acting all cocky saying stuff like "everyone loves me" and "not sure about her anymore" its really starting to piss me off, the thought that he could of used me.

its sounds to me that he's very into the girls that are hard to get. since he thinks (or thought) that you didnt like him, that triggered something in his little dumb guy brain that makes you seem like a challenge to him. im not saying your not a challenge, i just think you should maybe try to seem not interested in him to show him that not everyone is in love with him. (im not :D) haha


let me leave you with this. guy's play mind games. sometimes worse than girls. since i dont know your age i couldn't say..well...you know what?..i'll say it..ALL GUYS ARE IMMATURE. and they think their superior to women. so dont fall for his games. your smarter than that.

jeez i feel like a mother. haha hope i helped :]

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I have had way too many boyfriends to count. It's my problem too. Boys like me, and I like boys... but as soon as we start dating its like I pick out all their imperfections without meaning to. I'm now with my 12th or 13th boyfriend. He's really nice, but he never calls me or asks me out places, and when I call him or I invite him places, we never have anything ot talk about. He's kind of boring... I hate breaking it off with guys when they didnt do anything wrong. Is it my fault for wanting a certain type? Should I stay with him and see if things get better?
Thanks
Elise 15/f

i feel like you should give it at least a little more time. even if you think he's boring now, he might actually just be really nervous or shy. once you two hang out more and talk, he'll get more comfortable with you. if you break it off too early you'll never really get to know the true him and you might actually like the true him.

but then again if your gut tells you that he's just a normal boring guy..then break it off. always trust your gut. its almost always right. and theres more than just one fish in the sea.

Best of luck
Jill =]

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IS it possible for someone to fall in love in over 4 months of dating???



P>S we knew each other for a year in school

it deffinitaly is possible. i knew this dude before in school and i really liked him and he liked me, but we both didnt know it! until he moved..but we started goin out an after like 3 months i knew he was the one. So it is possible, just be careful, and dont get hurt.

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Ok so there's these 2 guys that I really really really like!!!

Guy #1- He's really sweet, caring and nice to me. Prob?? well he was my neighbors ex... so that makes it a little complicated. She is friends with me, but if I go out with him... she said she'll kill me and never speak to me again

Guy #2- is Guy #1's bff.... which also makes it hard and confusing. He was in my 7th, 8th, and 9th grade but we never really spoke to each other that much. Maybe because I didn't have a crush on him until I actually met him (thanks to guy #2)

HELP! I really like both of these guys but there's a twist to both of them. That makes it super hard for me.

Any advice on what to do?

I was thinking of ignoring both of them and looking for another guy, but i'm not sure.

:/

I think that if you really like guy # 2, then go for it. I reallllly dont think guy #1 is a good choice...chicks before d*cks. Its not worth throwing out a friendship for some dude, when you really dont know whats going to happen in the relationship in the first place. I know from experience that its not a good decision.
Hope I helped.
>Jill

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