i have a boyfriend and he nevers calls or any thing with his old girlfriend he would call every day but when i call hes never home and we never hang out with his old girl friend thay would always hang out but his friends say he really likes me but then one only ONE of his friends say he doseint like me wut should i do dose he like me?:(
Well I would say that you need to try an get your facts straight. If one of his friends says he doesnt like you, he could just be lying for one reason or another, or he could be the only friend your boyfriend trusted with the truth. With comparing your realationship to the one your BF had with his Ex, maybe he really has gotten busier since they were going out. (has it been awhile?) my advice would be to sit down with your guy and have a chat. Do it somewhere private without friends or parents looking over your shoulders. Do it over the phone if you have to. Tell him you really like him, but lately it seems as if he doesnt want to be in a realtionship with you. Ask him to tell you the truth, but dont bombard him with a bunch of comments about how things were with him and his Ex. try to get the truth outta him. He is your boyfriend and if you can't communitcate with each other, then the realationship probably isnt worth having. Hope this helps you!
~Kayla
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OK ive been liking this guy ever since we've been in the same class together and ive told him and he asked me out but then two days later he broke up with me saying he wants to get to know me more and hes been with me everyday since we broke up but still hasnt asked me back out...i want to be with him but i dont wanna wait around very long.. what should i do?
Well just because you've been together doesnt mean he now knows you better. If you really like him, then make an effort to really get know him and his personality better. And also let him get to know you. Open up and let him see who you really are. Play games like 20 questions and such. Send him email personality surveys and such. After awhile (a couple weeks).. if he still hasnt asked you out then ask him. If he says no then he has obviously decided that you and him wouldnt be good together. But if he still says "i dont know you well enough" then return with the comeback "We know each other well enough, and that's part of the process while we're going out... getting to know each other even more. If you don't wanna go out with me just tell me, and stop leading me on." However, if he's just another crush and you really dont want to wait around that much then give the getting to know you scheme for about a week then move on. but it's all at your discretion! I hope this helps! If you need anything, just ask!
~Kayla
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This may be long and I am sorry but please help, I have read your column and it is great!
ok so heres the deal... I just started going out with this guy. I barely ever see him and lately I haven't been talking to him on the phone. I don't know when I WILL ever be able to see him unless we set something up because we go to different schools. I just started going out with him like a week ago and I don't want to hurt his feelings and make him think I never really liked him in the beginning... because I did. I'm just not sure if I would want to be in this type of relationship where I barely ever see him. please help.
Thanks! And I feel your pain. If you really like this guy I'd try to make to work. Invite him to the movies, outings with your friends, school events, and anywhere else you could be with him at. It takes effort to mantain relationships... especially one in which the people don't go to the same school. If you think it's worth it then definately go for it! Try to do as many things with him as possible. See if you and your friends could hang out w/ you and him at your house or another's friend's house. If you have other friends in relationships go on "double dates" to the movies, parks, bowling, mall, Qzar(i dunno if that's nationwide tho...), amusement parks, etc. also call him more often! make an effort to talk to him at least once a day... most of the time it's really not that difficult to pick up the phone and call someone. I'd try doing this for a few weeks, then decide if the relationship is worth it. If you don't feel it is, then you sould talk to him and just gently say "Hey, i want you to know that i like you alot... i really do, but i don't think it's gonna work out between us. You're an amazing guy... but it's just too hard becasue we don't see each other enough. Maybe in the future we could be together, but right now this isnt working." or something like that. If after a while of trying gard to do things with him... you don't want to break up just yet, but you don't want to leave the situation alone talk to your BF about it. see what he thinks... he could be thinking the same thing, and you may both realize it's better if you're apart. Or you could also compromise and make it work, once you talk to him. Your judgement is the most important thing! I really hope this helps. If you need anything else at all please feel free to ask!
~Kayla
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i REALLLLY like this guy! like a ton. i went out with him before..but then he was going into high school and i would still be in middle school..and i thought it would be too hard so i broke up with him. ERGH..now he has a girlfriend and they've been going out for like 4 months! i seriously have never liked anyone as much as him. i've called him a few times and i talk to him online and i think he still has feelings for me but it just using his girlfriend to make ME jealous (which is working!) lol. should i keep trying? or just give up on him? PLeASe HeLp! Thanks so much!*
Whoa... careful with the whole "I think he's using her to make me jealous." If they've been going out for 4 months... well that's awhile. If you've let it show that it's getting to you at all... i doubt he would've been going out with her that long if he was trying to make you jealous. Does he know the reason you broke up with him? If not, then casuallly mention it. I've been in your postition before so i know what it's like. If you really like him this much, i wouldnt give up on him just yet. Just continue talking to him and be friendly. You can make hints that you still like him and stuff.... but he does have a girlfriend and u gotta respect that so don't get too flirty! lol I hope this helps and sorry for taking sooooo long to answer! If you need anything else I'd be glad to help!
~Kayla
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there is this girl and we went out and i cant stop likeuing her...i dont kno. she has a new b/f and it pains me and i still like her....how do i get over her.....anonoumous
My friend is in the EXACT same situation right now. So you went out with her, and i'm gonna assume if you still like her that she broke up with you. Even if you still like her, she has obviously moved on. You need to accept the fact that she doesn't like you that way anymore. She has moved on with her life, and you need to do that too. You could start moving on by hanging out with other people, getting yourself a new Girlfriend or Crush (but dont hurt the girl by telling her you're still getting over this other chick), also don't fawn over her so much... she probably likes the attention, and when you give it to her it makes you like her more, so stop obsessing over her, and face the facts that she doesnt want to be with you. You'll just have to be content being friends... and maybe in a few years she'll relize ur the one for her... or u'll realize she isnt the one for you. Just get on with your life and join activities and occpuy your time.. so you dont think of her so much. If you find youreslf thinking of her... just say to yourself "NO James (or whatever your name is) I can't think about her this way" and move on to another thought. I hope I helped! Feel free to ask me more questions if you need to!
~Kayla
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OK well how do you know if a guy likes you? I know that it sometimes depends on the guy and all, but what are some, i dunno, like key clues that he likes you? Not flirty tho, like as a gf sort of like?
it always depends on the guy and his personality.. but a few pointers would be if he acts differently around you than he does around other girls, if he calls you pretty or sexy alot... even if you think he's joking. If he is rougher with you than other girls.... and also id he goes out of his way to talk or do things for you! hope this helps even in the least bit!! (and sorry for waiting soo long to answer!)
~Kayla
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Hmm well.. I'm in highschool and so is this guy. He looks good & okay we don't talk really but every time i see him we do the eye things, just like the other day i was walking he was lookin straight at my eyes n i was lookin back in his.. it was from accross the hall wen i was about to leave & so we followed eachothers eyes, me looking back and him lookin back at me.. We do it everytime we see eachother pretty much but we haven't talked & I reallly wana get to kno him but im not jus gona walk up to him n be like yeah whats up haha.. so any suggestions? i really wana get to know himmm.
well i definately can relate... Sparking that first convo can be very difficult! here are my ideas:
1. Do you have any friends that know him? Have them introduce you... or just have a conversation with him and your friend at the same time.
2.find out if he has AIM or Email.. and if so get his SN or E-addy. Just talk to him and say sumthing like "Hey i got your SN so i decided i'd say hi! what's up" This doesnt involve any face to face contact, but you're still making a move to be able to talk to him
3.It doesnt sound like you have any classes with him, but if you do... talk to him about assignments, teachers, etc.
4. This idea is... intresting, but it could spark a conversation. "accidently" trip and fall into him... or just bump into him... he should catch you!
hope i helped! (and sorry it took me sooo long to answer!)
~Kayla
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like a couple weeks ago i thought a lot of girls were hot and i liked 2 poeple but now i dont and i dont relly think those people r hot either and i look for somebody u no like my friends that i thought was got but i dont now i mean i like girl of coures but i just cant find anybody speacil
I'd just say to umm relax and wait. that someone special will come along. You could also always try to find her... but remember it's not a crime to not like someone!
~Kayla
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ok so here it is ....i have had a really big crush on a friend of mine for a month now and everyone is telling me that he likes me too. the problem is that he is mormon. and i am not. i really want to be with him but it is against his parents rules to date a non mormon, so i was wondering what yall think i should do? i was also wondering if anyone knew anything about mormonism that they could give me? i wanted to know if i should convert and become mormon so we could date and it be ok, or if i should date him and keep it from everyone, or just forget about it all together? but i dont know what to do and i really like him.PLEASE HELP ME FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO!
Well, i'm mormon too... (or techinically LDS: Latter-day saint) so i think I'll try to help! Well first of all... unless you and him are both 16 it's DEFINATELY a no go. We believe in not dating until 16, so that's important to know. Also, i'd talk to him, see if it's just rumors that his parents won't let him date non-LDS people. If it really is true, then i would suggest asking him if you could go to church on day with him... i have to warn you it is 3 hours, so it's kind of long, but you go to three different meetings too (sacrament [which is the main part of church], then Class [with the guys and girls of the same age], then young men or young women's [depending on what gender you are, lol]) going to church wil definately help his parents grow on you, and if you become LDS and get baptizied than it's even better! of course you should remember that you choice to become LDS shouldn't be based on just wanting to be able to date your friend. It should be based on if you accpet the gospel or not. If you want to convert, you need to understand all that mormans stand for, and all their priniples. make the decisions based on what you feel in your heart, and what your consience tells you! and also talk to your friend! he would be more than happy to teach you more about his religion, and can arrange for others (with more LDS knowledge) to talk to you about becoming LDS. i think you should go for this guy, and if you feel for him (and the LDS church) strongly enough than don't be afriad to convert! If you need more info check out LDS.org, or AIM me, and also feel free to ask me anymore questions! I really hope i helped you!
~Kayla
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hello...i've asked for some advice before here and it helped, so im gonna try it again!lol. ok..my school is REALLY boring, nothing exciting happens and its just the same over and over, every single daY! how can i make something exciting happen!?!? thanks...
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this is a problem with students all across america! lol.. we all get bored in skool, but i'll try to to give you the best advice i can. First of all...you may want to physc yourself up for skool "YEah!SCHOOL'S GONNA BE GREAT TODAY!" get yourself in a mood for school to be fun and exciting. Pay attention in class, and ask questions... if boredom is really a problem in certain classes talk to your teachers. Tell them that you are having SERIOUS trouble concentrating in class, and tell them that class is so boring, that ur are having problems paying attention and learning, ask them if maybe they could make class a little more intresting, so your attention would be kept more easily.... also you can make more friends in your classes.... and maybe join some clubs! if this just won't work.. then feel free to ask again, or AIM me! Good luck!
~Kayla
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