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This may be long and I am sorry but please help, I have read your column and it is great!
ok so heres the deal... I just started going out with this guy. I barely ever see him and lately I haven't been talking to him on the phone. I don't know when I WILL ever be able to see him unless we set something up because we go to different schools. I just started going out with him like a week ago and I don't want to hurt his feelings and make him think I never really liked him in the beginning... because I did. I'm just not sure if I would want to be in this type of relationship where I barely ever see him. please help.
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Thanks! And I feel your pain. If you really like this guy I'd try to make to work. Invite him to the movies, outings with your friends, school events, and anywhere else you could be with him at. It takes effort to mantain relationships... especially one in which the people don't go to the same school. If you think it's worth it then definately go for it! Try to do as many things with him as possible. See if you and your friends could hang out w/ you and him at your house or another's friend's house. If you have other friends in relationships go on "double dates" to the movies, parks, bowling, mall, Qzar(i dunno if that's nationwide tho...), amusement parks, etc. also call him more often! make an effort to talk to him at least once a day... most of the time it's really not that difficult to pick up the phone and call someone. I'd try doing this for a few weeks, then decide if the relationship is worth it. If you don't feel it is, then you sould talk to him and just gently say "Hey, i want you to know that i like you alot... i really do, but i don't think it's gonna work out between us. You're an amazing guy... but it's just too hard becasue we don't see each other enough. Maybe in the future we could be together, but right now this isnt working." or something like that. If after a while of trying gard to do things with him... you don't want to break up just yet, but you don't want to leave the situation alone talk to your BF about it. see what he thinks... he could be thinking the same thing, and you may both realize it's better if you're apart. Or you could also compromise and make it work, once you talk to him. Your judgement is the most important thing! I really hope this helps. If you need anything else at all please feel free to ask!
~Kayla
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