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I find myself really attracted to gay guys. They are very cute and a lot of them are so sweet! And they're funny and fun to be around! Is this abnormal? Since they are feminine, does this make me not straight? Can someone please help me??!!?!

Women are more naturally bisexual/homosexual than men. It's actually normal for girls to want to try lesbian kissing and such. I would not worry about liking gay guys.

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Ok, lets say one of your best friends just broke up with his gf, who you have kind of liked for awhile? Should you ask her out right away or give her some time? It wasn't a very serious relationship, but I don't know how she would feel going out with me, after being with my friend?

Get his ...clearance/approval first. It's not worth it to piss him off or to lose him as a friend for a girl.

I'd give her some time. She doesnt want to look bad. I wouldnt date an ex's friend shortly after breaking up with the old one. I'd feel insensitive and bitchy!


If their relationship wasnt serious, yours (if it happens) wont be either most likely.

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my ex want to go back out with me and i think i want to go back out with him to but i think all he cares about is looks and i gained 5 pounds over the summer because of a foot ingery and i dont look so great what should i do also i am 13 and female




qtpie101

"i have broken up with him 7 times."

I think you just answered yourself.

THERES REASON WHY YOU DUMPED HIM SEVEN (!) TIMES, DEAR.

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I'm a female who is 15 years old. I'm going to be a sophomore in high school starting September. My question is, I can not seem to ever find a guy that is worth my time. Don't get me wrong, I'm on pom squad, I'm not a geek or anything. I just can't seem to find a steady boyfriend. I usually date older guys but I'm trying to find someone more my age. Any ideas on how to become more approachable to guys?

How does being on "pom squad" prevent you from being a geek?

Pom squad sounds "geeky" to me... And uh, isnt cheerleading the same thing?

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ok i really like this girl in school and i gave her some chocates and a note telling her how i really feel and now she is not my freind anymore and she is dating one of the most popular guys in school please give me advice ill rate u


sighned
boy in denile

She doesnt like you. Find another girl.

(Edit) She might have rejected you because popular boy KNOWS HOW TO SPELL, CAPITALIZE, AND PUNCTUATE.

"Okay. I really like this girl in school and I gave her some chocolates with a note telling her how I really feel. Now she's not my friend anymore, and she is dating one of the most popular guys in school. Please give me advice. I'll rate you.

Signed,
Boy in Denial"

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Ok i like this guy hes 16 and im 13 he has a gf but neway hes always being mean to me i guess.bcuz like wenever i talk to him hes like shutup jack*ss or w.e queer stupid stuff lyk that we used to b realli good friends and he would play around like that now i dunno if hes playin around or not.Do u think he likes me or is he jus bein mean??

He's too old for you! He has a girlfriend!

Find a guy worth your time. 12-14 too perhaps? 15 even, maybe.

"You always want what you can't have."

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On Friday I was with this boy it was our first time hanging out we've been friends for almost a year. We made out and stuff and he went up my shirt. He kept asking to finger me and I said no and then he would ask again and again. I dunno I think this is a little werid don't you? We're not going out like bf and gf but I can see us doing that. I really do like him but should I let him?? and please don't tell me o0o wait until ur comforable bc I don't want him doing it then never talking to me again. sry if this is long

The guy is disrespectful. Dont let him do anything you'd feel uncomfortable with..

You said no, he pushed. Hes an asshole.

End of story.

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This question is gonna be long so moderators, please don't delete this question. I need to explain myself a little bit before I can explain my question. I'm a 14 year old girl, I'm 5'6, and I weigh 113 pounds. For all my life, I thought I was ugly or below average looking. I have never had a boyfriend but now I think guys are gonna start liking me and then I might get a boyfriend. Well lately, I've been getting great comments like I'm hot or really pretty. Today, I went to the beach with my mom and my sister because we had "to bond more" lol yeah right. When I was walking to the car to go home, a few African Americans and white guys hit on me lol. They said "Damn girl you're fine and you gots a nice ass and legs". After what happened today, I'm feeling more confident about what I look like. I'm going into the 8th grade soon and I think I might get a few boyfriends during the school year. I am done growing in height wise and I think my beauty phase is coming in lol because now people think I'm hot and stuff. Ok for my question, do you think I might get my first boyfriend this year because of what has and is happening to me? If this question isn't too difficult for you, I would really appreciate it if you can answer it. Thanks

Dont think you'll be respected by guys if all they see in you is your physical beauty. Guys use the "hot" girls... Beware of the players, girl.

Be smart. Respect yourself, and dont let ANY guy disrespect you at all or make you uncomfortable.

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There is this guy i like in my Social Studies class. Everyone says he is really nice. I would go up and talk to him, but he is alwayse with his guy friends. They kinda intimidate me. So should I ask around about him (see if he is single, or even interested in me) or should i wait to see if he will come up to me?

Ask around. Have some friends dig up the dirt. You can always approach him with some of your friends.

If hes good at social studies and you need some help remembering facts... STUDY DATE. :) It might be more comfortable for you both (at least at first) to have some other kids from class there.

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