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Q: i am a 16 year old girl and i gave my boyfriend a blow job and we were both naked he cummed near my vagina he tried wiping it up with a sheet we were under is it possible for me to be pregnant?

It's impossible to tell, it is uncommon for their to be external conception, but it is not impossible. If sperm gets anywhere around your vagina, you could become pregnant, though the possiblilty is not high. You should take a home pregnancy test just to make sure or go to planned parent hood to find out, either way you should check just to be safe.

Q: hey..well on IM all of a sudden this guy told me he loved me but the only thing he knew about me was my name and i told him he didn't but he saying he does..but i don't believe him should i?

Hell no, stop talking to him now.

Q: My boyfriend keeps coming back to me, claiming to love me but he always ends up cheating on me with his ex. What do i do? I'm a female age 15.

Let him go. You're too young to deal with a loser like him. Find someone better, you deserve it. If he's cheated on you multipile times before, he will more than likely do it again. You can do better than a scum cuch as him.

Q: I met this guy online and i really like him...he is really sweet and he asked me out...i said yes and i havent told my friends yet. The thing is they might think it's kind of wierd or strange that I met a guy online that I have never met before and actually talked to him..because they think that you shouldn't do that. Should I tell them or just keep it a secret to myself??
Thanks a lot!!
Confused

No never keep that a secret, since you don't know the guy I would let someone else know about it. Actually my real advice is to not meet him at all, it's too dangerous. It would be much better to go out with someone you have actually talked to face to face, but that's just me.

Q: i don't know if i'm bi or not. i like guys but lately i've been attracted to girls too. i found out this girl was bi and now i'm really attracted to her and i like alot of other girls. but not just any girl, i only like really pretty girls. i don't want to be bi and i defnately can't tell anyone, that's not even an option so don't bring that up. so am i bi? tell me more about this.

You are young, people your age are curious, you may be bi, but you may not be also. It may just be a phase, but if you truly think you're bi there's nothing wrong with that.

Q: I'm 13 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm blonde, blue-eyed, nice, sweet, smart, 128 pounds, 5 feet 1 inch. i have no idea why absolutley no guy wants to go out with me. please help!

Dude,
You're still in junior high, you're barely a teenager. Wait, a guy will find you. Believe me 13 is not an age to worry about if you've never had a date. It'll happen.

Q: Should i ask out a girl everyone hates in school?

Of course, the only judgement of her that matters is your own. Other people probably don't know her so they go along with what they heard, even if it is wrong, i.e. ask her out.

Q: i met this guy at adventureland (he was REALLY hott!!) in des moines and i got his # but i dont want to call it cuz im afraid that its the wrong number! but then again the area code and the first 3 numbers were from the area that we were located in...what should i do? call him or not?
-confuzzled!

I say call him. If it's the wrong number (which is not very likely) you can just say "oops wrong number,sorry." No harm there. But why would the guy give you a wrong number? So call him, it's worth a try. Something you could say is, if he answers tell him like "I met you at Adventureland and you gave me you're number..." And something else if he doesn't answer is "Hi um I'm a friend of your sons can I talk to him?"

Q: Okay im like 12 and i have this boyfriend that we'll call danny, i wanna kiss him so bad but i don't wanna make the move. I want him to. What should i do? I really love him!
-wanna kiss
p.s.
i rate real good!

When I was twelve I wanted to kiss my boyfriend too, I guess it depends on how far he wants to go at this point. Maybe you could drop hints to him, but it all depends on how intimate you are right now (holding hands, his arm around your shoulders, ect). But in my expeirience 12 was too young to kiss, but everyones different. Something that might drop a hint to you is if he wants to take you to a chick flick because that's when my boyfriend kissed me. I hope this helped.

Q: I met this guy, he is soo sweet and hot and he treats me like a princess and we JUST met! I saw a picture of him and assumed he was about 16 or 17 and when we talked on the phone, he completely sounded like it too! Well, he asked me how old I was and said 15 and he said oh man I'm younger than you, I'm 14! :-/ Oh geez.. is it bad to be with someone a year younger than you especially when youre a girl?! HeLp!

No, nothing is wrong with being with someone that is younger than you. If you two like eachother and get along ect. than age really doesn't matter.

Q: Okay...

So my sister had dated this guy for 7 months and they broke up, so they were still friends for the 5 months since their break up, but then we noticed our other friend's (who is a girl) screename on this chain letter. So we dug a little deeper and it turns out that this "friend" of ours (who knew about my sister's and his relationship) is trying to get him to out with her. So my sister called the boy and asked him if he liked our friend... and he does, and to make things worse they're going out now...
My sister is really depressed because she realy hated the idea of this girl dating her ex... and i don't really know what to say to make her feel better...

Well, right now she won't feel better, but you saying stuff to make her feel better will really help her out and just stick with her she will get through it. Dich ich de liesban.

Q: okay im an 12 year old male and im pretty popular in my school and im goin out with this really hot gurl one day we were walkin home from school together and she went in with me to my house my mom wasnt there so she went up to my room i just had the urge to do it with her and she felt the same way we decided we werent quite ready yet so we just made out and she showed me her boobs that was the best time of my life know im young but i cant fight the urge.

wat do i do i really want to do it with her

Just don't do it, fight it. If you do do it you'll really regret it afterwards my friend has sex when she was thirteen and never stopped regretting it. Wait until you're older.

Q: okay my girlfriend and i were very close she was beautiful and funny and just an all around good girrl i love her so much 2 monthes ago she was killed some 1 came to her house murdered her and robbed her i feel really bad because the night that happened we got into a huge fight i cant stop blaming myself for wat happened i keep beatin my self up physically and mentally about this wat do i do i cant move on and its screwin uo my life

Okay, this is going to sound like bad advice but it really helps. Go to a psychiatrist, a good one. They will listen to you and help you and by law they can't tell anyone what you say. Also you can talk to your parents about it. But try going to a psychiatrist it will help. Also nothjing you could have would have prevented it, it was predesinted so even though it happened know that it wasn't your fault and you couldn't have stopped it.

Q: Lately my boyfriend jus seems to b making me depressed and stuff and i dunno what 2 do becuase i love him and stuff. but lately his attitde just makes me sumtimes jus b all depressed... becuase he kinda blows me off an seying like sure... right.... or w.e and i hate those words and it jus seems sumtymes like hes jus dosent care .. but then other times i kan tell he does... but alot of times i get depressed becuase of his like mood changes nd stuff.. what do i do?

Tell him how you feel. And if he continues to treat you like that and make you feel bad tell him it's over because if he doesn't repesct your feelings it doesn't seem like he is a good person.

Q: my boyfriend is leaving for a year and a half. Should i wait for him or see other people? PS im 15 1/2
holding back

If you are seroius then maye you shouldn't. But if you guys are pretty loose in your relationship then maybe. Talk to him about where your realtionship stands and then make your desition.

Q: Hey! I have had my boyfriend for almost a year and I truly love him. He recently told me that we need to take it to the next step in our relationshop, and I am very scared of HOLDING HANDS! I've heard nasty things about holding hands, bacteria and even STD's! Everyone holds hands, is there a special protection they use?
Thank you!

I never heard of anyone catching STD's from holding hands, bacteria maybe but I don't think it's very possible. There is really no danger in holding hands.

Q: I talked to my x today...its only been a week since we broke up. He said "sometimes I have the urge to call you and tell you I want you back, but I don't"...it hurts. I miss him so much, and I can't get my mind off of him. I know we're not meant to be together b/c we are two totally different people and want 2 different things...but I really love him, and I want to stay friends it just hurts so much when I talk to him...what do i do?

Just take your time, don't rush into being like best friends until you've had time to adjust to you guys having a different relationship now. And when it gets easier then you two can start being friends.

Q: I HAVE THIS EX B/F...WE STILL TALK ON THE PHONE ALOT... AND WE FLIRT ALL THE TIME.. A PART OF ME WANTS TO DATE HIM AGAIN.. BUT THE OTHER PART DOESN'T.. SOME ONE PLEASE HELP ME!!

Ask him out, if he says no than you two can still be friends and if he says yes then maybe it will grow into something more.

Q: Hi
I really dont know if Im inlove with this person but every day and night I cant stop thinking about him, he never met me before, but I really always thinking about him this gut is an actor. I know your thinking that this is just crush because his famous and popular because he really is a popular actor. I dont know but when im thinking about him I always think of a lot of good things like we will live happy and I will always protect him..and take care of him I know it's crazy but that's how I feel. im 13 years old and Im a girl... I think that I should forget about him but I know that it's not gonna hapen because his always in my heart...
If there's just something or someway that could help me forget about him I will do even though it's painful but I need to try..
I hope you can help me.
thank you...

Look at the guys in your school, focus on guys you know. And maybe you won't forget about him at first, but if you start to notice other guys you know it will be easier to think less about him and more about them.

Q: Okay so I like this guy and he used to be my b/f but now we're just friends. We went out for almost a year and I still like and I think he still likes me. I want to go out with him again what should I do?

I think you should ask him if he would go out with you again. I mean if he still likes you he will. Or if you don't feel comfortable just plainly asking him to go out do stuff as friends so you guys can get a good relationship and then see if he would like to go out again.