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Q: so theres this boy. over winter break i went to a party where i met him and i thought he was super cute but i thought my friend and him were interested in eachother so i didnt talk to him really. until later that night where he told me he didnt like her but for a friend. we immediately hit it off and we "hooked up" about 6 times over break and he was all about us hanging out like everyday. but i knew he just got out of a serious relationship so i wasnt pressuring anything. so after school start back we drifted. so i messaged him on myspace and asked what was up and he told me he felt it was best if we quit talking for no aparent reason. he didnt even want to be friends. so all the time, everyday he was ALL i thought about. until one day he messaged me and we started talking again. so i told him we should be "hookup friends" again and he said yes but we would just be like friends with benefits. i kinda feel like hes using me but i want to be with him so bad. even if it means just for sex. i know that sounds super bad but i really like him. and he was all about us "hooking up" again and now hes like blowing me off and being short with me. what do i do? i need some serious help here.
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OK, honestly, weather you realize it or not, the main reason you can't get him off your mind is because he blew you off. We always find the unreachable more desirable. Don't know why. I have been through this b4 & the minute you said, he told you he didn't want to talk anymore, I was mad. He is an ass. I know it's hard, but, delete him from your myspace & forget about him as quickly as you can. I mean even if he didn't want a relationship with you, there is no reason you two can't be friends right? So, why did he act like that? He's an ass! Plain & simple. Get rid of him. Don't give him the satisfaction of chasing him!
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Q: Well Me & This Guy Lets Call Him Light Me and him has been talkin about datin for about maybe a month now and he would do anything in this world for me he is relly sweet and i relly like him and he says he loves me we have neva dated before we lost contact with each other about 2 years or so agao and now we got back in contact so he said he aint gonna lose me so what do you think but today my ex called that was engaged to we aint talked sence we broke up relly and he wants me back he said he relized he made a mistake so yeah i dont know what to do my sister hates my ex that i was engaged to what to u think i should do im so confused..oh and my ex dumped his woman for me!.
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Well, it's very simple. I'm sure u have feelings for both of them, but, which one gives you butterflies when you see them? Which one do you think about all day & can't wait to see? That is the one you will be happiest with. Good Luck!
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Q: well my boyfriend went to army training for a few months. So hes not gunna be around but we are still together. and theres this kid cody who likes me who hangs out with my friends so im with him too. and he is always flirting with me. and for some reason i like even though im deeply in love with my boyfriend. i dont want to do anything stupid because my boyfriend is gone because we are planning on being together for ever. So is it normal to be happy that this kid is flirting with me? and should i stop hanging around this kid? anything with be apreciated
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OK, I am going through the same thing and I'm married with children! LOL. Now, I actually have a little bit of a crush on my BFF's husband. He jokes around with me, he stares, does a little arm touching & all kinds of things like that. Well, I felt pretty bad & weird about the way I felt, so, I went looking for info on the net & even asked some other people about it. So, to make a long story short...it is perfectly normal to feel that way or even enjoy the attention. EVERYONE has those feelings every once in a while. As long as your not acting on it & nobody is getting hurt in anyway, it is fine. I even found out it is called, "friendly flirting." Which basically means no harm. So, keep having fun & there is nothing to feel bad about.
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Q: my gf recently broke up with me and i really need someone to tell me some good ways to get my mind off of it. it really hert me cuz i really did love her and i just cant stop thinking about it plz help!!!!
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Well, it is going to hurt for a little while, but the main thing you can do is throw yourself into things, like sports or just hanging out with friends. Don't sit around & dwell. Another thing you can do & I know this may seem weird & not exactly "sound" advice, but start innocently flirting with other girls. It will make you feel better & you will eventually think about someone else. Good Luck!
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Q: ok i like this guy named tanner.we have gone out before and for some retated reason we broke up.he likes this other girl named kayli but everyone says he still has a little crush on me.:) well my freind molli is going to see who he likes and if he says me she is going to ask him out for me.me and tanner are real good friends and im afraid that if i ask him out and he says no that we wont be freinds anymore.and me and kayli are good friends to and she likes tanner also and i dont want to make her mad if he says yes.i did help before 7:00am.thanxxx!!!
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Well, this is a tough one. After mulling it over for a while, it kinda sounds like it's more drama than it's worth if you DO go out with him. For one thing, you might lose him as a friend or if he does accept, you might lose your other friend because she will be upset. It's like choosing between bad & worse. Maybe if anything, you can just wait a while & see what happens. If it was meant to be, it will be. No need to rush into things, right? I hope I helped & good luck to ya.
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Q: I asked a question previously about my ex-boyfriend still wanting me. Okay, so here's the deal now (in case you're interested lol): Since my last question he has told me that he was falling in love with me when we were together, and that is why he broke up with me. His last girlfriend broke his heart so he said he is afraid of falling in love and getting burned again. I know there is at least some truth to what he is saying, but is the rest of it B.S.? He still calls me and we hang out and occasionally kiss. He says he wants me to understand who he truly is. Does this mean I should continue trying to make it work with him? Or is it pointless to attempt? Please let me know what you would do. I really care about him.
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OK. I, Personally can't stand it when people say they are "afraid" to fall in love again. It is perfectly natural to be somewhat nervous, but, if someone generally likes you, they usually don't just pull away. Of course, you have said, you two still talk & hang out. So, apparently, there is something there. I honestly nee a little more info. Mainly because, I don't know how he is acting with & without you. He is either just keeping you around just in case he doesn't get someone else, or he is actually waiting to see where things go & how well your relationship progresses. You have asked me what to do? If I were you, I wouldn't totally give up on him at all. He seems pretty genuine & at least he was upfront with you about how he feels & isn't leading you on. That's a plus right there. I also wouldn't talk about anything relationship wise just yet. Give him some space, "flirt" with him while your together & wait for him to make a move. If he really does like you, he will come around & end up liking you even more after he sees how mature you are & how much you like him. If there is anything else you can give me, let me know. Hope I helped at least a little & good luck to both of you.
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Q: Hi there, i was hoping you could offer some advice...Ive been dating a recently seperated 31 year old guy...His wife cheated on him and he caught her..they have 2 young boys 2 and 4. He has recently bought a new unit and has been finalising the details of their finances...He claims he is over her and i have nothing to worry about...we have so much fun together and im really falling for him...
Is it possible he really could be ready to move on so soon ( he left her 6 months ago after he tryed to get her to see a therapist)
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Well, although I cannot guarentee anything, 6 months is a sufficient amount of time. When I met up with this guy I knew from high school some years ago, he was still on & aff with his girlfriend. In fact he was supposed to hook up with her that night! She didn't show of course, because she was messin' around with someone else. So, we "hooked up" and we have been happily married now for 7 years. So, never give up hope. The best thing you can do is be there for him, but, also give him his space just in case. Don't forget, they do have children together & unfortunatley that will bind them for life, but, try not to show signs of jealousy & he will notice that about you & think your great for it. Sometimes, a relationship is just too far gone to go back. So, give it some time, keep hangin' out & having fun & maybe in time he will feel the same way for you that he used to feel about her. Good Luck to ya & I hope it works out!
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Q: Do guys like it better if you wear lipgloss when you kiss/makeout with them? I"ll rate i promise!!
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Well, I have heard alot of talk on this subject from guys and what I hear more than anything is most guys don't even like lipgloss or lipstick. For one thing, they prefer the au naturel look. They know are lips aren't bright red or brown. 2nd off, they have said they don't like the greasy, gloppy feeling that goes with kissing when you have that stuff on. My advice to you, if your like me, and just want something on your lips...wear flavored chapstick. Maybe like mint. It isn't greasy & it tastes good. Hope this helps.
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Q: Ok so theres this guy who I really like, like extremely. Today in class we were doing these like dumb moves to prefixes but some were pretty cool. So one of them was like di and the word was dice so the move was blowing on YOUR OWN dice and hes like class clown so hes like can we have a lady blow on our dice and so then he his imagenary dice infront of me to blow on. Does this mean anything? Could it mean anything? What could it mean? && I asked him out a lil while ago, "recently" and he said no because he was extremely busy with baseball which is true cause he plays on two teams and thats 4 practices and 2 games a week. But he said I was a great girl. What does this mean? could it mean anything. Should I give up? RaTe hIgH aNd cOmMeNt!!
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I do think the fact he picked you to "blow on his dice" means something. And what he said about you being a great girl. Well, guys don't say things like that if they DON'T like you, so , my advice to you is just show him your interested. Like, you could even go & watch some of his games & cheer him on. He will see in time that you will stick with him even if he does have a busy schedule. Good Luck to ya!
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Q: my exboyfriend and I have been broken up for a little less than 2 months. We see each other every weekend at work. At first it was really awkward, but lately things have been getting better... almost to the way they were when we were dating. In fact, last weekend he told me that he comes to work to see me. We spent a few hours working just with each other and he seemed to be finding excuses to come talk to me. He told me that his grandmother, mother, and sister are all annoyed with him for breaking up with me. Then, when we were goofing around, he wrestled with me playfully, and then pulled me into a hug and whispered in my ear "do you still miss me? Do you?" I didn't answer because I didn't want to seem pathetic, but the truth is I do. I don't understand him, are his actions proof that he misses me and wants to be with me? Or is he just playing head games? Any advice is appreciated, this whole situation is driving me crazy.
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Sorry it took me so long to get back to ya, hon. But, it sounds to me like he may still like you. Almost like, he realized things out there weren't so great & he is not finding what he had with you. He had his fun & now (hopefully) he is ready to get serious. But, that doesn't mean you should jump back into it so soon. Also, is he calling you or trying to get with you any other time other than work? If not, you may just be his work "buddy" & he doesn't want things to be uncomfortable between you two. Just lag back for a little while & wait for more signs to see if he is being sincere. Believe me, when something happens, you'll know! I hope I helped at least a little. Best wishes.
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Q: i like this guy....(duuhh) ok uhh and we were pretty good friends but we had this fight(he told me he loved me and i acted kinda weird /mean) and he never talked to me since than! then i called him and appologized but he only was like:uhu yeah blablabla ok and i do like him and everytime i see him he lookes at me today he even smiled once but i thought that was just because he was laughing at a joke...and at the bus today he looked at me in a sad kinda way....and i wanna be friends again but im just scared that when i talk to him again he'll be like all weird again
so what should i say? and how should i act when he's weird?? does he still like me cause he also never talkes to me?? and well he usually ignores me and uhh everytime (not everytime but pretty often) i look at him i looks away and this is really sad cause i love him more than anything!! oh and u cant say i'm getting on his nervs cause i never talk to him or something but everytime i'm in this room or hallway he's going somewhere else and i dont know ...but i think its because of me and i didnt do anything??? yeah so please help!!!
please help
AAHH
i'll rate!!!
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Basically what happened was, when you acted funny with him after he said he loved you, that was a big blow to his ego.If you really like him & want to get with him, you could try emailing him or writing a letter that says something like, "I hope you don't feel bad about the way I reacted when you told me how you felt. I was kinda surprized & (happy) that you said that. I had no idea you liked me!" Maybe you can take it from there & profess your feelings for him. Then, of course, casually start flirting wiht him & things like that. Just be really nice to him & you just might be back in his good graces before schools out. Good Luck to you!
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Q: hi first of all my question is really in it's own way a hard one,first of all i just moved in with my boyfriend, but whenever i say i love you he will just smile and say thank you or just not say anything at all the reason why i moved in was because he needed help with rent and bills because he just lost his job he always says how pretty other girls are but rarely says i am pretty sometimes he will just play video games all day and ignor me,one day he had me go out at 2'30 in the morining to get ciggrettes (i live in new york city)by myself i somtimes feel that he is only using me for rent money.one day he actually said to me why can't i be as pretty as her(lindsay lohan).guys help what should i do
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I am sorry to say, he is totally using you! If you love someone unconditionally, you never say things that will hurt their feelings and you think highly of them...(not wishing they looked like someone else). Please get away from him ASAP! Dont gove him the satisfaction of making one more rent payment. Let him grow up and learn how to act like a real man.
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I am married and have 3 beautiful daughters. Their ages are 2, 6 & 11. I am not in any way saying I am an expert on life, but, I have been through a lot of different things, from...mental health issues, alcoholism to having a husband in Iraq. So, feel free to ask me anything you need help with & I will try to answer it the best I can.
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Latrobe, Pa Occupation: Counter Person Age: 30 AIM: Member Since: April 4, 2006 Answers: 46 Last Update: January 31, 2008 Visitors: 6474
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