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I met my girlfriend over the internet about 7 months ago. We started as a good friendship. So then I asked for her phone number. We talked on the phone for hours and hours. I started to love her and have really strong feelings for her. She did too. We did webcam and send pictures and mail. But things started to happen to me I started to feel depressed. I started to have personal problems with my family about it. I didn't care I know I love this girl a lot. I haven't seen her yet cause I'm not ready yet. I want to look good for her physically and in ma peronality. I don't want her to see an ugly me. I want to lift weights get taller and look good for her. I want to have money and get my education. Thats why I haven't gone to see her. I want to be for her inside and out. But is gettin frustrated. Cause so many guys have I asked her out but shes says no to them cause she waiting fo me. But I can't cause I went to get muscles and get taller and get ma money straight get new clothes and get ma education. So, then I can see her. But I don't want her to give up. I feel bad cause I want see her but I want to surprise but gettin muscles and lookin taller and being a person who can make her smile, laugh, make her feel good about us and look good for her. I love her a lot she is a beautiful young girl. She is cute, nice, hardworking, special, and comfortable to talk to. What do I do. I'm a male who is 17

If she loves you, then it shouldn't matter. Surprise her by showing her how hard you're working to look how you thinks she wants you to look. And you said you've done webcam, so she knows how you look. And obviously she likes it if she wants to meet you and loves you.
Just go for it.

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Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.

Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators?

don't be afraid to sit with her in class. If you have choice seating, do you have to keep the same seat the entier term/semester/year? If not, switch off between your guy friend and her. Chances are she'll want to hang out with some of her friends too.
Also, get to know her girl friends, that way, when you have a party, you can invite her along with some of her other friends that way there will be more than just one girl at the party.

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okay, i have a group of 4 friends that have a blast when we're all together. its me and another girl and 3 guys. Well i found out that 2 of the guys liked me.. and the thing is i like both of them too.. but i like one more.. but dont wanna hurt the other one. and so i tell them that i just want to be friends with all of them. and then i get a texted from the one i like more asking if i'd ever want to hold his hand, i told him i'd let him kno when the time comes. but ugh.. its so fustrating.. hope you can help!

he asked you before the other guy that liked you did...so maybe he likes you more than the other one does. just hold his friggin hand.

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alright..well i like this kid jimmy

don't be jealous because he was flirting with someone else. Get over it. Maybe he actually liked that girl. Maybe his taste in girls changed. But none the less, maybe he was flirting with that girl to make you fee jealous and try and get you back. Give it time. But if you're just saying I like this kid jimmy - hottest kid in the world, do you like him for more than just his good looks? If not, quit wasting your time.
If you really do like him, just stay friends with him. If you think he's so awesome be good friends with him, and over time he'll probably see that you're awesome too and that he wants to be with you.

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what do you do when a girl who you truly like chooses a different guy over you for the 3 time and still wants to talk

as much as you probably don't want to hear this,
maybe being just good friends with her is for the best. Trust me. I'm like that with one of my really good friends. I truly like him with my entier heart, he just ins't interested. But we still have one of the best friendships ever and I wouldn't trade it for anything. And who knows, maybe one day this girl will change her mind and ask you.

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I am going out with someone that is a year younger than me and no one has really said anything to me about it yet but i have a feeling they will...i cannot stand when people continuously say crap to me about it...is it really wrong that hes a year younger?

not at all. Look at your parents. If their relationship is anything like my parents relationship, then there is probably at least 2 or 3 years of a difference.
But then again, it depends how old you are. A grade 9 dating a grade 7 is odd. A grade 11 dating a grade 10 or 9, not so odd.

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im 13 and my boyfriend ( obviously im a G I R L) has been acting really weird with me. i recently wenT to puerto rico for a month to get prepared to compete in a pageant. we talked and we were doing well apart but then he wentto north carolina and has been talking alot and i mean alot to my best friend. i didnt use to mind on account of theyre best friends too.but they look more like a couple than me and him. i feel like there is something he isnt telling me. hes not the type of guy tht would cheat or play me and he wuouldve dumped me if he didnt really like me b/c thats how he is. i know him ....weve been together for 10 months.but something tells me there is something going on. i dont know what to do anymore. im scared to talk to him b/c sometimes he makes me feel like trash and then talks to my best friend again about it. is she really my best friend and how do i know if hes cheating or not? PlEASE HELP!!!! i RaTe 5s!!!!!!!!

first off, if he makes you feel like trash when you talk to him, why are you with him?

but you should try talking to him about it. talk to your friend about it too.

Don't assume anything, because assuming can often be wrong. Talk about it, and find some information out first.

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