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thank you so much for the advice but how do u control your heart??? i cant help but to put my heart and soul into everything and i mean theres nothing wrong with being single but its just not for me i have a fear of being alone and im also scared that if i stop trying to find love then ill miss the chance to meet my soulmate i know my poor heart needs sometime to heal but i think that if im alone it will only hurt even more are there any other ways for a heart to heal??? how do i stop myself from falling in love so fast??? (link)
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It takes "You" and lots of will power. Trust me, it sounds like you have a huge heart, and you give people all your love, and they never return the favor. You need to mentally put a wall around your heart. And don't sit there looking for love, let it come to you. Now i'm not saying sit there and wait. Just get out, have fun, be yourself and let someone see the real you. If that happens, don't let yourself fall, to stop this think back to your other relationships and think how bad it hurt, and just take things real slow. Guys will say they will never hurt you, they could never do that to you. Now think about it.. How many guys have said that, and ended up doing it anyway? Trust me, I never learned my lesson, i've been hurt soo muchh! I have turned bitter and ugghh.. You don't want that happening. To be honest, you need to be single for awhile and let your heart heal, yes everyone loves to have someone, but you need to learn that you can be happy with yourself and your life. You need to learn to love yourself, for anyone to love you back. Its hard, I have put myself through 3 horrible relationships, and it took me a year to get over it. but in the end i realized.. why waste my time crying over someone, who isn't crying over me? and I realized how much time i wasting on that person. Don't end up like that. Hint, Hint. The BEST Revenge is showing that person, you can be happy with out them. And never, never cry in front of a guy, or give in to them. That shows your weakness and they know they have you on a rope and can make you feel bad and get what they want. You are a women, your strong and invincible. Always remember that.
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i am a sucker for love and i keep falling in love with the wrong people and i constantly keep getting hurt but i cant help it i love them so much like right now im totally in love with someone but people keep telling me that theyre no good, that i should stay away from them, these"spirits" keep telling me that theyre nothing but trouble, but i love them so much and i dont want to lose them like the others i built my world around certain people and now theyre either being taken away from me, leaving me, or i have to let them go without them my world falls apart Why must i feel so much pain??? why cant i find someone who i can love and trust as much as they love me??? why do i atract the wrong people??? i cant do this any more im ready to give up on this seeming to be a never ending search for love please if you have any advice for me i would really appriciate it cause my heart cant take much more of this
im a girl and my age doesnt matter (link)
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This is weird, i was actually just been thinking the same thing. I'm a male. but i know what you mean. I love people with all my heart, but they end up not feeling the same, so they leave or get taken from me. everyone tells me their no good. But what i've learned within the years is that. Our hearts are too big, we love people so much and we give it our all, and that's how we end up hurt. Love hurts cause you put like your everything into a relationship and then its all taken away. What you need to do is start being careful and not putting your all into it. You wanna be a part of someones life not all of it. I'm taking it your young, you have your whole life to find someone! Learn to be happy being single and don't keep going from relationship to relationship, give your heart sometime to heal. If you have any questions about what i've said or whatever, let me know:):)
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I was in a very, very close relationship with a guy last summer. We were in a committed relationship for five months. I was 18, now I'm 19. He was 20, now he's 21. It was our both first real relationship. It seemed perfect.
Anyways, he broke up with me in August. It seemed out of the blue. I cried a lot and was very depressed. In September, we got together because I hoped that we could start a relationship again. He ended up using me for sex and then ignored me. This happened again in late October because I still missed him. So he used me twice, basically.
Then in late December, he contacted me again. This time, I told him that I wanted friendship or a relationship and nothing in between. Of course, he stopped talking to me. Then I moved on.
Last week (June 13), he texted me. He said he beats himself up every day for messing up our relationship. He said he misses me. I told him that I'm still not interested in hooking up. He said he doesn't want that: he wants another chance. So we met up in person. I told him that I don't trust him at all, and that if I do give him another chance, there won't be any sex for a looong time. He said that that is fine, because he just wants to be in a relationship with me again. He said he wants to take it slow and not jump into a relationship, but ease back into it. He said he wishes he could do anything to get my trust back.
What do I do? Please help me. I want to give him another chance because I really had feelings for him, but I can't get hurt by him again, and I'm not sure if I've moved on completely. (link)
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Okay, I can't really tell you what to do. But I had this experience with my boyfriend. I'd say give him a chance but don't go far at all! Like til he can show you that he wants you as a person and not just sex. I know if you have feelings for him it's going to be hard not to do anything, but sex isn't important in a relationship. You need to know he loves you for you. But if that's all he wants than you don't need to get hurt, you don't deserve that at all. There are many other good people out there who would like you. But keep your head high and good luck:]
I hoped I helped:]
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Okay basically:
I'm gay. I'm into this guy who is "confused". He has a girlfreind, but has liked a guy before. He always acts like he's flirting with me, and it confuses me so much. His girlfreind knows all about it, we talked it over, and she told me to talk to him about his feelings. I already tried talking to him about it, but I didn't get a straight (or gay, hee hee) answer out of him. I want to get this answer out of him, but I don't know how. I don't really want to flat out ask him, but that would be the best way because I'd get the result I want, but awkwardness after that. AND I have no clue how I'm going to get over this guy. I have so much hope about going out with him, but deep down I want to keep myself grounded... but many people say we'd do good together and that he's actually interested in me. I have no clue what I'm going to do. Oh, and he knows I'm gay and that I like him... (link)
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Dude, I've been though like the exact same thing, it hurts i know. except im the guy in your story..lol. But what i've learned think about it is it going to be what you pictured. I mean what if you date him, then later he likes some girl, wheres that leave you. I've kinda been though it. so ya i know how it is. But im just going to tell you to follow what your heart tells you. Tell him you like him tell him all your feelings you have. if you like someone alot, don't let it go, you'll regret it forever, if you like him you have to let him know how you feel and you need to know what he feels and talk it out. it kinda worked out for me. but i don't know.
I hope i helped.. Let me know how things go.
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I met a girl at a party this weekend and ever since, we've talked for hours every day. I know she really likes me, and I'm starting to feel the same about her. She seems like she's the kind of person who dates for fun, though..and doesn't take it seriously. I'm all about having fun, but that's not all dating is, and I'm afraid she might think it is. I'm afraid she'll drop me quickly because she seems like she gets bored easily.
Any advice? Thx.
16/m (link)
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I had that same problem with my last g/f she was really nice but she got bored with you and moved on to someone else, so i'm suggesting you go around asking some of her friends if she's one of does girl, but girls will break your heart, that's the way they are. well good luck.
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well i like this guy. but he does'nt like me and that sucks. he never talkes to me or anything just because i'm not thaaaat popular. i dont know why he does'nt like me but i just wanna be friends! so what should i do now? i really want him to notice me and like me........heeeelp (link)
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If this guy you like thinks that your not popular or cool then you need to just forget him don't let him put you down just because your not popular enough for him, If he treats you that way then he's not even worth it.
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Ok, well I had this boyfriend for a few months. He was my perfect guy, the type I've always dreamed about, my dream guy. In that amount of time, we went through alot together and I came as close to loving him as I've come to anyone ever (you know, in that way). Well, a whole lot of crap happened and he broke up with me and I still miss him like every day. I've been out and about alot and my girls have been like wicked supportive but it's been a few weeks and I still cry about it every day. I can't stop thinking about him or anything and I feel pathetic. So how can I get up and move past him? (link)
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My friend had the same problem and yes she cryed for a couple weeks but you have to think to yourself and say is he right for me, sometimes you have to just move on find someone new, but if you really like this guy find out if he feels the same way, and then work it out with him.
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