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Q: Alrite, Well i have recently been talking to this guy in another state. (for about like 2 months now). so about a month ago he told me that he like realli had feelings for me and asked me to be his girlfriend and i agreed. well, i realli love him alot and it sounds like realli dumb but we have already talked about like,getting married and shit..well it sounds like a cute little fairy tale rite? WRONG! ok i was just talking to him like 10 min ago on MSN and i was like, "do your parents know about me" and hes like, "yea and they fully support me. do your parents know?" and im like, "not yet" and hes like, "well u know your going to have to tell them"

so my question is how do i tell my dad (i dont have a mom) that i fell in love with a guy i met on an on-line chat room? Oh Yea, Did I Mention I Am Only 14. So Yea, Im 14 in Love With a 16 year old i met online in a chat room that lives in another state.....how do i tell my dad?

Much Love,
Danigrl1621

Okay, so how do you know you're in love with a 16 year old, how do you know it's not some 40 year old guy, or even woman. Chances are that you will deny this, but online relationships are not safe. Alot of sketchy people are out there on the web. I also do not understand how you can love somebody that you have never met, but hey, love's confusing right? So i think, if you truley are in love, you should start talking to him on the phone, getting to know him more personally, and making sure that he's not lying to you. Also if you have a webcam, try that and then you'll actually be able to see who you're talking to. Once you can be absolutly sre that he is real, tell you dad and have your dad speak to his parents. Then, meet him in a public place where there are a lot of people, like a popular restauraunt. Go with your father and his parents to make sure that everything is safe. I think that you could say this to your dad, tell him that you are completely in love, and hopefully he'll support you. good luck

Q: ok, there's this guy that I like...and he (for sure) likes me...and it seems like he is dropping hints on asking me out...like (this is kinda long) he asked me how I acted with the guys at my school (he's in 9th i'm in 8th)I don't rub up all over them and that they grab my butt etc...and then the other night on the fone (he calls me normally on a daily basis) he suddenly forgot wut he was going to say and he was like "it could have been about me and u..."and then another time he was like ' know for sure now that stuff is going to happen between us and I was like stuff??? sooo...does this mean he wants to ask me out...or...wut???

i think it sounds like he wants to ask you out. Ask him,i bet he'd be really happy to tell you whats going on!
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Q: I have liked this guy (we will call him george) for awhile. I never told anyoen so he ended up going out with one of my friends (we will call her katie). So they went out for awhile and for about the last week george has been flirting with me a lot since we were in a play together and we had a lot of rehearsals. Well, katie started to notice that he was flirting with me and then he wouldnt with her. So a few days ago George broke up with katie, katie seemed all excited about it. Then the next day she came up to me and told me i should go out with him. Do you think she is jealous? Or if she really wanted to let go and be set free? i dont want to go out with the guy if its really going to hurt her :-/

~Signed, Friend or Foe?

i think that if your best firend is telling you thqt you shpould go out with a guy, go for it., she won't be mad at you because she told you to do it. I don't think she jelous, she probab;y jrealized that her are george weren't good together and that you and george would be better

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Q: Okay!Well a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend who I am madly in love with. He is in love with me too but it is a long distance relationship, so I thought that he and I being friends would be the best thing for now. Yeah I couldnt see him whenever I wanted but just being able to talk to him made me happy. Our relationship was made up of trust and love. He is so in love with me. I miss him so much. He is now dating a gurl who he loves as a friend not a gf. we havent talked since we broke up bc it is so hard too. I had my friend call him and I grabbed the phone when he picked it up and hung up. Then she called back and talking to him. He wanted to talk to me but i couldnt bc it was too hard. I kno that no matter what he wants to be with me in the future but right now it is to hard. I also kno that no matter what he will never stop loving me. But what I am getting at is that I dont kno what to do without him .I feel so lost and empty. Like he always used to tell me that he loved me before I went to sleep and it was so conforting. I miss that so much. What should I do? he and I have been through so much in the past and its stuff that is unforgettable. Do you think that he and I will be together in the future. BC he said he wants to me and I DO MORE THEN ANYTHING.Its like if u are in love with someone and it is meant to be then it will happpen right? i hope so!

if you are so in love with this guy, call him up right now and tell him!! you have to because if you don't, something could happen, eliminating any chances of ever having a future together. If you don't talk for a few years, when you finally talk again so many things will have changed, and theres a chance that you will be so different from before that you won't want each other any more. I know you keep saying thaty he'll love you forever, but time moves so fast and you have no idea what will happen or who you'll meet in the future. This advice might have confused you but what im trying to say is that you guys should get back together.
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Q: Over the summer i spent most of my time with my infatuation...lets call him fred. So fred and i were dating on and off during the summer but we always liked each other. We never dated anyone else and we spent the days talking to each other or hanging out. Before school started he asked me out again and then went on a 2 and 1/2 week vaca. Sfter he got back he broke up with me. It was like the first thing he said to me. I was crushed. Because i felt that i fell in love with him...and at one point he told me "i love you" but when i asked him if he meant it he wasnt sure. Now that school has started he was introduced to my bestfriend...lets call her mary. I have been so crushed because they both like each other and mary isnt even being conciterate of my feelings. They always flirt in front of me and it drives me nuts. Some nights i even cry myself to sleep. How do i get over this? Or how do i win him back? I would rather win him back...i really loved him with all my heart...and still do...

btw, sorry it was so long, but i rate high!:-)

~Signed, Lost in Love

oooo, thats so sad!!! I don't know exactly how you can win him back because i don't know what kind of person fred is. Just be yourself, be really nice to mary and fred. If you want to impress him, do something that you wouldn;t normally do, something nicefor another person or something. Most importantly, don't let him know that your jelous and frusterated with mary (assuming you are {i would be}) I really hope this helps!@!!!!
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Q: i met this guy the otehr nioght and we totally clicked. we're really into each other. only one problem i look older than i am so he though i was 19 and he looks younger than he is so i thought he was 18. turns out i'm 15 and hes 23. hes really cute and nice and funny and i know people are thinking omg hes a prev but the thing is i never fall for anyone. i havent met a erson in ages whose even made me look twice but i keep having all these dreams about him and i get butterflies everytime i think of him. it feels like this is the one time i could be happy and i feel like the only thing about me thats acutially 15 is my age the rest of me is older. what do i do?

I think that if you really love him you shouldn't worry about your age or what anybody else thinks. Just make sure its okay with your parents and everything. You should really jjust follow your heart and do what you think is the best decision.
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Q: My best friend I and both like the same guy. He recently asked her out, and now everyone thinks that I'm mad at her; and I'm not!! I think that she might belive what thery're saying, and I don't want our friendship to fall apart. PLEASE RESPOND ASAP!

~Liz

if you think shes going to believe those rumors then tell her that your not mad at her. Its pretty simple becuase your best friend should believe you over some rumor. Just talk to her, if shes a good friend she'll believe you.

Q: ok well a guy found out i liked him and he likes me but im not positive i like him becuz i like other guys too. what should i do when i see him tommrow? AHH ill rate u a 5!

wHEN YOU see him tomarrow you should just hang out with him like you are really good friends. See what happens, if you really like him as a boyfriend then you should ask him out or something. If not, and you wanna go with one of those other guys, then just treat him like a friend and be his friend!!
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Q: (14-f) Okay..i met this guy ova tha summa...n we r real g0od friendz..well i am crushin 4 his older brother big time !! hes a junior(im a freshman) and he can drive..well last night he came ova to my house n it was me him my friend steph & one of his friendz...well we were hangin out n stuff n it was SOO AWESOME !he has a g/f but they r sorta...ech right now...they r both confused n yeah but anywayz...i like him alot n last night we hugged n stuff..n today i was tlakin to my mom n she said that since my friend Steph wont be in town tomarrow i should call up th guy i like n ask him if he wantz ta go see tha movie Saw with me tomarrow...just as friendz...i like him so much..n i would pay for myself n stuff so it would be as friendz but it would be so nice to hang out wit him like just us !! n my mom REALLA approves of him n yeah...my mom n sisters n stuff think i should call n ask him but wit tha phone im SOO NERVOUS !!! PlZzZz help ! should i just go ahead n call him ?? PLZ HELP ! Sm0ochez

if you really really like guy then ask him. You guys will have an awesome time. Think about it this way, THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN IS HIM SAYING NO. Go for it!! I totally would. good luck, sorry if this is really short !
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Q: hi
I'm 27 years old male from Windhoek,Namibia.
my girlfriend and i broke up after two years of healthy relationhsip.i still love her very much though and i'm pleading day and night for her to give it another try.i know her decision was made by the influence of some of her family. her family pretents alot with me,but i don't have a problem with them.altough i'm now living 400km away from her i still can't get her out of my mind.she was and still is the best thing that has ever happen to me.
please help me..what do i do to get her back.
Thank you
Haroldt

ohh, thats so sad!! If i was in your shoes and ther was no way i could get her back, I would distract myself. I would focus more on work/school what ever you're doing. Eventually you'll move on, time heals all wounds. Someday you'lll find somebody new.
If this isn;t an option for you, than talk to her, and maybe do something really nice for her or help somebody she loves. I hope everything works out!!
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by the way...where is Namibia???

Q: Ok, theres this guy that I like who I met through one of my friends. Hes really cool and *really* funny, and my friend says he likes me too. Ok, well this has been going on for a while and nothing has really happened like he hasn't said anything, and I don't wanna say anything because he seems like the kind of person that will say something when theres something to say. My friend says to just ask him out, but I'm not going to do that, I think if he wants to go out with me he'll ask me (like I said he's not the kinda guy whos too shy to make the first move) Then my friend said that if I wanna go out with him I should ask him because he like...gets girlfriends fast or something like that but I don't want to ask him because I dont want it to end up like last time when I asked a guy I *really* cared about and he said yes but then i found out that he didnt like me all that much and hes just a fucking man whore but im not gonna get into that because im gonna end up fucking exploding...but basically i dont want that to happen if he wants to go out with me hell ask me, im not gonna ask him and just have him be like "sure why the hell not, its not important" but yeah i could use some help coz im kinda confused i mean would he have said something by now? he knos i like him do you think that maybe he doesnt like me anymore or what...

I think that you should spend some time talking to him, getting to know him better. Maybe if he talks with you he'll relize how much he really likes you, or how much he doesn't (not likely ;oD) You can also ask your friend to talk to him, but that would be a little wierd;) your best bet is to talk to him, and see what happeneS!!! I really hope everything works out, leave a message in my inbox if you have any more questions!!Good luck
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Q: ok i really like this one guy but hes popular and im not exactly the most popular kid in school! but i really like him! wut could i do to make him notice me?

If you really like this guy you shouldn't chaznge yourself to make him like you. Try talking to him while he's not around all of his friends, like after school or before classes. But if he turns outto be a real jerk and doesn't like you because of your social status than don't waste your time. Find somebody who likes you for who you are.