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Hello, my name is Jessica, but I go by the name Fornorina online :)
I have had loads of experiences lately, so I figured I could lend some more people a hand with what I have to say.
I am going to try and answer a few questions every day via the Random Question link as I think it's a really good way to see questions.
I hope I can answer a lot of questions and give you some good advice.
My friends have always told me I give good advice, because I say everything from my heart and my previous experiences.
I think I can help a lot of people on Adivenators, because I know a lot about my favourite catorgories which you will see below.
My friend commit suicide last year, so I am still not over that because it's been my first death.
Please don't hesitate to contact me with any questions you have via email or straight into my inbox on advicenators.
Thanks :) X

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I asked this guy from my work to go out with me and other friends, and we had a real good time. My friends left and it was just me and this guy for hours, I stayed forever at his house, we made out and other things..

He said he liked me.
I went out of town for a while. When I got back he totally just acted like we were strictly friends. I asked him bout it and he said he didn't want a girlfriend. He promised me though that he really did like me and thinks I'm cool.

So we are friends, we dint kiss, or have any sexual content, but he still asks me to hang with him just to hang out.
and i always catch him looking at me, or just touching me casually, all flirty like.

I dont get him. SO many times I have wanted to kiss him, but I'm scared to bc he made it clear...
I want to be more than friends. What should I do now?

From what I gather, you two have rushed into things way too fast.
If he has completely told you that he doesn't want a relationship, then he means it. But there could rightly be someone else.
I think he could be afraid of what would come next if he actually committed to you.
Hang out, by all means, but you know what he said.
If you want a relationship with him, tell him when the time is right and you've hung out more (as friends...) so you can get to know him a little better. Also, you should tell him that you don't want to rush into a relationship (if/when you tell him you want something more).
Good luck! :)

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my boyfriend.. lies bad. just about everything,and he lies about uu




I always think that you shouldn't be with someone you cannot trust.
As he's lying, confront him about it - ask him what is going on, and if not then you're out.

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There's this guy. He's basically my best friend, and though he's told me before: "I see you as a sister, not a girl I'd ever date... but we can fuck sometime:)" (Ok, I know what you're thinking, but he's not a douche! haha, the whole "screwing thing", that's just how we joke around with eachother). we still text/call every single day and flirt and hang out and what not... I can't help but to fall for the guy that's always there for me, supporting me, making me laugh, protecting me... And I know he doesn't like any other girls. Except for this one girl... We were playing the "questions game" and he asked me if I had to date someone, who would it be. But I said "I don't wanna answer that. what would you say?" and he goes "(girl in his grade's name). Not cause I like her... but she's nice and we talk every so often". He wants to ask her to prom... This girl. She IS nice. And she's not ugly or anything like that. She's just kind of... plain? That's not a nice thing to say but... She's just so... UGH. Hahaha I'm sorry, I can't explain it. There's just something about her that bugs me. Maybe it's his interest in her?? I just can't help but think that him and I are so RIGHT for eachother. But I don't think he sees it that way. He says he loves me like his sister. Which I don't know... I guess I love him like that too. He's really protective of me. He doesn't like guys taking me out, hitting on me, touching me, basically even talking to me... He says no ones good enough for me. Whatever. I don't know what to do. It's like a punch in the gut when I think about him with any other girl. But it's weird to think about me with him like that too... I can't sort out the feelings of brotherly love from the feelings of what might be something different. How can he want to talk to me and see me everysingle day and not care about me the way I do for him...? Or think I do...? I just don't know what to do because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know if I could live without him... haha, not literally of course, but you know what I mean. Can anyone PLEASE just help me sort all of this out...??? (Oh, we HAVE both admitted there is... uh, physical attraction, but we've never kissed anywhere but the cheek. We kinda cuddle sometimes...) I'm 15, girl. He's 16, almost 17)

If you cannot bare to see him with any other girl, cannot go a day without thinking or speaking to him, then you have a LOT of feelings for him, but I think that came across quite well when I read your question.
What I am trying to say is that, you need to tell him how you feel. I know it might sound crazy at first and you're thinking "I could never tell him that!", well you can! and it will be so much better for you and him if you did.
I know you are worried about breaking your friendship, I quite understand that, but you need to tell him how you feel otherwise he will never know and you will never know whether he likes you back, and whether you indeed like him.
I think the only way to know whether it's right with someone is to actually TRY.
I mean, what is the harm in that? Because if you both like each other in that way then you could try it on a trial basis to see whether it works out.
As you have said, there is some physical attraction which you both have expressed, therefore to me, that would suggest trying it out.
If you don't feel ready to tell him how you feel, I always think it's best just to stick to where you are and continue having fun with eachother, laughing, joking, hang out etc, and then see where that takes you.
You may end up together in the end. But remember - everything happens for a reason!
Good luck, let me know if I can do anything else for you! :)

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20/F

I met this guy, Sean, at a party around October of last year. We have a lot of mutual friends and one day, ended up sitting by each other at a basketball game. It was a lot of fun and we talked and danced the whole time. All of our friends kept saying we looked cute together and that we should date. Of course, I hardly knew the kid so I just rolled my eyes. We didn't talk much again, only when we saw each other at basketball games we would say hello.

Randomly this semester, I ran into him at another party. He was really drunk and I had been drinking as well, so we talked and I flirted with him--a lot. The next weekend, I saw him again and we figured out we had a class together so we decided to sit next to each other. At this point, I hardly talked to Sean, but at this party, he left with another girl, and I, having had some drinks in me, was devastated. However, everything was fine and I ended up sitting with him in class and it was honestly the most fun I ever had in a class whilst paying attention, lol.

Flash forward to now. We talk everyday. Literally, every day. He texted me almost everyday I was gone on spring break. He IMs me as soon as I'm online. Once in a while he'll drunk dial me just to talk. As far as I know, he has not hooked up with any other girls since that one day I mentioned above. EVERYONE asks me about "us", including some of his best friends. I feel weird when we don't talk. Basically, I'm falling for him...hard.

Here's where I'm confused: last night we were IMing each other on facebook, and randomly he told me he was upset so I asked him to tell me about it. And from what I gathered, he was just thinking about his ex-girlfriend that broke up with him months ago, and it really bothered me. He told me he was over her but he's mad because she's not making an effort to be friends with him and purposely ignores him...already I can tell that he's so hung up on her. He also told me he thinks if they tried to communicate more through the long distance (skype calls, visits, etc), that he would still be dating her.

Now I'm all confused because I was SURE he liked me and then he drops this bomb...I've not told him I liked him yet but I'm not the type of girl with the confidence to do that. PLUS, I'm not ready for rejection right now...Any ideas? I'm just lost...we never talk about boys or girls in front of each other, we always made it point to not talk about cute guys or girls or exes to each other....it's just weird.

I totally agree with the first answer here, he DOES like you.
From everything you've said, he definitely likes you but I think you need to make that clear to him otherwise he will only see you as a good friend.
Hopefully there's a party soon for you both and you can properly tell him and maybe make the first move.
But between then and now, continue to have a good time with him in class - there's no harm in that! - and when he brings up his ex-girlfriend, you could tell him that she's not worth the time, everything happens for a reason and that he deserves better - someone like you!
good luck :)

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So I like this guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me! I think he likes this really pretty popular girl in my class but I'm not sure. He's really cute and I just want to go up to him and say I like you alot but I can't say it!! What should I do to get him to like me or what I should say to him! We both are athletic and play baseball for the same team! :D

Talking to a guy you really like is always tricky business. But I've heard guys say that they prefer confident girls to any other.
You day you are both on the same baseball team! That's awesome!! Because you can just talk to him about that. Seriously, the best way to get to know a guy is by just having a normal conversation, like, "how are you?", "what have you been up to lately?" "got any plans for this weekend?" or try talking about something that's happening that next weekend that might be fun to go to, and ask if he's going (like a party or something like that). Or perhaps you have seen something on the news or read in a magazine something that's quite interesting? You could share that too.
Don't worry about being flirty or anything like that, just try to have a good conversation about baseball for starters!
Good luck,
- Fornorina

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Do they like being called baby, sweetie, sweetheart ect.?

Just curious.
Haha

I would start with babe and baby, and maybe darling as well.
But maybe you would like nickname kind of things? You should just discuss that with him yourself.

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Hey I love your advice so I thought I'd give this a shot!:)

Last summer, my friend and I met up with this guy peter and his friend. Initially, my friend was meeting up with peter and I was suppose to talk to his friend. Keep in mind this was the first time any of us were meeting each other. Well peter ended up liking me and his friend was trying to get with my friend, but didn't work out as well. Peter and I would text each other and try to hang out but one of us would be busy when we would try .. but he would be really sweet about it. I remember I said something like I wont be able to see you for a couple weeks because I'm going on vacation!! And he was like oh babe, that is going to suck!! Just sweet little things like that, the little things couunt for me. Well then we just sort of stopped talking and my friend had texted him recently asking if he wanted to hang out with me and her. Well things didn't work out (I don't know the reason) but I feel like messaging him on facebook saying something like..

"Hey Peter I heard syd (my friend) was trying to get you to hang out with us .. I haven't talked to you in a while .. too bad you couldnt."

I don't know what to say. He lost all his numbers I guess because when my syd texted him he didnt know her number so I don't really want to text him first. I'd rather like message him on facebook, see what he says, and then start texting and stuff. I don't want it to be all random, but if I texted him saying it was me I don't know if he would remember who it was at first .. becauase the last time we talked was last summer so if I messaged him on facebook first, he would see my picture and remember.

Anyways, do you think thats a good idea? What do you think I could say to him that would not make me look dumb? Thanks for taking the time to read, I'll return the favor :)

Hey there, I'm glad you asked me for some advice, I will try to answer the best I can for you :)
It seems like you four have this friendship that's like, friendly friends and then sometimes more... If you get what I mean.
I think it would totally be a good idea. I mean you two don't have to be like boyfriend/girlfriend and going on dates to hang out as friends. I always guy friends that I can hang out with whilst shopping in town or something and never get too close to each other to be put into a situation like becoming more.
I think you should just Facebook chat or wall post him asking like the usual stuff, and say how you were bummed when he couldn't go to meet with you guys as well. Just try to make the conversation kind of flow and use the usual questions to get going.
I don't think anything would make you look dumb to be honest. I think sticking to the usual conversational starters, you will be fine.
Because, put it this way, you probably know those guys better than I do, so I can only speak from previous experiences.
When I used to start talking to a guy, it would just be like, how are you? been up to much lately? hows school? got any plans this/next weekend? you know, the usual things and maybe once you start talking, I always find that there is something else that you've like heard on the news of read in a magazine that you can include and start to progress the conversation further.
I think the Facebook chat/wall post thing is a great idea, because I know that like everyone goes on there everyday to just generally see what's going on with they're friends.
I think over time, and with a little effort of course, you will start texting again and becoming more close as friends. Maybe even ask him when he's free as well? That way you can hang out with him (if you want to of course).
Good luck! And I hope I've helped you out.
- Fornorina

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so i met this guy at a party. actually, i didn't even meet him. we didn't really even speak a word to each other hah but he was only there for a little. somehow he ended up getting on my camera, i guess someone took a picture of him so i added him on facebook. he messaged me and then we exchanged numbers and starting texting alot. he's kinda been flirting a little and we're supposed to hang out soon. are there any ways to not make things awkward? we've never talked in person and i'm not a real "meet someone online kinda person" if you know what i mean so i don't really know how to play it lol so i would loovee any help or advice

Honestly, I am usually like that too.
But I would just be yourself, because if you like him, and you want him to like you back, you should show him the real you. I'm sure at first it will be a little awkward, but I think every first hang out with someone new is, don't you think?
I'd just start with the usual conversations, if you know what I mean - the, hows school been? Got any plans next weekend? Any new parties? Maybe with these starters something else has happened with your friends or on the news so you can talk to him about that too, and he might even share his views with you too.
What about talking about music as well? You never know, you might have a lot in common with this new guy.
Good luck chick,
- Fornorina

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Hello, I am 16, and i am so sick of my life i really am. So far i ahve llost alot of my close friends,well what i thought was my best friends. They all left because well im not sure really.But have you ever just wanted to give up? yeh thats what i want to do really.give up. not sure what to do anymore. this life that everyone is talkinga about,this great life,is nothing but a lie.

I have to tell you, that there are a lot of other things that can be worse. Like, majorly worse.
Think about it this way, you are only 16 - so that means you've only lived 1/8 of your life!!
You have loads of things that is going to happen in the next 10 years that is more important than losing those friends like:
-A job
-College
-University
-A career which you will love
-Getting married
-Having kids and making your own family.
You might not want some of those last things, but the others are really important because they shape your future more than the friends you have just lost. Put it this way, they clearly didn't like you for YOU, and when you meet new friends when you get 1). a job, and 2). when you're in college, you will say to yourself, "why on Earth did I waste all of that time and energy on them?!"
Seriously, I bet there are loads more people at your school that would like to be more than just "class mates" or "acquaintances" with you.
I hope I helped, and good luck!
- Fornorina

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I have known this guy for a year now we have been talking alot and i like him.. anyhoo he texts me every day after school and wants to hang with me and he says all this sweet stuff to me and was like thinking about someone lately and he finally told me it was me so what does he mean does he like me or what?

That means he totally into you.
Just go for it! What have you to lose? ;)
- Fornorina

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Okay I like this boy, we have kissed a few times, and I really like him. Were friends on facebook yet never talk,and everytime i see him its usually at a club where ive been drinking. A lthough he always says hello i think its cos hes just nice. How do I know/ get him to reciprocate feelings?

Hey there,
Guy troubles can sure be hellish, but if you really like someone, you should let them know.
I think someone else replied saying that you should just ask him out to dinner - I totally agree. The only way you will actually know that he likes you back, is to converse with him however you can. Text, call, Facebook chat is always a very good one as well.
Maybe when you are in a conversation with him over IM or whatever you use, you can just pop the question, "are you liking any particular girls recently?" That way, providing he's an honest guy, you will find out some more about him.
Also, I would just build up on your friendship - that's the best way to get to know someone.
I hope this helped!
- Fornorina x

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