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My name is Meghan. I am a junior and I like to hear people's problems and try to help them. I'm going to college to be a pyschologist so i'm thinking this will be good practice. You can ask anything.

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about two years ago i met a guy and we became really really good friends then about nine months later we started dating, at first it was really wierd for me becuase we had been so close but i knew that i liked him as more than a friend so we continued dating...we dated for about six months and got pretty close but people talked a lot of shit about us and kept telling me he was cheating on me with his ex. i talked to her and she told me that they hardly even talked anymore but she admited that she still liked him. another month later we got in a stupid argument really over nothing and it ended. for about 2 months we still talked a lot and were pretty close but all of a sudden we stopped talking. i still think about him all the time and i wish we could at least just talk again, ive heard that he thinks that i dont wanna talk to him becuase he thinks that i dont care about him anymore, his best friend told me that he still kinda likes me even though he has a little fling with a new girl, should i try to start talking to him again, or just let it be?

I think that if you really like him still then you should talk to him, even just as friends. If you think that he is pretty close to this new girl, i think you should just let it go and be friends with him. Hope i helped. Good luck.

what is a good way to get a guy? i like this guy so much but im afraid to do anything. an advice?

Well, talk to him first. And then if he shows you any signs of liking you back, then you should tell him how you feel. But talking to him is a good place to start. Hope i helped and good luck!

Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for a really long time, and we are in love with each other. He is 16 and I am 15. He has fingered me and I have given him a hand job. I know that we are going to have sex and looses our virginities to each other, but not yet though. For part of his Christmas present, I was going to give him head, but I've never done it before. He has no idea yet, and I want it to be a surprise. The thing is, he's gotten head before from an ex-girlfriend, but I've never given anyone head. I know what it is and everything, but how do you give it! My question is this: How do you give really good head?

well honestly, i have never given head yet. So i wouldn't know what to tell you on that one. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 yrs and havent done anything cause we want to take everything slow. Um, i guess maybe you should ask him about it or one of your friends who has, if there are any. I think he would be the best person to ask this cause he woudl know how he'd like it. I do realize it's a surprise but maybe you could casually ask him without him knowing you are going to be doing it.

Whenever I eat something in front of my boyfriend, I get all embaressed. I guess its because Im afraid I'll get food on my lips or face or something like that, so I only take a bite when he's looking away. Its so weird - I dont even notice Im doing it until he says something to me. I feel stupid eating when he's staring right at me tho. Does anyone have any suggrestions for what I can do to fix this ? Thanks a million.

t first i felt that way when my ex and i were together, but honestly, they don't care how you eat, as long as you dont scarf things down as soon as you get them. But just act natural, dont worry what he thinks, he wont think you are gross or anything. He's a guy, nothing really grosses them out. But i was a little skeptible to eat in front of my ex and i said that to him and he said that it was ok, that it's cute to see a girl eat. I guess because we are so picky about everything. I hope that helped.

Recently I have been experimenting with oral sex on myself. Im not sure if thats gross or not but my girlfriend loves to give head, but i ejaculate too fast for her to enjoy it. Im only doing this myself to build up tolerance. It's actually for my girlfriend so its not wrong, right?

how the hell are you giving urself oral? Whatever u are doing you should share with ur guy friends cause i'm sure they'd want to kno.

ok.. let's say there's this dude that's going out with one of ur bestfriends. it took him 2 months to grow the balls to kiss her. just kiss. a peck on the lips. yes. well. SHE wants him to move a little faster, y'kno?? otherwise it seems like they're NEVER gonna have sex. even when they're married!! *rolls eyes* neways. HOW do you talk him into moving a lil faster??? like.. ahem, tongue action. seriously. usually it's the girl that wants to take it slow.. so wuts wrong with the dude?but yeah. do you kno some way to get a guy to not be so shy??? thanks.

I don't know...just let nature take it's course...you can't just rush someone into doing something just cause you want them too. You could try talkin to him. But usually pushin ppl into something ususally makes it worse. They feel obligated to do what you want from then on. I think you should just let this friend of yours go at his own pace. Hope i helped you.

Ok, let me first start off by saying that this is wierd. I know who you are because i see you updating this at school. What were you do if i told you i had a crush on you...what would be your advice.

Well, i think you should come up to me and tell me that you like me. I'm pretty open about stuff like that so....I you think you should definately tell me. Hope that helped you.

I feel like such an idiot asking this, but how do you make out? I need help!! I'll rate you no matter what. PLEASE HELP ME!!

Well, you find a cozy spot, and depending on who moves in first, you kiss a few times and then open your mouth and stick your tongue in and then move it around......it is a lot better than it sounds....trust me...lol...hope that gives you an idea.

i have this guy friend that i like but he likes someone else and he says hes about to ask her out soon but i wanna go out with him, what do u think i should do?

I think you should tell him that you like him. Even if he's not sure about you, him knowing would probably change his mind. but you should talk to him. hope this helps you out.

i like this guy and its hard for me to get boyfriends what do u think i should do?

Well, you shoudl talk to him. Hang out with him a lot. But don't be too obvious. Don't get to become too hader for you to get together with him. Just be yourself and act natural. ODn;t try too hard. Talk to him as often as you get. If he likes you too then you should be good. Also maybe you should think of why you can't get a boyfriend. Maybe you do something that you don't realize that turns guys off.

Im 17 and alot of the times i think i might own my own corprate company and use that to pick up girls. Ive even made business cards for myself. And well, i think girls sleep with me just because they think im rich but what im looking for is passionate relationships where i can do the things real couples do. Like brush my teeth with her toothbrush without her caring, or even swap shoe laces when we get bored with our own shoe laces. How do you think I can find a relationship this meaningful? p.s. im not gay

Well, i don't think i've ever heard of a guy wanting to swap shoe laces but hey there's a first for everything.I think you shoudl stop sayin you think you own a company. And maybe you shouldn't make business cards. It seems to me that you are putting yourself in this position. maybe you should just stop it all together and look for really nice girls who want you for you and not for your money. Try hanging out with girls who shop in really cute stores, like A&E or abercrombie. I guess it would depned on the type of girl you are looking for but you should stop with the company thing. That's a bit weird. Take a girl out to a fancy dinner since you have money, but don't lead her on to thinking you will buy her what she wants cause then she may only want you for your money. Hope this helped.

I was talkin to my boyfriend last night, and out of no where he said that he needed to tell me somthin in a real serious voice. I got kinda nervous since we've never realy been serious before, we're alwayse lauphing and having a good time. So he said- (remember when we first started talking and you asked me if i'm a virgin and i said yes.... well i'm not. I just said that because i didnt want it to be akward if i told you that soon. Then he said that everything else he has said to me has been true, and he felt bad that he hadnt told me before.) When he told me this i didnt know what to say.I feel really uncomfortable with it. I'm not going to do it with him, since i'm only 15 and i dont believe in that, but i dont want him to go off to some other girl when i say no. What should i do, because i really like this guy. He is one of the nicest people i have every met and i still really like him?!?!?!?!?! Please help

Have you talked to him about it? Since he feels bad for lying to you about it, he may be okay with not wanting to have sex yet with you until you are ready. If he hasn't asked you yet or hasn't made any moves letting you know he wants to, then maybe he just wanted to tell you so that he wouldn't feel guilty with it anymore. i really think you should tell him how you feel. And maybe he won't leave you for another girl. Try talkin to him though. it may help greatly.

i like this guy at my church i'm 15 and he is 16 but i dont talk to him. i am to scared to and i don't know whats to say to him plus i only get to see him twice a week, what shoud i do?

Well, maybe you should get his phone number and hang out with him on the weekends if either of you aren't busy. You could also invite him over after school if you guys have time. you should talk to him though. You could become friends first and then date if you are still interested in him. Hope i helped you out.

Every body at my school has a boyfriend ir girlfriend.. I act myself and every thing.. What I am getting to is What do Guys look for in a girl!! and plz nothing Gross

Well...from what i've heard...most guys are looking for sex, BUT, my ex liked me for who i was and mostly the personality is what they look for.

I have an older sister who's absolutely gorgeous . and even though she's quite horrible to me , she always acts nice in front of everyone else . especially guys . recently , i realised that i liked this guy friend of mine , A LOT . more than friends . even though i'm quite cute and stuff , my sister always gets WAY more attention than me . especially with this guy . it hurts me when i see them sitting together , talking , my sister in her seductive voice , and him smiling .it hurts a LOT . WHAT SHOULD I DO ?

Hav eyou talked to you siuster about this? If not, you should. She should understand how you feel even if it hurts you and her both. Your sistwer shouldn't be treating you that way. If she is as gorgeous as you say she is, then she shouldnt be tryin to seduce your friends. especially if she is older than you, whether she likes the attention or not. Talk to her. It should work. BUt talk to her mor ethan once about it until she sees what she realy is doing. Another good idea is to video tape her without her knowing it and then show her the tape. Maybe then it will show her how she really is. Sometimes people don't know they are doing it cause they do it so much. Hope that helps.

I'm afraid 2 ask this guy out because he is one of my good friends! He is giving me mixed signals! What should i do? I am to scared 2 ask him out!

If you haven't talked to him yet about wanting to date him, maybe you should. If he doesn't feel the same about you then I wouldn't try anything. Losing a really good friend could be a hard thing for you. Give him clues letting him know that you are interested in him. But don't have you friends talk to him for you. That could result in problems. Just be yourself if you do date. Don't let him know taht you've changed if you do. Dating a friend can be weird especially if you are best friends. Just take things slow. You don't have to ask him out. But maybe you should give him hints that you are interested.

I am 14, in ninth grade, and I am female.

Okay, first I'm going to give a little backround information.

I had a boyfriend that tried to cheat on me with his ex girlfriend. I knew that I couldn't trust him ever again, so I broke up with him yesterday. Don't worry, I feel really good about it.

Well, a few days ago, I found out from one of my friends that another friend of mine, Ricky, likes me. At first, I wasn't sure I could trust the friend that told me, T.J., because T.J. is weird like that. Then, my best friend Megan told me yesterday that Ricky has liked me for a long time.

My question is, is it okay to go ahead and date Ricky so soon after dumping my previous boyfriend?

~ClarinetKtM

Well, depending on how much you like this guy or how much you were involved in your last relationship, it depends on if you should go ahead and date this guy. If you have no feelings for your ex and you want to date Ricky, then go for it.

my boyfriend is my best friend. we were together for 4 months in the past and now weve been together for 3 months. we have so much fun together, when were not fighting. but were always fighting it seems. he says bad things about himself or how he doesnt think we will ever be fully open with eachother, even though were both trying to be. He gets jealous really easily and he thinks hes just another guy to me.... and hes not and I have told him that soooo many times. I dont know what to do but I want all the fighting to stop. Please help.... thanks!

What you need to do is sit down with him and tell him how you feel about the way you guys fight. Explain to him that you enjoy being with him, but when you fight it's hard to act around him. I really don't know how to help in this situation because my boyfriend and i barely fight. Maybe you should find out the main cause of all these arguments and prevent it from happeneing. I think the best thing to do though is to just sit down with him and explain how you feel about the fighting. Let him know that you really care about him and he's not just "another" guy. You could also do more activities together like going out more. That might get him more involved in you and less fighting would occure.

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