Hey guys and girls.. My name's kenzi. I've go around all the time giving advice to my friends and fixing problems that mostly aren't mine. Believe it or not i do care about YOU. I care about your problems and i care about helping you fix them. Please ask me anything.. even if you're kinda confused.. maybe i can help. Don't be afraid and don't be embarassed to ask me nething! i will do my absolute best to help you. I've been through a lot and have a lot of knowledge. Many people call me an "old soul" which is kind of annoying but true. I am an all around positive person and i will do my absolute best to help you with your problems.. don't hesitate to contact me netime.. hope to help!
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ok well, im a girl,im 15 and im a freshman, i started doing track in december and i met this guy that i really liked and it turned out that he liked me too so we started talking on the phone and then he asked me out in jan., he was really the first boyfriend i ever had, when we started going out, i didnt tell my parents because they dont really want me to date until i turn 16 because they are quite over protective, so he stated waiting for me after every class and walked me to class and he always talked to me online and told me how much he missed me when i wasnt with him or talked to him, and he told me he loved me everytime we hung up the phone or left eachother and we never really hung out outside of school or track, so one day i waited for him like i always did and he didnt meet me where we usually did and it was valentines day, i thought that maybe he just wasnt in school, so then i saw him at lunch and he didnt even look at me, so then that day at track i asked him if he was mad at me and he said no, and then didnt talk to me for the rest of the day, so then he began to avoid me everyday and didnt really talk to me that much anymore, then i found out that my best friend sue* liked him and he had gone over her house one day and they talked on the phone like all the time, so i asked him about it and he was like i still really like you im just mad at the fact that you didnt tell your parents when we started going out, and he told me that i never talked to him on the phone even though i did, then i was like are we still even like going out and for like a couple of weeks he was like idk, but i still like you, so one day i was like its a yes or no are we going out and then he said no i guess and then two weeks later he asked out my best friend Sue*..i dont kno what to think, did he ever like me in the first place, or is he just trying to cover up that fact that he still likes me, i have been trying to move on, but its hard because i dont know if it was something that i did wrong and if it is, i dont want it to happen again, can you please help me, im so confused, thanks so much
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I think he did like you.. this is really confusing for a guy.. dating. he likes one girl but he's getting feelings for another.. i think he's really confused.. more than you and it's gonna take him time.. it was all him babe you did nothing wrong.. i hope i helped
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i am in seventh grade and i am a girl the thing is i would like these guys and if they like me we would go out fo about a week then i'd usually dump them because i met someone unner then the same thing would happen. i don't know what it is but after a week or two i find someone funner to be with and find the boyfrined i am with boring so i dump them and date those other guys. im not a slut im still a virign. i want a type of commitment. can anyone help me choose one guy and one guy only? (link)
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i did the same thing too for a while.. it's completly natural.. your just unsatisfied with the guys you are with.. just keep doing what your doing except maybe try to be friends with a guy for a week or two first.. then maybe you'll see you do or don't really want to go out with him. hope i helped.. and you'll find the right guy that you want a commitment with.. when you know you know.
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ok so on like wed. my best friend asked my boyfriend if him and i would go to her boyfriends laX game with her next weekend and then i said i wasnt sure if i could yet or no so she told my boyfriend that if i couldnt go then just them could go. but then yesterday after school she got on the computer and IMed my boyfriend and was tellin him how hes a bad boyfriend and he treats me bad and stuff but he doesnt. and tonite i was supposed to go to the movies with him, and one of my other friends. but that girl(the one that IMed him) told him that if i cant go then he shouldnt go with the other girl cuz then thats wrong. but thats like the same thing as how she told him that if i cant go to the laX game he can go with her together. and since she told him hes a bad boyfriend and stuff hes got that in his head that he is and i tell him hes not and he doesnt listen. i dont know what to do about any of this.
sorry its so long...ill rate high (link)
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Tell your friend to back off. I think she likes your boyfriend and she wants him to think you don't like him and get him broken up with you and make him feel so guilty that he won't go out with any other girl except her. Tell your friend that she needs to leave you and your boyfriend alone. She's trying to tear you too apart and she needs to go.
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Ok here it is. I am a 16 year old male. My best friend for the past 2 years has this really pretty sister. She is smart, funny, nice to talk to and everything i am looking for in a female. There is just one problem I am 16 and she is 21. Do you think that age is an issue? How should I go about asking if there could be anything between us wether it is now or later? What should i do? (link)
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umm.. well it is a huge difference hun.. i don't think you have much of a chance but if you do think there is chemistry just be romantic.. like leave her a note in her room or car or whatever and tell her you like her.. all girls like to know they are liked.. and ask her if nething could ever happen.. you never know good luck!
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ok. heres the deal. im 14 yrs. old and have this 18 yr. old boyfriend. i will be 15 in july . well we started going out 2 weeks ago. i know its not a long time but ive been crushin on this guy for like 2 monthes and he finally asked me out. i was soo happy. so i wanted my parents to meet him so we could go out to places and stuff. so he came over and stayed for an hour or so then we went out. well i lied to my parents saying he was only 17. bc if they found out he was 18 theyd flip out and not let me see him. well my parents found out he was 18 . i dont know how though. they wont tell me. so im not allowed to be with him. he gave me his necklace to wear and my dad took it and has it right now. he's not allowed to call me and i cant call him and i cant chill with him or anything. im not allowed to even chill with him at school either. isnt that crazy!? so anyways my parents hate his guts. they say he's an ass and he's way too old for me but i dont think he is. i really like him. he bought me a white gold diamond heart necklace. i love it! so i dont know what to do. my dad wants him to stay away from me and if he dont then they'll get him arrested for being with a minor. ive tried convincing my parents this past week begging, crying to just let me be with him. they just yelled at me more. my parents think im not a virgin anymore either and that im doing drugs. so they took me to get drug tested. they got the results back yesterday and im clean. :) . so i dont know what to do. help (link)
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ok well first off tell them obviously they're wrong about a lot because they were wrong about you doing drugs. Then tell them that they can see the guy cares about you if a. he's risking all this and b. he gave you such an expensive gift.. maybe also mention the fact that they are hypocrits because they liked him when they thought he was 17. tell your parents you want to see him and (be mature) tell them that they need to let you make your own decisions.. you are almost 15.. make sure you talk to them sensibly.. let them find for themselves that you are mature enough to have an 18 year old boyfriend.. hope i helped sweets
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i really like this girl and i dont kno if she likes me...and i dont kno if i should like anyone right now cus i want to be single for the summer time..but i really liek this gilr and if we went out into the summer time then we would hang out alot and we'd she eachother everyday..but idk..help me out (link)
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talk to her.. even if she doesn't like you back every girl likes to hear that a guy likes them every now and then. i'm sure it'll be ok and i'm sure if you tell her you like her this much she'll say yes.
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alright me and my x boyfriend d went out for over a year. and we broke up before we broke up hes like you promise you wont go out with my best friend adam or dylan and i said sure. well now me and dylan have been hanging out lately..yeah i did like him and he def. likes me but my best friend dl likes him too and this happened before we both liked the same guy and i got him and me nd dl didnt talk for over 2 yrs and now were best friends again and i dont want that too happen. so i def. dont want to go out with him but my x bf d told dylan that i was guna mess with his head and now since he knew i liked him and if i tell him i dont hes going to be like d was right and probably get really mad but he knows we cant go out and i said yesturday too him whats the use? and hes like what do u mean whats the use i rly like you and i dont know what too do i was with dylan yesturday and d came it was terrible d was interogating me like we were still going out he has no right to do that, but i dont know i was scared and i wanted to cry, but me and d broke up 2 weeks ago, i def. dont want a bf but i want dylan just as a friend now and for him not too like me and yesturday i guess i didnt try too good cause we were siting next to eachother with his arm around me and stuff so what should i do? PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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umm.. just sit back and wait it out.. seems like too much is going on.. tell ur friend you don't want to date this guy so she can have him.. then tell your ex to lay off.. he doesn't have control over you anymore.. then tell this guy that you want him as a friend and your ex is just jealous.. maybe everything just needs time to simmer so everyone can get their head on straight.. hope i helped
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Theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.
But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM. Which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.
The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.
So what I would like to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)
I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)
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oook chill for a sec.. i don't think he likes you i think he's just trying to be a nice guy. He might like you but definatly don't be the one to make the first move.. let him come to you and if he likes you he will.. otherwise just enjoy being friends with him.. it's better then him hating you right? the world won't end with him at 13 trust me.. what's meant to happen will
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Hi, well im 15 and i go to a christian school so its small n every1 nos every1 else n i hav a really good guy friend whos a senior and i like him n i think he likes me.. we hang out all the time n he calls me n takes me places we always flirt n hang out n stuff n ppl always ask us if we r dating.. like even adults.. n he always like playfully teases me by sitting on my lap n stuff n the other day we were talking about my jeans that had holes in them n he poured water on me then i poured sum on him then he chased me around the room pouring water on me n caught me n dumped it on me n grabbed me n tickled me n gave me a big hug.. do u think he likes me? wut should i do? (link)
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There is a strong possibility that he could like you. But sometimes guys just want to be friends. And sometimes they just like you but aren't ready for a relationship w/you. My best advice is since you're so close to him.. just sit down and say 'i know we have a great time together.. but i'd like to know whether or not you see me as more than a friend' the more you hold it in the worse it will get and maybe you'll end up pushing him away cuz a. he doesn't think you like him or b. he thinks you like him too much and doesn't want a relationship.. i'd just say talk to him.. what's the worst that could happen? i mean at least you'll get some answers... let me know how it goes!
thanx for trusting me for advice!
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Ok well my boyfriend just randomly broke up with me-so im upset about that. and he just got a girlfriend...who is this girl that i totally hate!! but now i like this other guy. he always seems to be talking to other girls...so naturally im jealous. what should i do? (link)
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First.. forget about ur ex he's an ass and doesn't deserve you neways.. nexy you should talk to the guy and ask him if he has ne feelings for you.. sometimes it's easier to ask through a note or im.. but in person is always the best..hope i helped hun and good luck
xoxox-kenzi
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alright well my boyfriend gets very jelous sometimes. its partly because some of his friends like me. but he lives 40 min away and we dont go to the same school. which makes it worse. i dont know what to do to let him know that i will never cheat on him. i love him too much to do that. i dont know what to do to help him know that he's the only one i love and i will always want to be with him. any ideas? (link)
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Sit down and talk to him face to face. Ask him if he knows u love him. Ask him if he loves you. Tell him that you love him and you don't want to lose what you have because of 40 fricken minutes. tell him that if he really loves you then he'll wanna try.. if he's worth it hun then it can be done. if he doesn't want to do it then tell him that u obviously don't mean very much to him if he doesn't want to try. i dunno what else to tell yah hun except good luck..
hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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*sry if to long but please read*
well im in 7th grade and we have some 8th graders in my PE class. and theres this guy i think is pretty cute but ive never met him but were always kinda glancen at each other every once in a while n stuff and it might be a bit obvious that i think hes cute but idk if he thinks i am. anyways so today he was talking to these 2 girls and i was talking to 1 of my friends and one of them turned around and was all hey do yall think hes cute? so i was like uhh idk and i said softly (well i hope softly) liek not really and my friend was like no and they were like omg i think hes cute n stuff and i was kinda blushing. i would go out with him if he wanted to go out with me but im not sure and i REALLY hope that that didnt make any of a difference. id really kno what im asking, i just need someone to kinda tell me if i did the right thing or not
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I think you should just talk to him.. make friends. It might not be the easiest or the quickest process but if you talk to him and kinda flirty like then maybe he'll get the hint. He might or he might not like you.. it's too early to judge but i think u should just be friends with him first.. you don't know him well enough to go out yet.. hope i helped hun
xoxox-kenzi
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uhmm..ok...this guy (that iz my frend) asked me out a lot but everytime i give him some sort of excuse. This past time it was cuz of skewl. Now i like this guy n i wanna go out with him but i cant say yes 2 cuz then the 1st guy will kno that i lied n that i just dont wanna go out with him! i kant b mean! Help me pleeeez! (link)
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there's nothing you can do about it hun.. just say yes to the guy you want and maybe talk to the other one about it and tell him ur sorry u lied but u didn't want to hurt him.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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ok i have this guy friend,john, well john knows A LOT about me and we've been friends since like may, or something but anyways, he knows things about me that my friends that i've had since headstart and kindergarten dont even know! and hes like really hot and he has a girl friend and all but me and him are REALLY good friends, and anyways, the other day in class the was i was standing i could look at him and he wouldnt know, but im pretty sure i seen him checking me out, i mean he like looked at me from head to toe.. and he knows i think hes cute and all. and then today i was talking to him about his girlfriend and i asked him if he thought they'd be together for awhile and hes just like "yeah a long time" and i was just like oh cuz that was not the answer i wanted to hear, but i didnt tell him that, and then i said something about him flirting with other girls and hes like idont flirt with other people and i go yeah you do and i was like u can flirt with people and not realize it and hes like no i know when and who i flirt with and like im starting to think i have absoluetly no chance with him now.. i dont know..what do you think i should do? oh and this morning he said i should go to church with him sumtime!! PLZ HELP!!! im 14, female (link)
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Guys can be totally confusing.. trust the girl who's had 5 boyfriends in the past 2 years and gone out with a few of them multiple times.. it's very hard to understand what a guy really wants from you. he could have just been flirting with you cuz he was mad at his gf at the time or he could just want to be friends.. i had this really great guy friend and i messed it up by telling him i liked him in a romantic sense and he didnt' feel the same. i think that he just wants to be good friends with you and feels as if you two are good friends and that's why ur feeling he likes u in a different way. sometimes when girls don't have a lot of guy friends and guys tend to treat them badly (aka me haha) then when a guy treats them finally like a person and a good friend they feel as if the guy has feelings for them.. i'm so sorry it has to be crushing that he doesn't like u as more and i know what it's like.. but i think it would be great to use the friendship to ur advantage u know.. he's got guy friends..... haha.. hope i helped hun!
xoxox-kenzi
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Hi well I already have a boyfriend but I bumpped into this other guy and he is so hot but I don't want to break up with my boyfriend.
I don't want to break his heart!!
THe other boy likes me and we talk but if My boyfriend found out I'd break his heart!
what do I do???!!! plz don't erase this because I need total help!! (link)
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oook hun well first off ur not in love.. just say it to urself now cuz it's not true.. just cuz some guy is hott and he likes you doesn't mean u automatically love him and if ur talking about ur bf well then obviously you don't love him too much if ur leaving him for someone else.. i think the best thing you can do is talk very calmly to ur bf face to face and tell him u just want to be friends right now becuz there are a lot of things going on and ur not quite sure what u want or where the relationship is going and you just want ur freedom.. hope i helped hun
xoxox-kenzi
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ok u people here on advicenators r my last help! not even my mom understands wat im goin through. well my boyfriend and i have been datin for a while and well now he's startin to scare me.
he's gettin very obsessive and im so scared that if i break up with him(which i want to) he's gonna do something crazy(kill himself or hurt me) the worst part is if he ever found out i liked his best friend he's gonna get very violent....i dont kno what to do!!! i try avoiding him but he gets madder and wonders if i dont like him..he told me that if i broke up with him he WILL kill himself
help me plzzz..no one understands i have no1 2 talk 2 (link)
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first off.. this guy needs some serious help. the best thing i think you can do is talk to him and tell him you care about him but just want to be friends.. if that doesn't work and he reacts poorly get away! don't go near him get a fricken restraining order! that dude is psycho babe and u need someone better..i really hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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hey
i want some advice on my bf. lateley he has been at his dads house away from me. and it seems like he doesnt care about me anymore and doesnt even make time to try and see me. he doesnt say i love u very often. and when he ended our phone convo he said "i guess ill call u cuz i wont have ne thing else to do bye."
what should i do??i really care about him but i dont know wat do you think? (link)
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the first thing you should do is talk to him.. ask him why he said that and tell him that it really hurt. then talk to him about the way he's been acting and let him know u care about him and aske him what he wants from the relationship because it doesn't seem like it's going newhere.. just be calm cool and collected and tell him what YOU want.. i think that's the best you can do and if you end up breaking up then it's probably for the best cuz if he doesn't respect you then you shouldn't be going with him newayz
hope i helped..
xoxox- kenzi
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