No Nonsense:
I will not try to make you feel better. I will not consider your feelings. I will not tell you what you want to hear, unless what you want to hear is the truth. I will tell you like it is and if you can be objective it just might help.
P.S. If you think I'm wrong you need a second opinion.
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this is a really fast question. how do you get a guy interested? (link)
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Do you want the easy way or the hard way. Flirting with the idea that sex way be available is the easist way. Problem is with respect, most guys don't genuinely respect this after sex takes place.
If you want to work at it you have to do things to catch his eye. Flaunt your best attributes, whatever those may be. Flirt with him but leave him hanging and always guessing what your intentions. Laugh at him even if he's not funny and most of all make him feel important, basically make him feel like the man. Be confident because that can make up for what you may or may not lack in physical attractiveness.
Let me know how it works or if you need more clarification.
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This year while I was vacationing in a place I regularly visit I met a girl. The night after I met her I drank way to much and ended up losing my virginity with her. I was really beating myself up over it the next morning, but it turned out that we hooked up for the entire time I was vacationing, however we never slept together again. The problem is, she doesn't know she was my first. She actually thinks she was my 3rd. Now im beating myself up for lying to her, but Im afraid that if I tell her now things could get awkward and I may not ever see her again. I feel horrible about lying, but if things got weird between me and her and I lost contact with her I would probably fall over and just never get up. I'm not sure whether to tell her, and if I do, I'm not sure how or when. I am extrememly thankful for any help someone can give me. (link)
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Why in the world would you tell her? She is a vacation fling not a long term love interest. Let her think what she wants. You could tell her some additional stories if that gets her hot. I'd advise against thinking this could be a serious thing. Have a good time and enjoy the memory of losing it because it belonged to you not her. However, I'd try it one more time sober just for an added bonus.
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i was dating this guy for about 3 months and things got pretty serious. we spent every day together and he would stay and my house and vice versa. his ex girlfriend called one night and he broke up with me to see if things would work with her and they didnt. he called about a month after we broke up and said that he made a huge mistake for breaking up with me cause i was the best thing that had ever happened to him. we got back together and things were great, actually better than ever or so i thought. one day when she called again he started getting weird again and told me that he once again needed time. i took all of my stuff from his house and said that i wasnt playing second best anymore. i gave him all i had and thought that this was it. that he was the one. and unfortunately im a mess over him. i know he treats me horrible in this situation but ive never been so inlove with someone before. and i dont know what to do. someone just help. please. (link)
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There is nothing you can do. You were a rebound fling and no matter what you do, you cannot change that. The only person who can is him and history shows that is unlikely. I would suggest you grieve your loss, move on and chalk this one up to something you try not to repeat in the future. Try sleeping with one of his friends if you want to keep his attention, but don't bank on having a true relationship with him again.
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Is it true that girls dont like gamers? By gamers i mean people who play video games as a hobby or a profession. Also is it true that they dont like computer techs? It seems like everywhere around where i live that girls find that to be a turn off. I live in Tennessee, if that helps. Just wondering. (link)
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I will re-phrase your questions. Hot girls don't like "gamers" and neither do girls who have what you call a LIFE or a prospect. If you snag a really desperate, dependent, needy and most likely dorky girl you might do okay. I would suggest you either grow out of your "gaming" phase before trying to date or embrace the fact that you will be masturbating for the foreseeable future.
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I'm 20 years old. Female. I've been with my man for about 4 months and I definately feel that I'm head over heels in love with him when it's just the two of us but when I'm around other guys I start thinking about dating other people. How come one minuet I feel like I could marry my love but then another minuet I think about wandering to other guys? (link)
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Because you are not in love. You are in lust. Its been way too soon to know you're in love and I promise that if you give it 4 more months the love feeling will wear off a bit. Enjoy your youth and don't get stuck in a situation you will regret later. And most of all don't tell him you love him.
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I am 21 female with need of advice!
2 years ago i was in a relathionship with a man i loved and still love very much, we where together for 4 years. My relathionship started when i was just 15 and went on till i was 18. Though i know at this age you never know what love really is he was somehting special! now that we are seperated we are still very good freinds and see each other when we can, but the break up hurt me very much and left me with a fear of rejection. Anyway now that i have the background in place my problem is that i can't seem to find a new person to replace the old. I have tried and dated many but all of them go down the drain! i think my major probelm is that i have forgoten how to flirt and scare off men that are attracted to me! how do i open my self to men without the fear of being hurt again!? (link)
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I would suggest you don't open yourself up until you've gotten a chance to figure out what they are all about. The saying Rome wasn't built in a day would apply here. You don't have to establish a long term relationship with the next guy you meet. I would suggest seeing more than one guy at a time until you find the one that you feel best about. And only when you feel there is a mutual relationship (even after you've had sex) then open yourself up. Embrace casual dating and sex and stop trying to marry the next dude that comes along.
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Okay here's my problem...I slept with my best friend, but he doesn't remember, and now I might be pregnant. Maybe I should explain...About a month & a half ago, my best friend/roommate and I went to a party and when we got home we kinda started making out (we had both been drinking). When he said he something that he really needed to tell me, and said that he was in love with me. It was so sweet and we ended up sleeping together. The next morning I woke up before him and cooked breakfast for him. But when he woke up, he was really confused, and he said he couldn't remember how he got home, and he really didn't remember anything since the beginning of the party the night before. I was freaking out and I didn't say anything about what happened between us. We later found out that someone had put something in the drinks at the party and a bunch of people couldn't remember stuff. I had decided that I wasn't going to tell him about out night together because it would be to weird. Then I didn't get my period this month, so now I'm really freaking out. I know I need to tell him but I don't know how. Then to make matters worse, I was trying to tell him yesterday, and he said that he wanted to tell me something (I thought he was gonna say he loved me) and he said that he was still a virgin and he was saving himself for the person that he was gonna spend the rest of his life with. I didn't think it was possible to feel any worse. I'm 22 and he's 20.
Can anyone help me please? I don't know what to do... (link)
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I'm doubting that he was so drunk he didn't remember, but was able to perform sexually. Paaaaleeeezzz. He knows exactly what happened and that you two weren't safe. Stop being passive and call him on his nonsense. His confession that he loves you is a classic trick to get girls in the sack (I'm kind of surprised you fell for it). Its also way to manipulative for someone saying they want to stay a virgin until marriage. You're both responsible for your pregnancy if you indeed are, so call him out and insist he be a man about whatever your decision is.
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