'Sup everybody, I'm Blade. I'm 5'9"ish, i have brown,gold, green eyes, brown hair. Love playin sports,(there aren't many that i haven't played) any of them and every one out there. i play soccer, swimming, and martial arts. I live in California in the bay area. And most of all I love helping people, so if you have a problem or question on ANY subject then ask and ill be more than happy to answer and help you out, if i cant answer your question or help you i'll find you someone who will.
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Gender: Male
Location: Bay Area -California
Occupation: Lifegaurd and everything else
Age: 17
AIM: ArchAngelP23
Member Since: July 29, 2004
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So there is this boy that I had liked big time my freshman year. He was the typical bad boy, smoked, drank, had sex with any girl he could...that kind of thing. But he was really sweet to me and I fell for him hard. Then, of course, he broke my heart. So I didnt really talk to him for a long time. He moved to mexico and I didnt see him till my 17th birthday. He took me out to a movie and treated me like a princess. He opened doors for me, bought my ticket, all that jazz. I felt bad the whole time because I just couldn't let my guard down, I just couldn't trust him again. I am pretty sure he was expecting something out of the day but I just wasn't interested anymore. That was back in March. Now here I am in August and for the last three days I have talked to him every night for like 3 hours. I can't help but flirt with him and make plans with him. I can't stop thinking about him.......but here is my problem. Things can't go anywhere if I am talking to him online and he is in mexico, right? but he is moving back to California in like a week and I cant help but want to see him. My parents dont approve of him so i cant tell them i want to go see him so i told them i want to go visit the college that is in the town he is moving to.....Should I go back and give the guy another chance (since he didn't break my heart on purpous) and lie to my parents to see him? Or just let things go and if he wants to see me let him come to me? (link)
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wow. ok, well you COULD go down there and visit him and lie to your parents but if they found out they would only dissaprove of you seeing him more. So if you go down there visit the college and have him go with you and check it out together, I doubt your parents are gonna trip off of you two looking at a college together. It might make your parents think a little different of him if hes looking at a college to go to.
But if you go down there he knows how you feel about him cuz your going out of your way to see him, and then he has the upperhand on the situation; savvy? Considering what you told me about what he used to be like and how he broke your heart, you probably want to have the upperhand and control of this situation.
So let him come up and visit you, he'll come to visit anyways cuz he'll probably want to visit his other friends in the area so you making all that extra effort to go see him probably isnt necessary. Like you said, you dont want to let your gaurd down; so dont. let him come to you, let him make the moves, let him work. I hope all that made sense and everything works out for you. good luck.
-Blade-
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I just want to know how you know when the person your making out with is enjoying it or not? (link)
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You can see it in their eyes when they look at you or if and when they smile. when they start making a move to the next level, you know your a reeaallyyy good kisser.
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alright, so im not much for this love stuff but uh, my boyfriend for the past year has been through a lot with me. but just recently we've been arguing a lot and i found out he went to the movies with his ex and wouldnt answer his phone when i called. i of course flipped and the next day he called me and i had one of my guy friends answer just to piss him off.. but today i call him and a girl answered his phone. now he wont talk to me at all.. should we just give up on eachother since all we seem to do is constantly fight back and forth. and how do i make him admitt that he realizes what hes losing?
help =( (link)
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well first of all, stop playing games with eachother. that is only going to make the situation work, be mature about it and talk to him, if HE cant be mature enough to talk to you then just say goodbye for a while. dont just GIVE UP, you might regret it later and besides, other people look at your relationship with him (guys primarily) and how you treat an X gives guys an idea how they would be treated if they were your X. But anyways, just take some time away from him, it seems you guys need some space, dont ignore him just dont call him as much are hang out with him as much. If he doesnt come around and keeps acting like a deuche bag then walk out of his life. If he cares about you he'll realize what hes lost and come back, if he doesnt well then you two werent meant to be. hope Ive been some help and everything works out ok. If you would like to discuss this more, check out my contact info and drop me a line.
-Blade-
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wellll, i liked this guy at my school (im pretty sure he didnt know i liked him i didnt tell him but i made it kinda obvious i would flirt a lot) and he all of a sudden started being really flirty towards me, and this went on for quite some time. he would just be really touchy and come down to talk to me during lunch and brunch everyday and would call me every weekend to see what i was doing and we would usually hang out. he even told me that he thought i was hot and that i would be a really good gf and all that kind of stuff. and then one weekend that he left to go to mexico to build houses he comes back and one of my friends tells me this story of him hooking up with this random girl that went to mexico with him. and ever since then things havent been the same between us and he slowly stopped talking to me as much as he used to and doesnt call me at all anymore. now that its summer im just confused as to what happened. i dont know if i should just stop trying to talk to him and leave him alone or if i should try and be his friend. orrr if i should make it more obvious that i like him, because i got the hint that he wasnt interested anymore so i stopped being flirty towards him. so what do you think i should do?
oh and im 16 and female (link)
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Those trips really bring people together, weither or not they choose to. You should persue him a little more though considering all that you told me, he probably hasnt lost his interest in you just his insentive because you have stopped persuing him. So try a little harder and be a little bolder and see where that takes you. Avoid trashing that other girl as much as possible, especially to him, you'll ruin any chance with him that you might have. Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out for the best.
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Mk, well i went out with this guy,(lets call him Josh) he is the sweetest, most amazing guy i've ever met in my life! he was the best thing taht has ever happened to me, and i can swear upon that, but he broke up with me. He said that he didnt think i was ready for a serious relationship that he wanted, and when he had told me that i was willing to do anything in my power to prove to him i could. But i was convinced i'd never get him back. so i was tryin to forgit about it. that weekend (one day later) i went to my best friends, she was determined to git my mind off of him and so we went to the movies. had the best time. that nite we were talkin to some of our friends. they asked us out and we said yes. because we just thought it was soo cool that best friends were going out with best friends.It had gotten my mind off of Josh. but i still couldnt help but think about him. we had only gone out for two mothns i had fallen for him. and fallen bad! well two days later he tells me he wanted to try and git me back. but i told him that i was goign out with someone already.(call him Steven)(Josh and Steven were friends.but they rarley talked. so i never thought nothing of it.) well then Josh desiced ok well fuck you, and said some of the meanest things i can ever imgine. hurt me worse than i ever thought anyone could. about aweek later i broke up with Steven. in hoping i could git josh to atleast be friends with me. it worked. i fell even deeper for him wich sucked because he turned 18. which was NOT good! because im only 16 and so my dad doesnt approve. so it would be illegal for us to date...:'( so sadly i had lost him for good.(well atleast 2 more years!!) then me and my friend did soemthing VERY stupid. which got in me in serious troulbe. my dad thought it was Josh who had done this with me, which he wasnt, and so threatened to put josh in jail. so Josh says that he figured it was best for us just not to even be friends anymore. i was soo heartbroken. i had lost this boy Three times. in only a month. my heart had been broken so many times in so short time i figured i was threw with. well this is why im writing u for advice. How do i git him back? no as in dating but atleast as Friends..?? he hates me soo much. he as spread rumors about me being a whore and stuff (which isnt true) and so im 99.9% positive he caint stand me. and i've tried to appoligize and everything but he juist says no because he doesnt want me gitting him introuble. is ther anything i can do?? i've already talked to my dad. he says NO! and a BIG NO at that! so i've just run out of ideas....PLZ HELP im willing to do anything......
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Sorry it has taken me so long to answer, I've been very busy. Well I would definately say "that sucks"...to the max. But as for getting him back, well I would just suggest that you don't. It seems to me that your relationship has caused and probably will cause more problems than you need/needed. The reason he said those mean things to you and spread rumors about you was because he was hurt by the fact that you were with Steven and not him, don't try and comprehend why because men are ignorant and stupid like that sometimes. If he truly wants to have a relationship of any kind with you he'll come back, and untill then dont worry about it. Keep living your life unaffected by these things, because they can only keep you down, hope everything works out.
Blade
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I've had this boyfriend for 2 years, and most of the time we hang out at his house. When he goes in the shower, or anywhere else, I go to hang out with his sister. I've been feeling some sexual attraction to her and one day we started to hook up. She pleases me better than he does. Does this mean I'm a lesbian? How do I tell Jason? PLEASE HELP ME BLADE!! (link)
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No your not a Lesbian, just...curious. and as for breaking the news maybe you should talk to jason's sister before you talk to him. Cut loose anything you and her have and dont take it anywhere, itd be different if it were just some other girl but its your BOYFRIENDS sister, if you still want to have relationship with jason end anything you had with his sister. As for jason do it somewhere besides his house and just tell him, flat out. hope everything works out between you and good luck.
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I went out with this guy about sixth months ago. It was a really bad relationship and things ended all bad. (I broke up with him). Now recently we just started talking again and we've become really close. I confessed that I've had feelings for him and still do. Since we've been talking, I've noticed that he's changed a whole lot and I'm really considering getting back together with him. He's gone for the summer but I'm willing to wait. What should I do? (link)
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My answer is NO, you should not get back together with him because 1) if it was a bad relationship and ended on bad terms what make you think it will be any different this time? &2) because i can gaurentee you that he hasnt changed enough to make things work. DOnt wait around for him, live your summer up single and dont tie yourself down. If hes gone all summer he prolly is gonna be off with other girls while hes gone so.... just wait things out, the right guy WILL come along hell show up when you least expect it. hope ive helped an dgood luck.
Blade
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OK so the kid i like (who has a g/f) asked me the other day online if i still liked him..and i tried changin the subject but hes like "No don't shange the convo.." so i told him: idk because you have a gf... then he said ooo ok..now hes talking to me a lot more..should i have told him that i still liked him? should i tell him the next time i talk to him? help me! i rate 5s! (link)
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See you prolly shouldnt have because then hell get this attitude of " awww yeeaaa im a pimp" cuz has a girlfriend AND some girl who likes him. Alot of guys have this happen to them and the majority become complete assholes to the girl(you) even if they are nice guys, but there are guys who are mature enough to handle that information and not let it go to their heads. You should let him know that you two are going to remain freinds and that even though you like him NOTHING is going to happen between you 2 until he and his girlfreind are broken up,you chould also add that if he breaks up with her for you there will never be a relationship. cuz he might break up with his gf for you for the WRONG reasons. So basically you should stay freinds with him and try getting over him and find a new guy to like.
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Ok a few days ago i heard my boyfriend was flirting with this other girl. I was hurt at first but then i knew it was apart of there 3 year friendship.I accidently said i didnt trust him,but the thing is i do and i wish i could take it back.He was hurt and was thinking about going on a break, but decided to give us another chance. He knows i didnt mean to say i didnt trust him, but things havent gone back to normal what should i do? (link)
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Just tell him that it wasnt that you didnt trust him, it was that you were scared about your relationship. I can immagine you were thinking some things like; "whats really going on here?", "is our relationship going to end?","is he cheating on me?", or something along those lines? The majority of people who have something like this happen to them DO trust their partner, so its not a matter of trust in the other person. whats really going on is the person (such as yourself) is scared to loose thier boyfreind or girlfreind and their mind goes into overdrive, basically "what-if" mode. All i can tell you to do is basically let him know how you feel and how you felt and whats really going on. The worst thing you can do is not talk to him because lack of communication can kill a relationship faster than anything else. Reasure him that you do in fact trust him, and as much as you might not like it you might want to encourage his relationship with this freind of his a lil', and encourage him not to ditch his freinds for you ( im not saying you are). The best thing you can do to reasure him that you trust him is to give him the opportunity to be trusted.
Hope ive helped and if you have anymore questions or whatever you can write me another question on here or IM me at ArchAngelP23.
Blade
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i broke up with my boyfriend but now i really want to go back out with him. i think he still likes me because he flirts all the time. we've only been broke up for a week and i don't want to sound deperate or foolish. what if he's mad i broke up with him? i tried to talk to him about it but i couldn't because i was so nervous. i couldn't force the words out. what should i do? i really want to try to do it in person but how can i get over my fears and what should i say? i have no clue how to word anything! (link)
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first of all you shouldnt go back to him this soon youve only been broken up for a week and you havent been able to enjoy being single yet! take the opportunity to expand your horizons. you might find that being single is less stressfull and more fun, who knows you might find a guy thats better than your X. give things a chance to work THEMSELVES out, if you two are meant to get back together then it will happen when HE wants to and when HE asks you back out. thats his job not yours to get you 2 back together.if you run back to him youll never be able to leave him in the future and youll regret it for a long time. so just relax, go have fun with your girlfriends, and explore. keep it safe,keep it real, and have fun.
Blade
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how do you tell a guy you arent interested without breaking his heart? (link)
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tell him that your freindship means to much to you to possibly put it at risk by bringing your relationship to a different level to soon.
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Well see me and this guy dated for about 8 months last year and we totally were in love but then things started to change and we broke up....then 5 months later he starts calling me again and talking to me saying me misses me and still loves me.....so i spilled that i still loved him n really missed him too...but then like everytime we like each other is only for a lil while and then he saying he isnt sure if he loves me anymore and he was done this 2 times already...well see then me and one of my ex's start dating again and he comes back and says hes really sure he still likes me but isnt sure if he still loves me;he might and probably does but isnt all the way sure(thats what he said) and that he doesnt like the way my ex treats me(cause he didnt treat me good and i told him everything that was going on)but i kept going out with my ex. then me and my ex broke up and i fall for him again...he keeps telling me he wants to marry me n really likes me n misses me and he told me he is going to ask me out when the time is right and he told me not to give up on us and to not stop loving him....does he still love me or what? and is he going to ask me out?
oh and by the way i know you...lol (link)
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well im not sure if he likes you or loves you or not but ti do know that he does care about you enough to listen and to care who you date and about how your treated. you should first get rid of the bf whos treating you bad and second stay single for a while and just chill until you see the perfect guy for you. find a guy who meets all your expectations and preferences but treats you like a princess(because thats how all men should treat women). also dont rule out your friend as a possible boy friend candidate but dont necessarily consider him either. he jumps around wih his feelings for you all over the place constantly and that doesn't look healthy for you let alone anyone in a relationship. i mean honestly do you really want sum guy to play with your heart and possibly cheat on you because his feelings constantly change? so just take it REALLY SLOW with him. good luck
Blade
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I really love my boyfriend, and I do everything for him, from buying him clothes and giving him food and a place to stay, to all the normal boyfriend girlfriend activities. I want to make him feel the same way about me, not MAKE him, but I just want him to be happy. I don't feel like he feels the same way about me as I do about him. How can I make my boyfriend want me more but still respect me and be happy at the same time?
Signed,
Hopelessly in Love (link)
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you should talk to him about it, let him know how you feel and what you want out of the relationship.(probably about the same way you asked me your question but more in depth). probably the # one building block in a relationship is communication, so talk to him. find out where hes at and where he wants to go with the relationship and vise versa. Also, your not his wife so you dont have to Give him food, clothes, and a place to stay, sure its a nice gesture but when youre doing all this for him, what is he doing for you? make sure youre actually getting something out of this relationship that you can benefit from. dont let yourself go unheard or used, speak up and get what you deserve. hope everything works out for the best.
Blade
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ok i like this girl lets call her jade,she's really pretty but my best friend always flirts with her when i talk to her for instance i broke up with this girl like a month ago and he always flirted with her and now jade flirts with him to should i ask jade out or should i shutup him up cause he really's funny and i'm just as funny as him but he flirts and it makes me jealous,so should i ask her out or shutup him up.
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well first of all let your freind know you are really interested in Jade and ask him to back off a bit. try and hook him up wit sum1 else. keep on flirting with Jade and let her know that when she flirts with other guys it makes you jealous. hang out with her more and flirt liek crazy and when your on the fone with her or talkinging in person actually listen to what she has to say. you dont have to necesarily say anything just listen and support her and respond to things she says. let her feel comfortable opening up to you and make her feel your not judgemental.
Blade
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Ok, well ther's this guy who asked me out and I said yes. The onlyproblem is that I'm not allowed to date. But, I am allowed to go out with friends, even a coed group. My question is, what should I do? Should I try talking to myparents about it, or jsut tell them we're going as friends and other ones are going to? I really need advice, none of my friends are helping me!!
If it helps any im 13, hes 14. (link)
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wow you sound like me at your age. try talking to your parents about dating and how old you have to be before they let you actually "date". i personally think your a little young to go out on 1 on 1 dates right now but deffinately go for the group outings it can be more fun but it doesnt mean you and your guy cant be by yourselves. let your parent know your dating because i can assure you the less you hide from your parents the farther youll go, cuz theyll trust you more and give you a longer "leash" sorta speak. but make sure not to push to hard when talking with your parents because something is always better than nothing.
Blade
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all right so i can't believe I'm actually asking you advice cuz i knwo you but okay. here it goes.
i met this guy at a party. i was a bit drunk, he was a little drunk- we hooked up. but only made out. at that time i was like is this going to be some random hook up or are you actually going to call me and he said no im going to call you i am. well, skip some, week later he calls me asks me if i want to hang out. of course i do but i end up not being able to. the thing is... i am worried that he is just interested in hooking up with me. im hanging out with him next weekend when he is grounded and we are just going to watch scary movies and stuff. should i jsut wait to see what happens then....???? he's just so hard to read so i dont kno if he likes me or not! advice much??
age: 16
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you know me? wow ok anyways.well yea just wait it out and see where things go, but keep in mind you DID hookup with him so he may assume he might get some next weekend too. did he come up with watching scary movies together? because alot of guys will use that as an exscuse to hold you or keep you "safe" if you get scared or w/e. you havent given me that much detail to your situation so i cant realy give you a great answer so you can either write me again or find me at school(if we go to the same school) or get ahold of me some other way.
blade
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I have this boyfriend who's REALLY shy. I mean he doesn't even hold my hand or anything, but I know he really really likes me. I've never known anyone this shy. I really like him a lot but his shyness is killing me and I don't know what to do!!! What should I do?! (link)
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just talk to him tell him how you feel and what you want out of the relationship and what you want to happen in the relationship, like holding hands for example. then ask him what he wants in the relationship and what he wants to happen in the relationship ( it's ok if you two dont know exactly what you want you may need some time to think about what you want). the worst thing that could happen is he'll tell you hes not ready to publicly desplay his affection towards you, and it can only get better from there. the best thing you can do is talk to him, the majority of relationships, serious or casual, end because of lack in communication ( dont be the majority its much easier and less stressfull, 'sides youll have a better and more intimate relationship this way).
Blade
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Ok...there's this kid I like alot. I have for a really long time and we went out about 3-4 times before but now it's been like a year since the last time we dated. Well...he's not exactly the hottest guy in the school but he's popular and everythin,,like he has a great personality n everythin. Well i wanna tell my best friend that I like him again but I'm afraid of her reaction. Beacause she's really into looks and everythin..and not only that she just doesn't like him that much. What should I tell my friend and should I tell this kid I like him again? And if I do tell both of them who should I tell first? Help! (link)
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well first of all your freind's oppinion shouldnt make YOUR decision. Dont let the advice or oppinions from someone who doesnt have to deal with the results make your decision when you have to. but you should ALSO think back on why you and this guy broke up so many times in the first place, because there is definately something there to make you like him enough to go out 3-4 times but there is also something there that keeps you guys breaking up.
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Theres this guy in my school that saposebly likes me and another girl tasha.He asked for my number caled we talked and hes aware i like him back then today Tasha ws talking about how he kissed her and all this shyt.I was kinda pissed n he kept askin me wat was wrong but i wouldnt tell him...should i tell him that the fact that he cant choose between 2 girls is bothering me?and do you think hes a just a player n a waste of my time? (link)
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well hes most likely not an a player and YES you should tell him what is bugging you. he will appreciate you coming to him and being open and it will help him make a decision if not reduce tension between you.
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