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Q: Last night I had a horrible dream. In my dream, my boyfriend left me for my best friend. We got into a little argument, he broke up with me and started dating her. I was heartbroken. I couldn't sleep after I woke up. It is really bothering me. I like this guy so much and I don't want him leaving me for someone else especially my best friend. What could this dream mean if it means anything?

I really wouldn`t think much of it. I have bad dreams all the time, and I don`t think it affects on anything. So don`t worry about it :)

Q: Ok I love guys. I have plenty of guy friends but whenever a guy shows intrest in me or hints he wants to go out some time I totally head for the other direction. I start to ignore him and stop talking to him. I don't know how to become more open and I am only really open when I'm around my friends. I don't know how to change this and not be so afraid anymore. I mean he trys talking to me and getting me into conversations but i don't know how to respond. someone please help me

I know how you feel, but don`t be sacred, if he likes you or hints that he does, than you have nothing to be afraid of. It seems like you try to go around the bush, is there any reason that you can`t open up to guys? If so, you should just try not to be nervous, and flirt around a little bit, therefore, the guy will probably like you more :) Hope this helps, just remember to stay calm, and think before you say something.

Q: Ok so this is really a question but also advice.
So there’s this boy in my Church group and I think he likes me but I’m not sure.
This one time (the first time I laid eyes on him) he kept smiling at me. And even when he knew I was looking he was still smiling for a few moments and I did too. But then looked away. Then later he asked if he could trade spots with the guy next to me so he could “talk to the other guy next to him” the guy said no though. But anyway, today I came in and I all the seats were rounded in a circle and so I walked in and there was a seat right infrount of me. It looked like all the other seats were taken. And it was right by him. I don’t know if he was saving a seat for me because his stuff was there and he moved them when he saw me come in. But I’m not sure. So then I sat down. And he actually started talking to me. and he asked me "Is that liipgloss?" he was mentining my keychain that had lipgloss on it. and I answered "Maaaabey" beacuse I thought yes sounded to cheesy and no sounded well rude and whatever. he smiled and said "can I use some? I need some" he said joking ly. He was smiling I could tell he was joking.so I'm like "yea...sure!" I said sarcasticly with a smile. at that moment I liked him. also his full attenetion was on me smiling. Then the teacher told me I got to go o the trip friady. "your going?" he asked. then said cool. he put his hand up for a high five So i highfived him. He asked me questions and asked if he could see my phone. Then I cought him once or twice lookling at me. And I’m not sure but I THINK I saw him put his foot near mine. But I was looking up, but I think I saw it at the end of my eye but I’m not sure. So mabee that doesn’t count.later when I was bored I forgot about the lipgloss convo and put some on. "So it is lipgloss!" he said jokeingly. I smiled. " you know I still need some." he said then laughed. I laughed too. So does he like me???

that sure seems like it. it souds like there was a lot of flirting going on. i think that he does like, but just to know for sure, keep talking to him, but don`t make it obvious that you like him. seriously it really does sound like he likes you. go for it girl.

Q: HEY PEOPLE =D

okay this might seem corny..
because it is. haha. but that's okay.

3 years ago, i took part in a "all around the world project" meaning my group had 21 teenagers from europe coming to our scool for 1 week, and we kinda took care of them.. it was fun, and needles to say..there was a bunch of one-week romances.. here's the thing, i had this crush on one of the guys, we had fun while he was here, but when he left, we never kept in touch.. never emailed or anything, even though i have his email. i recently remembered him, and started missing him (even though we were neverclose, never kissed, admitted our feelings or anything.. we were just friends for a week basically) anyway, i want to keep in touch with him! even though im over that little crush, cause i'll never see him again! i want to start emailing with him or something..

here's the thing though, we havn't spoken for THREE WHOLE YEARS! so what do i do?
i was thinking of sending one of those e-cards that says "i miss keeping in touch with you" or something, or maybe just emailing and saying "hey what's up? i saw you online the other day, and thought about you today..and realized...." (whatever) you know? but thats gonna be so awkward! then again, i have nothing to lose do i?

help please? any suggestions?

my friend had one-- but idk, she said "create two fake accounts, then wite to him + th two fake accounts and say "hey guys, you three - i hvnt spoken to you in forever, and i was deleting people from my msn, people i dont talk to, but for some reason i couldnt get myself to delete the three of you.. so i just wanted to tell you that. haha" orsomething like that..
does that sound like a good idea to you?

thxxx

Well if you haven`t talked to him for so long, I`m sure he won`t mind talking to you. You said you had his e-mail, did he have yours? Bceause if not, maybe he wanted to e-mail you too. It`s always worth a shot, and hey you have nothing to lose.

Q: Okay, theres this guy on my swim team that I really like and I've known for four years. He's sweet and he's athletic and he's single. But, he's 2years older then me and we barely know each other. Most of what I know I got from a nuetral friend or the few conversations we've had. But, this summer I've got to know him alittle better annd I like him alot. But, he goes to a different school, and we dont have any of the same friends, so I have no excuse to talk to him. I dont know what to do. Any advice to get to know him better or win him over?

Thanks :)

Just keep trying to talk to him. I mean if you like him that much then I`m sure you too will have something in common. Also 2 years is not that much older. My dad is 10 1/2 years older than my mom, YES I know it`s freaky, lol. But just try starting a conversation with him, about anything (movies, music, school) You never know, because maybe he likes you too :)

Q: Stupid question, but...I'm 14, and my bf is 18. I was wondering if he could get in trouble for the age difference or anything. If so, what would happen? Do you think we should stay together?

It really depends. Are you guys doing anything that you think you shouldn`t be doing? If so there is possibility that he can get in trouble.

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