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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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My Grandam is very sick and might die!! I cant deal with the pain it is causing my family ecspecially my dad! Every time a tear comes to his eye it comes to mine!You see my grandpa went down to cincinati to have open heart surgery and he made it through fine. That night my grandam started to not be able to breathe so they took her to the hospital. Now she has to have open heart and is sooo frail she might not survive! Is there any way to stop me from crying all the time and to be sad some of the time not all? ANd any ideas on how to cheer my grandpa up? Let me know thanks!

I can definitely relate to you here. Just this summer, my grandpa had cancer. We took care of him, and watched his health worsen over time, which was hard to do for me and my family. After about three months of taking care of him, he died. It was sad to see him suffer, and it was even sadder to see him go. I know this isn't about me, but I just wanted you to know that I kind of know what you're going through.

When it comes to the crying and the grief... there isn't much you can do.
Pray for your grandma. Have hope. Don't think, "Oh, she's going to die soon." Instead, you should think, "Well, I hope that this open heart surgery goes well, and if she does pass on, at least she's in a better place and is away from the suffering."
Try to take your mind off of it. Hang out with friends. Play a sport, or take up a new hobby. Don't sit around in misery, because it's not going to do you (or your grandma) any good.
If you need to, talk to a friend, a parent, or a guidance counselor about it. It really helps to get all of those feelings off of your chest.

When it comes to cheering your grandpa up, you can do many things. Send him flowers. Make him a card. Take him somewhere that he loves (Like a movie or something like that). Cook him his favorite meal or dessert. Remind him of how much you love and care for him (Believe me, he needs that right now, more than anything else). You can do those things for your father, too.

Most of all... Tell your grandma how you feel about her. Let her know that you love and care for her, no matter what happens, now and forever. Don't wait to do this, however; Tomorrow is promised to no one.

I hope your grandma's surgery goes well!

I hope I helped you, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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I have been feeling really weird lately. I've been exhausted and I feel really weak. I can't consentrate, eat, or sleep. I'll try to do something and I'll get out of breath really quickly which isn't like me. I usually run a mile everday and I don't get out of breath from walking in my house. It's really stange. I think that there might be something wrong with me but I don't know what. I'm usually never like this. My friend said that I probably have AIDS because I had sex for the first time last week but we used protection and I don't think that AIDS affects you right away. I really don't know anything about diseases or illnesses or anything like that so if anyone has any idea about what might be wrong with me or what might have caused it please help me.

I will rate high for anyone who at least tries

You're right, AIDS almost never attacks right away.

HIV is the virus that causes AIDS, and that's when it's inactive and there are no symptoms.

It could be possible, but I really doubt it.

You might have a different STD, though I don't know of any that have those symptoms. Protection doesn't protect against most STD's (including HIV).

I would also suggest getting a pregnancy test, especially if you're getting morning sicknesses and peeing a lot. Better safe than sorry.

You might even be stressed. Have all of the symptoms on this site? http://www.d.umn.edu/hlthserv/counseling/stress_symptoms.html

Then that might be it.

BUT, if you haven't been eating much (Which could be related to stress), that might be why you're weak and getting out of breath easily.

Go to the doctor, they're the only ones that can give you a real diagnosis.

I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
*Manders*

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I can tell I'm starting to get a cold, and I'm going away in a week for a couple days. I don't want to be sick while I'm away (I'm going to a conference thing) and I was wondering if there's any way I could fight this cold off before Thursday.

Thanks!

Take some cold medicine ASAP! It's always better to get rid of a cold in the beginning of it. It will go away faster that way. Also, drink a lot of fluids. Eat and drink stuff with Vitamin C in it, like orange juice. And of course, get plenty of rest. And don't forget to stock up on tissues. I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, leave one in my inbox!
*Manders*

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