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Q: Well this is a tough one and I have no clue what to do, lost you could say. Im going to try and explain this to were it makes sense. Im 13 and turning 14 in a month. Curently I live with my jerk of a step father and mom. when i was little something happened with me and my dad. He went to jail. My mother lied saying my step dad is my real dad. I found out the truth a year or so ago and found my real dad a month or so ago now me and my dad have grown close. How do i get my SD to let me see my dad?

i also have step-dad / real dad issues

honestly, i cant tell you its really going to depend on what your dad did.

if he did something serious, like sexually molested you or something like that, then I can understand why they wouldnt want you to see him.

if it wasnt that severe, you need to be mature about it and talk to your mom and your step dad about it and tell them they cant deny you to see your real father (unless its court ordered)

if they still dont let you, you can do whatever you want when you turn 18.

hope this helps. =] email me if you need anything or want to talk about this more.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21

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Lets Live like it's our last day

Don't Sit there and think there's nothing there to do. Come on there are many things you can do... that's why we need to just live. We are here for a purpose, Clean Your room, Make up a dance, Write yourself and put it away and then in 20 years get it out and read it. Help your parents around the house. Remember they feed you and buy you clothes and meds to keep you well and healthy... Be nice to people and animals, be nice to those you don't get along with or don't like, don't say you can't or you wront, let's be postive and say "I can do it" and "I will." Don't do things that you will regrets, drink alot of water and take a mile hike. Walk,run,power walking, play a half-hour video game and 30 min tv. Read a book. Go swimming, go talk to people, just have fun conversation. No mean teasing no being negative, and don't bring anybody down. It only brings you down even more. Cheer someone up with a smile, stop worrying and just breathe and let it go. Listen to nice soft music and relax and watch the clouds go by. Don't gossip don't lie, You will live for a long time. Keep yourself healthy and happy and smile even when you don't want to or when you're having a bad day. Don't go around bringing people down. Find someone that you can cheer you up by making them laugh or being around someone who is full of life. Do well in school and you know what? Soon you are well and you will be done with school. So go around complaining that life is not fair. No it's you! You're not fair. So think about it. Look outside and look at yourself in the mirror and ask your self, what am I doing? What am I doing wrong? Where am I going? What am I doing is taking me? Who I am becoming? When am I coming? Who am I? Who is this?

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

Q: 16F

Could anyone list any good reasons why a guy would completely ignore a girl out of nowhere? Like this guy has known I liked him for several months andwe barely talked about it but we texted each other a couple of times and he truly made it seem like we were still good friends and out of nowhere he started ignoring me..it's been two weeks now. And he told my friend that it's because I'm boring and annoying but it really doesn't add up because in the conversations we had he was holding up the conversation more than I was, and it's relatively easy to tell when someone is annoyed with you and he wasn't. I did nothing wrong and I'm trying to move on from him but it's hard to when I have no idea what his issue is and he won't speak (I only texted him the first day it's started, and twice two weeks later, which is like friday and today. what I'm trying to say is I know my limit, I'm not nagging him to answer me). Also he completely freaked at my friend for telling me some of the things she told me he said about me (long story how he found out), like he completely FREAKED, and hes still mad now but he still is actually responding to her when she speaks to him...so if I did nothing wrong, why is he ignoring me? We've been past the fact that he knows I like him for a couple months, and that we were just friends. And me being annoying, and I admit i can be at times, hasn't stopped anyone from talking to me? And he's talking to someone that he's even angrier with? I mean he does tend to deal with things by not talking about them at all, but this is just ridiculous. It's just a really confusing frustrating situation and it seems simple to just move on and get over it but when someone is completely ignoring you out of the blue like that and you can't understand why its just not easy to. We were good friends and he was TRULY acting like it in the conversations we had before he started ignoring me. Can I just get some reasons of why someone would do this? Postive or negative, hurtful or logical, anything, just list anything you think could make sense.

This totally sucks and im sorry you are having to deal with it!

I know all too well how hormanal teenage boys can be and let me tell you, they say girls are hard to understand!? Guys are just as hard in my opinion.

I went through a similar situation with a guy. We talked for months and even went out on "dates" together. We had lots of fun and he was always the one calling ME. Then one day, I wake up and he just doesn't txt me. It was weird because every morning when I woke, I would have a txt from him that said good morning!! :)

I thought maybe he had overslept and just left it at that but it happend for a week! No txts. I thought he was busy so I tried calling. It rang once and he hit the ignore button so it went staight to voicemail. I know because when I was with him I had seen him do that when someone called that he didn't want to talk to.

I was really hurt and I had a friend ask and he said I was boring and he wanted to move on.

He always laughed and smiled and cuddled with me all the time so I don't see how I was boring.

Turns out, another girl came along and they started dating so he didn't need me anymore. :-(

Keep your chin up and give him his space. Don't obsess about it or anything, and just move on. One day he might end up back in your life!! Never know. =]

Hope this helps!!

Steph 21

Q: People never really call me weird, but im sure they do because high school is like that .

i made a bunch of plans to hang with people and people always hang out with me as sloppy seconds.
i feel really bad because im new here, but people say im not really new.
ive been here for 6 months and people have hurt me a lot.
and have talked because my back a lot. and i havent done anything to anyone.
all i did was have a boyfriend and we broke up.
i guess im just not cool enough.
i feel horrible about it
this from monday - to now, friday morning.
ive been asking people if they wanted to go to the movies
or do this, do that.
go to the mall
and no one wants to.
and now that i realized it.
i think i have a talking problem
i dont know how to talk properly to people.
i am really open and ask them questions of what they think about high school
and so they say "oh ive got to go"

i feel so left out, i don't know what to do.
ive looked up advice of how to be mature, how to remain calm.
and ive asked really close friends from other countries that ive lived in for help and they say, "its just the american culture to be mean to everyone"

well, its not america thats being mean. Its the people in your area.

In the southern states, suprisingly people are MUCH nicer!

really, you are hurting yourself more by caring what others think. But when it comes to others, stop trying so hard. you might be coming off desperate to them, and most people dont know how to handle that maturely. Make sure you arent trying to change yourself to please others. you need to love yourself first, and just find the right crowd for you. chances are, you might be trying to fit in with people that are never going to change, so just find some people who accept you for who you are. You will be much happier.

=]

steph

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Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com