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Just heard about this, so I'm clueless. Tried looking it up on the internet, but I can't find anything to answer my questions.


What happened to him? Whats the big deal about it?

It said something about uncivil justice?
Thanks!

its sad but what happened was he was walking down the road and a guy that saw him and thought he looked suspicious. He had a hoodie on and they guy thought he was gonna do something so he claims in self defence he shot him..... It's sad. :(

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Theres this guy in my class whos been bullying me and harrassing me and I just can't take it anymore. Today he just went to far, he slapped my books out of my hands,kicked me twice, and told me i'm a b****. I hate what he puts me thruogh and i'm scared. What should I do. Please help me.

I hate these kind of questions because its just not right. You should talk to a councilor or ANY adult.
Tell your parents,tell your teachers. Anything will help. Bullying is not right and that kid needs to get taught a lesson. I know you may be scared because well to me it seems that he has been doing this for quite a long time but once you tell a adult that you believe can help but rather really any adult things with come better. Yes I understand that when you tell you like considered a "snitch" no your not your just protection yourself so don't work about that. I have been in your shoes before and trust me if I have not done hat I told you I may have been stuck in the same situation.
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15f here. Well let's just start off with this I'm not attractive. I'm a little overweight nag I keep gaining more. I have never had a boyfriend/first kiss. The closest I've got with a guy was 2010 summer but we just randomly stopped talk ing no reason why. I allways blame myself for that I should have took more chances. I miss just talking about random stuff with a boy its nice to know someone cares. I'm not happy and I want to be friends with more guys. I still have feelings for that one guy but I do like other people but not As much as him. I act sorta tough. I allways feel like I'm wasting my life alone.noone understands my life style. I never asked to be like this. I'm not a bad person but I feel like I am bc I'm allways bringing myself down. I just want to be that same old happy girl who is courageous and brave. I try so hard to not care what others think.

When it comes to others, you don't have to care what they think. Yes I understand that every opinion counts, but alot opinions are not that great. All I can really say I know you try to be yourself but yeah just be yourself. There is someone out there for everyone but I cant tell you when. Dont worry your time will come and you'll turn back and say well this is the best life I could possibly have all because I waited for this!!!!

Remember just BE yourself.
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How many days are you supposed to study before a test?

You should try to start studying as soon as you can. DON"T CRAM EVERYTHING IN THE NIGHT BEFORE!!!!!!
you should ALWAYS take notes and try to have like a folder and or a binder to put all of your notes and paperwork in and just start studying.
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i'm in the 11th grade, when I'm at school I don't feel like I'm good enough, I feel like everyone is staring and talking about me in a bad way. I keep to myself to avoid being judged and to avoid my business getting around, I'm extremely quiet, I'm constantly getting asked "why don't you ever talk?" I'm only like this at school, there's 40 people in all my classes if I'm talking to one person I don't like the other 39 being able to hear what I'm saying.extremely self cautious about the way I look, even though people tell me that I'm really pretty, I feel like all the people around me are prettier which makes me feel ugly I'm self cautious about my smile I've always had problems with my teeth, my mom had it fixed but I still feel like my teeth are ugly because I lived with that problem so long so I avoid smiling also. People are always asking "are you okay?" when I'm at school is when I think about all my insecurities and no matter how hard I try to be social and happy it just doesn't work for me. Some girl in my grade asked if I was okay when I responded with yeah her response was oh because you look like one of those people who will just snap oneday and shoot up the whole school. I really took this offensively but instead of being rude to her I nicely said "i would never do that!" her response was "you never know it's always the quiet ones." why does it bother people so much that I'm quiet? When people talk to me I talk back, but nobody tries to talk to me they just ask why I'm quiet without putting in any effort to talk to me. Why can't people just except me for how I am? Why does it bother people that 1 person is quiet out of the thousands that go to my school.

Thats a really good question... Just be yourself and if more people ask just say what you feel and tell them I don't talk because nobody is talking to me of there is nothing to talk about. Dont feel like your not pretty cuz you probably are. Dont doubt yourself. Its not good for your self esteem. Try to talk more. If there is someone that looks lonely or don't not have anyone to talk to try getting to know him/her and maybe you guys will become great friends.
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.

It seems to me that he is a loyal guy and very trustworthy. When you say that he felt guilty for getting over that 1 girl and fell for you maybe he is just saying that she wast for him but yet he still has feelings for her.. Believe what you want to believe, but you also have to listen to him. What I am trying to say by this is when he says the he is not one of those datable guys maybe he means it. You are both seniors but yet in different schools and it is very nice that you get to spend time with each other because of your schooling. What I would do is sit down with him and tell him how you feel and say what is really on your mind and deep down in your heart. What really does not make sense to me is were you said quote "He says he is not one of those datable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me" well if he is not one of those datable guys why would he leave you and go to another girl. You seem that you have lots of feelings for him but to me that 1 line says that he does not feel the same way for you. Maybe he wants to be with you but does not know how to tell you and just says stuff that he does not mean. Like I said before when you to have the chance you should sit down with each other and ask him hat he thinks and tell him what is on your mind and in your heart.

Hope I helped
Hope you to find the good in each other and wishing you the best.
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Okay, I'm just going to start off by saying that this will be a little long so please bear with me :) Oh and this might seem totally materialistic and shallow but I can't help it, its really a problem for me.
I'm 14 and I'm seriously depressed. Here's the problem: I'm poor.. Not 'can't eat three meals a day' poor. Just 'can't afford a car' poor. Like middle class. Not that I care much about these things but everyone at my school does. My dad gets like a very normal salary but that's not enough so my mom has to work too. Together they put enough money for me to go this really good school. The thing is, the school fee is REALLY high, for people like me I mean. So only rich kids go there. So my parents own like this little apartment where we live, and they can buy me fancy clothes and stuff (not branded but not that its a problem) and we can eat out once in a while. But we just can't afford a car. And that's why I have no friends at school. Everyone there is rich, and has a car. I'm not and I can't afford one. So all my classmates are really mean to me. They don't talk much about money but that's why they don't like me. Shallow, I know, but what can I do? The guys totally ignore me and when they talk they're really mean. The girls act like they're my friends but they bitch about me all the time and they only call me when they need something done. I try so hard to fit in but I'm afraid I never will.. I can't become rich just to get friends. That wouldn't be real friendship. Is money all that matters? If so, will I always be alone in life? I'm sure I'll never ever get a boyfriend but I reaally want a friend :( And since I'm focusing so much on this my grades are dropping.. I used to top the class but now these mean girls do. I'm afraid I'm letting my parents down now too.. what do I do? Please don't make rude comments, reply to me only if you really want to help. Thanks in advance :)

Hello I just want to say I had a friend like you a couple of years ago(I'm 14 and in 9th grade) so I kinda know what you are going through. I know that you probably don't want to hear this but alot of people dont want to be friends with middle or lower class people because they are afarid that the people that they use to hang around with would laugh at them. Me on the other hand I don't care what others think about me but I do care what they think of my friends. If I were you I would concentrait on school and not on those around you. I know that its hard for me to say that but it is true. I know that you know what the true meaning of a dollar is and alot of people and I mean alot of people dont realize that. I know that you are very thankful for you parents and what they dfo for you. I do agree with Zane and Adviceman49 they do have a point. Just remember it is not what you have of what is on the outside, what matters is what is on the inside.

Hope I helped
If you need any more help please ask me

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At school, there's this classmate on mine who teases me and bully me a lot. Often, he would throw the basketball at me and act as it were nothing. Sometimes, he would also tease me when i look at him when he said something weird or done something stupid. What's confusing me is that no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing. Occasionally he would spurt out something stupid like '*Joanna wants to be in the dance' or something when i clearly dread those things.And then, what really trouble me is that he seems to know when i glance at him and will took that opportunity to tease me to the rest of the day.
I don't really get it, I'm the type that is fat and ugly and don't pay much attention to guys ( I avoid them ). One of his friend told me that i was fun to teased. My friend told me to ignore him and sooner or later he'll get bored, but its been almost 10 months now and it's not helping. I tried to confront the person several times before, but he just wont listen.
I wonder if should just go and filed it to the teacher as a minor bully case......
Help anyone? I'm totally confuse what i should do.

Hello I just want to say that I was bullied in school too!!! So you are not the only one. Boys will tease you if they are imature or even if they like you, girls on they other hand they will only tease you about how and what you look like or simply because they are jealous. You are probably very beautiful so don't doubt yourself (I always say that im not beautiful and everytime I say that my friends get mad at me). One day they wil say "well she don't care" and then eventually walk away and tease someone else which isn't nice at all. If I was picked on I always left it alone but when it comes to a certain point you might have to go to you school counclor or even you principal.

Hope I helped and just remember don't doubt yourself.
Im always here for anyone.

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