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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

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i am currently studing for A levels (english equivalent of senior year finals i think) and everyone else that i know has FB but i dont however i find that i miss out on social interventions because i am not on FB what should i do?

Get Facebook!! You don't want to feel like you're missing out on something everyone seems to be talking about. Plus if you're afraid it might take up all your time, I don't think it will. You're mature and wise enough to be studying A levels which is amazing, I'm sure you're capable enough to spend adequate time on Facebook, however not too much! As soon as Facebook starts causing you to drop grades etc. Deactivate your account. Just be smart about it, and you'll be fine!

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14/f


no one's ever treated me like this before, and it's just small little things, but it's getting on my nerves.

He's basically avoiding me.

A couple weeks ago I met this guy, he seemed like a bit of a jerk but I talked with him pleasantly enough, but then he said he could mistake me for a boy.. well, that's where that prospective friendship ended. I didn't get mad, I just didn't say anything at all and moved onto a different conversation.

We don't have any classes together but during passing periods when we pass each other I've caught him looking at me a couple times, and he always looks away really quickly and seems to disappear. Like he's on the run and avoiding me.

Just the other day I needed into the school after hours (long story), so I ran up to him and said, "Hey, wait, let me come in too." And he is suddenly like 3 feet ahead of me holding the door open a bit and starts to say "yeah", but me being the confident, quick-paced girl I am, I walked right in, said "thanks" and went off to get my brother. Later I needed to come back and he was blocking the door from his friend, and I start to say, "Excuse me," when all the sudden he's on the other freaking side of the room, door unblocked.

I've never been avoided like this before. It's rare that I don't get along with someone. I never said ONE mean thing to him, but he calls me a boy and suddenly avoids me.... what the crap?

my friend says he could be scared of me, but how could that be? I'm a good half foot shorter than him, and he can lift a guy his own size so he could probably freakin break me in half.

kids love me, so I'm obviously not scary...

It's just bugging me to not know why someone is avoiding me.

He's probably just being childish or immature. Ignore him and live your life. He's just being silly. If he's ignoring you or anything, that's HIS problem, NOT YOURS! So move on.. You and your friends, and everyone that is worth caring about knows that you're not a scary person or whatever, so don't be bothered by this one guy who calls you a boy and then avoids you. Who cares about him!

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My boyfriend says he wants space, yet he has been calling me and texting me an we used to live together so when he needs something he texts me an calls me to come over my parents house to get it, like the slightest thing like today his trimmer and to show me his new dog, like the whenever i ask him or other people ask him what we arehe says he doesnt know yet he needs time & space, okayyy so why if you need time & space do u keep calling me and texting me an then why would he want me to tell him what i thought of this new dog he got? im so confused please i need advice

Everyone is different, and for you to find out where he's coming from, the only way is to ask him straight up. Let him know where you're coming from, because what you've said is true. I just wonder if he even realises what he's asked for, I suggest you remind him about this. Tell him what you think 'space' means to you, because it could differ between you and him. Make sure both of you are on the same page, if you're not. Then, talk about it and let each other know where you're both coming from.

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Ok so im a 14/f and im going out w/ a 16/m. He doesnt go to my school. Its really hard for me. He says he loves me alot that he'd do anything for me. Well he always thinks im cheating on him cause i have a lot of guy friends. but i tell him i would never do anything like that to him. He means everything to me. He doesnt like any of my guy friends and he doesnt wanna lose me to anyone. He doesnt wanna share me with anyone. What am i supppose to do??
Is he controlling me? Or is it just how much he loves me?? Advice plz!!!

Well, he is a little insecure and caring. But when trust is lost in a relationship - its like the source that holds you 2 together is sorta breaking. If he can't trust you then maybe its time... to move on. Sorry.
If you love him dearly and wouldn't mind him not trusting you at the moment, then make it very clear that thise guys are JUST your friends and you would never in your life do anything a friend wouldn't do!
When he brings the topic up, take about it. Tell him how you feel and spill your feelings and mainly tell him you love him! Guys can't resist those lines! It should do the trick!

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(17/f)heyy alright well, okay theres this guy that really really liked me and i thought i liked him and we were like best friends and all, but then we took summer school together, and i met this other guy and i started going out with him without telling any of my other closest friend except for my bestest friend ever. and when the guy found out he was so upset. andd i ended up breaking up with the guy a week before school started again because he was a total jerk. but my bestsetset friend moved, to the other side of the country and now im all alone. even though things are cool between me and that guy,hes starting to like me again. the thing isss, i dont know what to do because i know if i go out with him ill be happy with him, its just...i dont know if i can see my self kissing himm or anything like that because weve always been good friends. and i think another reason is, is because all my other guy friends dont really get along with him and i dont want things to mess up between me and my friends since they already are kinda shaky. im so confused, and i have no one else to talk tooo...if you can please try to help me, itll be greatly appriciatedd. =( thankss.

I always say don't lose a friend, lose a boyfriend. Friends are for life, and maybe after you break up with the boyfriend, he may be your friend but the friend in the begginning knows you better and Im sure you feel alot comfortable with him. So its best to move on, since you and the friend are all cool now, carry on like that and in the mean time check out other singles and get flirty. Get into someone else, if you know what I mean.

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