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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I don't know what to do. Me and my boyfriend had sex over a month ago, we used a condom and everything but my period HASN'T COME...and I've never panicked this much about this before. Usually when it's late it's about a week late and everything but this is just too long.
We probably had sex the VERY end of june... and then all month july with no period. Now it's august 10th and I STILL havent gotten it.
We used protection and everything though, so I don't know if something happened, like the condom didn't break open or anything.
IT;s not even like the sex lasted THAT LONG ya know? so I don't understand... like I don't get why its so late.
Could I be pregnant?
I'm extremely worried.
What signs would I be getting if I were a month pregnant?
Please help me... I'm so scared.
Your best bet is to take a pregnancy test. Condoms are effective, but they aren't fool proof. So if you have went an entire month without a period, it's time to buy one.
I'm not saying you are pregnant, but it's time you find out for sure.
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does the first time for a girl hurt?
i thought it was supposed to feel good..?
just wondering, thanks!
13/f
The first time is different for everyone. It depends on many things. But regardless, it doesn't hurt as bad as childbirth. It does hurt though, so I wouldn't consider it until you're older.
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okay so i have always been turned on by a naked female but i always thought so did everyone period and that it didnt mean i was a lesbian. but lately i have been craving more and more to be with a girl sexually and emotionally. i end up catching myslef having a crush on a girl and wanting to hook up with her but i cant bring myself to actually do it. idk if its because i really am not a lesbian or if i am and dont know how to get something started with a girl. can somebody help me?
Experimenting is normal.
Just because you get turned on by watching other females doesn't mean you are gay. It's normal.
If you find yourself attracted to a certain woman and actually want to have sex with her, but you also like having sex with men, and are attracted to them as well, you are a bi-sexual.
If you are only attracted to women, and want to have a relationship with one, that probably means you are a lesbian.
But why label yourself anything? You are who you are, and it shouldn't matter who you are attracted to. =]
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i was wondering if like a normal girl lol gets wet when shes like having an orgasm and stuff.. i wasnt sure and i fingered myself to answer my own question and i had an orgasm for sure but i didnt get like wetttt i had a little bit of discharge and then a little bit later i tryed it again and i was actually kind of dry down there it was hard to finger myself because it was like really dry and it hurt because my finger wasnt like sliding so i was wondering are you supposed to cum a lot or something like whats supposed to happen?
If you are going to use a lubricant, don't use baby oil. Use KY or something of the sort.
Some girls get very wet, others not so much. When you get horny, you are supposed to produce a natural lubrication, so it's normal. If you didn't wait a while before doing it the second time, that's probably why you weren't lubricated.
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14/m
should i use a penis pump????my penis is only ;ike 6 -7 inches when i have a hard-on/erecr
Only if you feel it neccessary. Though I doubt you will find one at your age.
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whats a pep rally?
ok forget that umm what things can i do to avoid DRAMA in high school?
i had some drama in my middle schoold years and i want to avoid it so uhh i need advicce
i want answers from people with experience and people with no experience because they did the advice theyre about to tell me.
thankss
A Pep Rally is something cheerleaders usually hold before a big football or basketball game to get the school pumped up. They introduce players, play fun games, and perform for their school.
The best thing you can do to avoid drama in highschool is keep to yourself. Don't talk about people, keep your opinions to yourself, and if you know a secret/gossip about someone, keep it to yourself and don't tell anyone. Even then though, you can't avoid it completely. It's inevitable in school.
I'm a Senior this year, and my goal is to not get involved in drama too! I've been in it every single year since 6th grade, so maybe things will be better this year. =]
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14/f
lots of people have been telling me the my bf wants to take it to the next level..but i keep denying it to them....hes really sweet and really hot...when my friends and i got done with weights we asked if we could get a ride home from him and he said ok so we waited till he was done with weights in the car. It was 10 min to wear i texted him"hurry up plz" and i found out is phone was in his middle department thingy or whatever(the thing between the driver and passenger seat...so i open it and see a condom in there right next to his cellphone!!!what do i do?hes 16
Unless he's pressuring you into taking it to the next level, the fact that he wants to doesn't really matter. In this particular situation, all that matters is what you want and whether or not he is pressuring you into a decision.
Having a condom in his car isn't a crime. In fact, it's a good thing. It means he is prepared in case you decide to change your mind. If you feel it's neccessary, ask him about it. That's all you need to do.
=]
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okay I am definitely going to start using condoms after this.
I'm on Yaz birth control and I took my pill about 9 PM and threw up at 2 AM. well I never took another pill or anything because I wasn't sure if it was absorbed.
I know you're supposed to use a backup protection method for seven days if you missed a pill.
welllllllll. I had sex without a condom five days after throwing up. He didn't cum inside of me or anything. (but I know pre-cum and all that shit)
soooo....am I going to be pregnant now=[=[??
I'm very very paranoid about this and I'm not sure if my pill was absorbed before throwing up or if having unprotected sex five days later is okay.
HELP!!!
I'm on YAZ too, but I was under the impression that the pack said to use a back up method after you've missed 2 consecutive pills. I miss pills all the time, and the make them up the next day. You most likely aren't pregnant, though it is always possible. Never forget that.
If you had the pill in your system for at least a few hours, you shold be fine. Birth control is very effective, so don't stress out.
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OK so i just graduated 8th grade and am going into my freshmen year. I did cheerleading when I was 7 up to when i was 12. I was the best on my team.
I have been having practices at the HS I'm going into and I don't feel like I'm good enough.
The other girls can do so much more than me. I was a flyer all my life and I can't do half the stunts that they do.
I can't get my jumps high enough and I don't know why.
Tryouts are right around the corner and I want more than anything to make the team.
Help?!?!?! please!!!
You've been on a middle school team all your life. It will take some getting used to moving up to a HS team. They don't expect you to get all this your first day.
The stunts and jumps will come to you in time with practice. When you get home, do jump stretches like leg rolls, and leg kicks to get your jumps higher. Practice the stunts on chairs.
Also like, LOL said, Be Confident.
When you are a cheerleader, confidence is key. (I'm cheering my fifth year on a HS team now)
Stay after practice and ask the coaches or captains for help. They will notice how dedicated you are. That will also help you =]
Good Luck & Practice, Practice, Practice!
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I have been on the birth control lutera for about 5 months now. Everything is fine but I always find myself forgetting to take it at the right time. My gyno said that if I miss one, it doesn't matter just take two the next day. I have never missed two in a row; but I have made it a habit of missing one day, then taking two the next.
my question is, if I have been taking two every other day (for the most part), is the pill still effective?
I'm asking this because I got my period a week early, and that isn't suppose to happen when you're on bith control I thought...
If your doctor told you that you are protected, then you are. I'm the same way, I usually skip a day, & then take two. I have a busy schedule, and that's usually just how it happens.
Birth control does a lot of great things. Like keeping you protected during sex, making your periods lighter, and not as long, but it doesn't control when you get your period. Though, you shouldn't be bleeding if you are taking the active pills. So I would talk to your doctor about that. It's called breakthrough bleeding, and it can mean a bunch of different things, so get it checked out.
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i asked this question on another site, i just need more peoples opinions with what might be going on
so, i have always had a regular period, every 23 days i have my period.. i had unprotected sex on the 22 day and so i was suppose to get my period the next day(monday) and i still haven't gotten it..and people have told me you cant get pregnant a couple days before you get your period because your not ovulating, so my question is can sex cause changes in your cycle.. i also have been having sex for over a year and its never changed before.. but maybe it has now?
( we did use a condom but it broke)
You could be pregnant. When you have sex, you can always be pregnant, that's just how it goes.
Sex does seem to do weird things to periods in my experience, but it could just be by coincidence. I'm not sure.
However if you normally have a regular period, and you are late, that's not a good sign. Wait a month, if you still don't start your period then, take a pregnancy test. =]
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what is your clit..im trying to finger myself but nothin feels right
Your clitoris is located in front of your urethra. When you get horny, the clitoris fills with blood & becomes erect if you stimulate it.
Here is a decent diagram:
http://practicalsexadvice.files.wordpress.com/2008/01/dijagram-vagine1.jpg
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ok im 14 and i had sex twice with my boyfriend and i dont know if "it" {cherry} popped becasue everytime we have sex it hurts so bad is that normal for someone? i really really need to know before i have sex again>33 thanks :)
The person below me explained that getting your cherry popped is basically having your hymen ripped. But in fact, a lot of the times your hymen rips or tears slowly over time without you even realizing it, or having anything to do with sex.
If you have had sex twice, then there is a pretty good chance you do not have a hymen. If it still hurts, it probably has nothing to do with that. It's probably because you aren't lubricated enough when you have sex. If you can't get lubricated enough on your own, you can always buy KY.
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Ok,
I recently like 3 weeks ago, at the end of my period ,...had sex in a pool, my bf put it in with no condom for like 2 seconds then he put a condom on..i should be getting my period soon! and i need to know if i could be pregnant....and ive been having symptoms like my breasts are tender,and i have light cramping. but i get these a couple says before my period also i had a fever like 2 days after,,,so idk could i be??? and is 3 weeks after sex too early to be experianceing symptoms or is it just my period ?? SO PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I WANNA KNOW so please i need answers asap to this question
thanks
URGGH, you had sex?
As in, a penis went into your vagina?
If so, yes you could be pregnant. No condom? Even greater chance of pregnancy.
Light cramping + tender breasts= probable period.
Wanna know if you are pregnant? Take a pregnancy test.
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Me and my boyfriend had sex last week, it was only for two minutes and he noticed weird white stuff on me , we checked the condom. and it didnt break whatsoever their werent any holes in it at all because we really checked and he was also really dry and didnt bust at all. should i be worried, was the white stuff from me?
If you have sex you can be pregnant.
You had sex. You can be pregnant.
Miss a period? Take a test.
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I'm in love with my friend. I'm a 15/m and he's a 16/M and he's straight and i fell in love with him he's gorgeous and funny and smart. i just want to be with him. he kno's i like him...can anyone tell me what to do
If he's straight it probably isn't a good idea to go after him. If he's not in to guys, I doubt there is anything you can do to pursuade him.
It's best to just go after someone else. You'll eventually find someone =]
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My boyfriend and i are ready to have sex, but I'm a little scared. He says he can get me birth control to take, and we would also use a condom, of course. I'm not worried about any diseases (we're clean). I'm only worried about getting pregnant. By using condoms and taking birth control, am I really at any risk?
If you use birth control and a condom, as long as both are used correctly, the chances of you getting pregnant are very slim. Remember though, birth control takes up to a few months to get really effective.
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ok so my boyfriend and I were having sex yesterday and when he pulled out the condom was covered in white sticky stuff. I mean like solid white, it looked kind of like glue. It wasn't seman, because his condom didn't rip or leak or anything we checked. it must have come from me. Now I know girls have discharge but mine has always been clear. is it normal for it to be white? Could something be wrong with me?
extra:
we have been dating for 5 years, we were both each other's firsts and neither of us has ever had any type of sex with somebody else.
the condom was ribbed, and because of that it was a little more harsh than usual. would that have anything to do with it?
and we KNOW the condom didn't break or leak, we checked.
we've had sex about 15 times, and it still kind of hurts for me. Is this normal?
What could be wrong with me? please help I feels so clueless.
That's your natural lubrication. =] Absolutely nothing to worry about in the least, it's completely normal & actually a good thing. It probably means you were enjoying yourself.
I have been having sex for 2.5 years, and sometimes I still hurt too if I haven't had sex in a few weeks, or if i'm not well lubricated enough.
You all are perfectly safe & it's perfectly normal.
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I had sex with my boyfriend like three times while on Yaz. We didn't use protection, but he didn't cum inside of me and I know there was no precum cause we didn't even finish or anything. but anyways.
okay so this is my fourth month on it and I finished the active pills on tuesday. it's thursday and I still didn't get my period. I'm probably just paranoid. but fuckkkkkkkkkk
IS THIS NORMAL
I am also on YAZ. I never start my period until my last white pill. So unless you've completely missed your period, you shouldn't worry. And even then, it's considered normal. You shouldn't even worry about taking a pregnancy test until you've missed 2 periods. So until you have, don't stress out.
If you have already been on it for 4 months, you are protected against pregnancy.
You're safe. Don't worry =]
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so there is this guy, and i told him how i felt about him even though he had a girlfriend and he said i wanna tell you how i feel about you and he did he said he wished we could have gotten to know each other more...
well we would just talk on emails over myspace and thats it until just recently two days ago from today he asked do you wanna hang out with me.....well we never did cuz of the timeing bbut the next day we talked more, ust over emails and he told me that him and his girlfriend just broke up!!!!! but the thing is we never talk about him and her and whats more he told i didnt even bring her up!!!!!
well anyways i asked why they broke up and he said it was because
.....she thought he was cheating on her with ....ME!!!!!!!!
and thats not true!!!!! so i wrote back saying im sorry i should have just left you alone i feel really bad now.....heres the part youve been waiting for......his girlfriend requests me as a friend on myspace and she says.........listen yurr not the reason we broke up things were just going down hill for us so its not yurr fault!!!!!
WTF!!!!!!!!!!! why in the world would he tell me that i was the reason!!!!!!???????
does anyone know why!!!
cuz im pretty sure he likes me or at least has feelings for me so why would he tell me they broke up cause of me??????
help me please!!
Maybe he likes you, and didn't know how to tell you. He could have thought that telling you that his girlfriend and him broke up over you would make you like him and want to maybe try dating.
I don't know though, you'll have to ask him yourself.
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