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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Im a freshamn in High School (female), and all my friends started to wear makeup, i mean they dont cake it on they do it really nicely! i want to start wearing makeup too but theres just a small problem........ i dont know how to put it on and im too shy to ask my friends how too, incase they think im a loser that dont no how to put it on!! Please Help me
First of all, you shouldn't want to wear makeup just because your friends do. That's just dumb. Makeup is about accenting your feautures, not for being "cool" or to "fit in" or ..whatever. And if these girls are really your friends, they wouldn't mind to help you out. That's what friends are for, if they think you are loser, then obviously they weren't your friends to begin with.
You need to decide what makeup it is you want to wear. Do you want to wear foundation, powder, or both? What about the eyeliner? Liquid, glimmerstick, or pencil? It's important to know what eyeshadow colors and techniques you want to use also. What's your skin tone color? This is a very important step in wearing makeup. If you don't get the right color foundation or blush, you'll end up looking like you are ready for Halloween early this year.
We'll start with foundation.
Some people do not like to use foundation and that is ok. But it's a great way to help
protect your face from all those hazardous things you literally face everyday. The sun, wind, rain--anything can cause your face to get irritated. A good foundation will help protect your face from whatever is out there. Try a foundation with a light sunscreen in it. The extra protection will make a big difference.
Make sure that you do not get a color that is too light or too dark for your face or it will look too painted on. It is important for it to look natural. If you really want a nice warm
look on your face, a darker foundation is not the answer. Try some bronzer, which we can talk about later. The general rule is to try to match your foundation with the color of your neck. This will assure that it is the most natural color you could wear. Blend the foundation into your face and make sure that is it all absorbed before you move onto the next step. A triangle sponge is very helpful to blend the foundation the best.
If you have any zits, blotches are other blemishes, try using a little concealer. I rarely use it, because the foundation I use covers my face well enough without it. But for those pesky pimples that show up every once in a while, concealer can come in handy. When buying, make sure that it's a shade lighter than your foundation. You can apply it before or after, but I suggest before. Apply a very small amount of concealer on the tip of your ring finger and lightly dab it on the desired areas of your
face. Dab on the concealer and allow it to dry for a few seconds and start to carefully blend it into your skin to make it look as natural as possible. If needed apply some more foundation to help it blend even more. Let concealer fully absorb before moving onto the next step.
Loosen up with powder. Get your hands on nice large powder brush. After putting on your foundation and concealer, use either a loose or pressed powder to help set the make-up on your face. Lightly dab your brush into your powder and get a small to moderate amount onto the end of your brush. If using a loose powder, lightly tap the end of your brush on the counter to cause
the powder to drop into the bristles a little so that it doesn't just fall onto the first part of your face that you touch. Lightly stroke your face with your brush in downward strokes until your entire face has been brushed and you have achieved a nice matte look on your face. This is the only time we would ever use a downwards motion on your face. Unfortunately all of us have
small amount of "peach fuzz" on our faces and by brushed our faces downwards it helps to lay those little hairs down and make them less noticeable. Make sure that your powder is applied
evenly and move onto the next step.
You want your make-up to last all day, right? I thought so. To make it last, I suggest using an eye shadow primer before applying any eye makeup. Try Urban Decay's Primer Potion. Apply
it everywhere you apply eye makeup. Then that ever-elusive eye shadow and liner will stay put for you. Sounds nice, doesn't it? Now its time to line your eyes. Eyeliner is good to start with so you don’t mess with your mascara. Some don't like eyeliner, so you can skip this step if you'd like. Anyways, first you have to decide which eyeliner formula to use: liquid,
or pencil. Both have their advantages. Liquids are usually more long lasting as they don't smudge, and provide you with a clearer, definite line. The fact that you have to "paint" it on and wait for it to dry can make it tricky though. Pencils give a smokier, sultry quality and can be applied more easily and with
more precision. However, they have tendency to smudge. Starting at the inner corner of your eye, slowly apply a thin streak along
your lash line. If you are using liquid, fan it dry, then open up and see how you like it. Too thin? Try it again, this time a little thicker. Too thick? Dab a q-tip with water or eye-makeup
remover, and swipe away from the thickness until you're satisfied with the result. It's also a good idea to make your eyeliner thicker toward the outer corners of your eyes to make them look
larger. If you would like, repeat the process on the bottom lash line, or just above it at the inner rim of your eye (this can be
tricky for beginners.)
Open your eyes to the wonders of eye shadow! Yes, this sounds cheesy, but with practice eye shadow really is amazing. There are so many effects to choose from when using eye shadow. But basics are still good, so here goes. First decide what color family you want your eye shadow to be. Pink and blue are popular as well as neutrals like brown, peach, and cream. From these color groups, pick one color as dark as your skin tone (think basic pink), one darker or brighter than your skin tone (think darker mauve or hotpink), and one much lighter than your skin tone (think pale pink). Using an eye shadow sponge apply the darker or brighter shadow along the crease (basically, the dip between lid and brow bone), applying more heavily toward the outer half. Then with the medium shade and an eye shadow brush, dust the lid and smudge the
edges of the darker color until things look even. Then wipe the brush off on a towel or piece of toilet paper, and sweep it through the lightest shade. Then sweep the brush along your brow bone to taste. Tweak your shadow as much as you want using our other tips sections.
Time to put the finishing touch on your
eyes: mascara. Its less versatile but can be the most beautifying of your eye makeup. Start out by, if you wish, curling your eyelashes with a metal lash curler. Place at the base of your
lashes and squeeze gently. Then take your mascara wand, dab the tip off on a towel, and place the brush at the base of your eyelashes, under your lashes. Wiggle the wand as you push it up through your lashes. Repeat as necessary, focusing on the tips after the first stroke. Coat your bottom lashes as much as you
want, but they are less important.
This is the easiest of all the steps. Get your blush, and with a nice, mid-sized blush brush, lightly brush your cheeks in an upwards motion. Starting at the apple of you cheek, right below the middle of your eye (in most cases), brush outward toward your hairline lifting the brush away from your face as you go. Doing this will focus colored where you first applied it and will blend it outwards to create the desired
effect. Use a triangle sponge to blend even more if desired.
There are many options when it comes to your lips. Lipstick or lip gloss? Matte lipstick or metallic? Shimmer gloss or shiny? In the end, the only thing that matters is what you
like. If you do want to use a liner, I would suggest going with a natural or neutral shade. You can change things up a bit with different colored lipstick or gloss--depending on your mood. If you want something a little more daring, try a liner a shade or 2 darker than your actual lip color. Take the liner in your hand and hold it like you would a normal pencil. With light strokes, "draw" an outline of your lips starting at the top in the center of your lips and working outwards and down. If needed, lightly stroke the liner on the inside area of your lips to help blend the color so you don’t have such a definite line. If you don't want lipstick then skip this step. Take your lipstick and, again, start in the middle on your top lip and work your way out and down. Rub back and forth until you get the desired amount on your lips and then smack your lips together to ensure uniformity. Top it all off with a nice lightly colored lip gloss. Apply like you would the lipstick blending as you go. Smack your lips together again and check your teeth to make sure you don’t have any smudges.
any more questions?
ask.
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Ok im a virgin. but im self conscious about my breats. Ones bigger than the other one. And also when i was younger i got a growth spert and got stretch marks on them too. will that make my partner feel unatracted to me?
No.
stretch marks fade - keep firming lotion on them.
guys love boobs. big, little, round, pointy, whatever.
on all girls, yes ALL, 1 boob is always bigger than tne other.
no worries.
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My name is **SARAH** and im 15 [[16 in 2 months]]. I have a boyfriend **JOHN** who is also 15 and going to be 16 in 2 months. Well JOHN and I have been going out for 5 months this Saturday. We get along so well and we talk about EVERYTHING. When we hang out we don't have to do stuff to have fun; we cuddle, talk about everything, watch movies, sit outside and watch the stars. Well the past few days we got ALOT closer. He is the first boy i went out with for longer the 1 week after my very first love and hardest break up of 2 years. Well; the other day we became alot more physical. I mean before that all we did was BARELY make out; but the other day. It was like we made out for 2 hours and he fingered me. I was the first girl he ever did anything with like that and he was the second guy who did it to me. [[my first love was obv. my first]]. Well; we both have talked and decided we don't want to ruin our relationship with being sexual all the time. He knows about my past and i told him i didn't want to have sex until i was WAYYY older and hopefully married. He tells me all the time he wants to marry me and that he loves me more then anything in the world and i believe him. Well, he also doesnt want to have sex until he is married. We have talked about this so many times; but i am afraid that one day i'm going to get to crazy and give in. I REALLY DONT want to. I already made this mistake before. Do any of you have advice for me? PLease don't tell me to talk to him about, we have. It doesnt have to be 1,000,000 dollar advice ANYTHING would help. Please help me and please don't criticize me.
**SARAH**
If you don't want to have sex, then don't. Stick to your morals and don't let out of control hormones change that for you. Easier said than done, but once you do it, you'll be very proud of yourself.
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Ok well there is a girl at my school and i have p.e. with her. one day i saw one of her friends yelling at her. When i asked if she was ok, she showed me her wrists. she cuts herself. i really feel sorry for her. is there anything that i can do?
Talk to her first. Sit her down and tell her what a serious problem it is. I'm a recovering cutter, and I know what it's like. I was very much addicted, it's like a drug and it's not fun! If you talking to her doesn't help, tell the school guidance councelor. Let him/her take it from there. They'll know exactly what to do.
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So basically, I haven't been in school for like a week, I just don't go, I don't know why or anything, I just don't go to school. I also have a couple of pending court cases so I'll only miss more school, I really can't afford to miss all this school. However, I really can't seem to go to school at the same time. I was wondering if perhaps anyone could analyze what's going on with me right now or if other people have ever seemed to have this problem. Thanks.
I have that problem. My mom literally has to make me go to school sometimes. It's not neccesarily that I hate going, it's just something about school that I can't stand. Honestly, i've missed more school in these past 3 months than most students do in an entire school year. It's pathetic. I've begged my mom to homeschool me. I told her zillions of times that if she wouldn't, i'd drop out. We fight over it so much, and it drives me crazy!
The only advice I have for you is to eat healthy (this helps with everything it seems like), go to bed at the same time every night, wake up at the same time every morning, take showers to wake yourself up, and do your best not to miss anymore. For me, it seems the more I miss, the more I don't want to go. Mainly I guess, because you know you'll get makeup work pounded in your head when you miss. Make it a new year's goal this year to stop missing so much school.
It's hard to give advice to someone when you have the same problem they do. =\
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Does anyone know where I can get these shoes?
http://i13.tinypic.com/3yp18o8.jpg
I know for a fact they're not Keds, or Vans.
Please help! Thank you. ♥
Maybe Converse?
You can buy shoes like that anywhere, though they may not be namebrand. (DC, Vans, Converse..)
Try Delias, PacSun, Walmart, Goodys, Hottopic, etc.
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you know the episode when spencer's brother(his name just blanked out) and maddison go into the bathroom stahl and we about to have sex. and then maddison walked out on him .. what happened??? i really did not follow.
They were trying to have sex, and he couldn't get his penis hard. If I remember correctly it had something to do with the pain medication he was on.
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I masturbate wayyy to much!
I wish i could stop or atleast masturbate a little, less because I know its wrong according to what I believe, which is the bible.
I masturbate 1-5 times a day!
any ideas how to stop?
I know this question sounds, silly but I'm serious its become almost an addiction.
You are at an age right now where you are very sensitive to hormones. Meaning you get turned on much more than the average person. It's not uncommon. Matter of fact, it happens to everyone during puberty. 1-5 days is a lot, but some masturbate much more than that at your age.
The bible never directly says that masturbation is a sin. Ever. You can do it to your heart's content, honestly. If you still don't want to masturbate, try avoiding the things that make you horny. (magazines, pictures, articles, websites, etc) When you get the urge, exercise or do another healthy activity. Anything to keep your mind off of it. Use your will-power. You honestly don't have an addiction. I gurantee you could quit whenever you wanted. You may not like it, but I bet you could.
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Alright last night i was going to give my asian boyfriend head, but then i was worried if his dick was going to be small. i know in general asians do have small penises..
also im afraid i could get an std from giving him head, but i dunno how to ask him if he has one
That's very steriotypical of you to say that. That's like saying all white guys have big penises. Deffinately not the case!
As for the STDs, don't ask him. Just make sure to use a condom. Flavored condoms are nice =]
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do guys like it better when your completely shaved down there? thankss.
GUYS DON'T CARE!
My lord, if you are going to shave do it for yourself. A vagina is a vagina. Whether it has hair or not, if they see it, they're satisfied.
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My boyfriend and I have been sexually active, and I'm just wondering when it is safest to have sex without the possibility of pregnancy... like right before or right after having a period? thanks.
Matter of factly, you are the least fertile during your period. If you aren't comfortable enough to do that with your boyfriend, you shouldn't be having sex.
No sex is safe sex. Especially without any kind of birth control method. There is always the possibibility of pregnancy.
Just so you know :]
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well i have been dating my boyfriend for quite a whilue now and we have been doing stuff but not sex dont worry but i gave him head the other day and he ejaculated in my mouth and it was a lot i am 16 but in health they said not more than a tablespoon and it seemed like much more and i ended up swallowing some but it tasted so horrible and it was like foamy yellowish my throat kind of hurt in the morning . . . is that normal should we get tested to be safe?
Some guys ejaculate more or less than that. A tablespoon is simple just the average amount I suppose. My throat has never hurt after swallowing, so i'm not so sure about that. But one thing I am sure of, it should not be yellowish. That's not normal. Get tested to be on the safe side.
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wat happens if i use nair on my balls
idk.
read on the back of the label and if it doesn't say anything about not being able to use it on your pubic area, go for it. but just put it on a small section of the area first to make sure you aren't allergic or something.
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Alright. My boyfriend and I have thought a LOT about having sex with each other. I really want to and I'm ready but I'm only 15, and if I explained to my folks that I need birth control, they'd kill me. I know I'm ready because we've been dating for quite sometime, and I'm very in love with him and I want him to be my first. We've planned to stay together for a while and I'm not one of those girls who just blabber on and on about how I love this person so so so much. I take things seriously and I don't say I love you every 5 minutes because it's something very special to say. Not only do you have a healthy, good physical relationship with each other, we've got an amazing emotional one too. We're so open with each other, it throws me off guard sometimes. He's my best friend in the whole wide world and we even broke up with each other a few months ago but we never stopped talking like we do now and we didn't stop seeing other. He's amazing, I love him, and we can't ever get enough of each other. At school, we're together, and then after school we're on the phone until bedtime. Then on weekends we're together. Theres always things to talk about when we're together and theres always things to do. We get along amazingly and we have a really strong connection. Hes so practical and logical too. He's very smart with his decisions and he's helped me along so well. I've had a lot happen to me the past few years and I went off track but now my life is great and things are going smoothly. See now I want to have sex with him, and I already think my parents suspect that we fool around. Would fooling around be considered sexually active? Do I sound ready for sex? Someone please help me, I've talked to him about this as well and he doesn't know what to do. We need some clearing up!!
If you say you are ready, then you are ready. If you are having second thoughts then you aren't. Sex is something very serious that you shouldn't take lightly and you sound like a girl who's very much aware of all of the consequences and already knows everything I could possibly through out there to you. Do I think you SOUND ready? Sure. Does that mean you ARE ready? No. Only you know that one.
Your relationship sounds wonderful, and remember that having sex won't make it any better, and that if you do plan on spending a long time together, there isn't anything wrong with waiting until you are 100% positive it's what you want to do.
And yes, fooling around is qualified as being sexually active. And you don't have to tell your parents that you want to be put on birth control. Health Departments will give you birth control for free without your parents being there. If that still scares you, just make sure you guys use a condom, and make sure to use it correctly.
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if you are hiv positive can u still get a belly ring and tattoo please let me know
Yes. You can still have all of the same rights as everyone else, even though you do have a contagious disease. That being said, if you do get a piercing or tattoo of any kind, let the person that's doing it know, so they can take the precautions needed.
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Lately I've been feeling really insecure about myself, because my boyfriend seems to be talking more and more to this girl. She goes to a different school, but they still talk often. I've asked him about it, and he's said they're just friends.
This is her - http://i12.tinypic.com/2jb0gbb.jpg
This is me - http://i12.tinypic.com/2ezikwm.jpg
Can you guys please give me an HONEST opinion of who you think is better looking? I really need to know if I should be worried or not that he is talking to her, like is she prettier than me? Thanks.
she's very pretty in the first & last picture.
if that's not what you want to hear, i'm sorry.
on the other hand you are pretty in the 2nd and last picture.
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. so it doesn't matter what we think, it matters what your guy thinks.
annywayys, if he says you have nothing to worry about, then obviously don't worry.
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okay im 19 and pregnant. the thing is i dont know who the father is bc i sort of go drunk one night & slept with my friend's sisters boyfriend. but the week before i slept with my friend's best friend which he knows about that one but not about his sisters boyfriend! i dont know what to do! any advice please!?
The first and most important thing you need to do is decide what you are going to do about the pregnancy. Forget about not knowing who the father is, and forget about all the drama that's going to take place because of not knowing. Focus on the baby, because it's not going to stop growing just because you don't know who it's father is. It's your fault, and it's that simple. I pity you, I truly do. And not because you are 19 and pregnant. I pity you because you have no clue who the father is!
If the above was harsh, i'm sorry. But it's the honest to God truth! If you didn't want to get pregnant, you should have had protected sex. And quite frankly, you shouldn't have gotten drunk and had sex with a taken man. Enough with the judements on my part, I apologize. You are pregnant and you have to much on your plate to deal with me yelling at you.
The first choice you need to make is what are you going to do about the pregnancy. Are you going to keep the baby, put the baby up for adoption, or terminate the pregnancy?
In whatever option you choose, you have another choice to make. Are you going to tell the 2 guys about your pregnancy and are you going to ask for a DNA test from the two to see who the baby's father is?
These are your choices. You need to make them. And you need to accept them. Rate me down for my honesty, go ahead. But seriously, it's the truth and deep down in your heart, you know it as well as I do.
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how do you tell if a louie vuittan purse is real?
The real purse will have the name etched on the inside. The real expensive ones come with a certificate. That's when you know it's real.
But who cares honestly? If the purse is cute, that's all that should matter.
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alright well me and my boyfriend have bin together 1 year now and well lets just say, we are so predictible in bed now thats its scary. anyways i just wanted to know if anyone had any sites i could refer to, to help me with my little problem? it would be greatly apreciated
if different positions is what you are looking for; www.wikipedia.com
just type in 'sex positions'. the results will suprise you. ;]
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The last time I had sex with my boyfriend was 2 weeks ago. My period is not due for another week or so. My stomach has been feeling weird now, I feel fatter/heavier, and I just don't feel well. When is the best time to take a pregnancy test and have it accurate? Is it a week before your first missed period or something like that?
The best time to take a home pregnancy test is a week AFTER your missed period; preferably in the morning. You will get a much more accurate response that way. The 'fatter/heavier' feeling you are getting could be 1 of 2 things. It's either all in your head or you are bloating. If you use the EPT pregnancy test, you can take it a week before your missed period, but I would personally just wait unless you just MUST know.
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