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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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ok so if i worked extra extra EXTRAAA hard do you think i could lose up to about 20 pounds or more by new years i am muy desperado i would eat right and exersise and everything just if you guys have any tips or think im crazy pleasee help THANK YUUU
Why in the world would you want to lose that much weight period? Unless you are literally obese and it's for health reasons, there really is no need.
Muy desperado can turn into Muy crash dieting if you aren't careful about how you go about dieting. So please, no skipping meals or overworking yourself.
If you are serious about losing weight though, you have to keep a routine going. If you lay around the house and eat a bunch of greasy foods and junk for a week and then not eat at all & exercise your ass off for a week, you'll get no where and you will make no progress. You have to be serious about what you are doing, and you have to keep to a strict diet. Notice I said strict, not starvation. As in you have to keep up your routine.
This won't be easy, and you'll have to work really hard, but if you are honestly serious and dedicated to this, I suppose I have some advice.
Try doing about 200 minutes of cardio work out for a week. Fat does NOT turn into muscle. You have to burn fat while putting on muscle. Do NOT go over an hour at one time. 30 or 45 minutes should be plenty.
Do 5 to 10 minutes of cardio to warm up, then start on weight training. Do anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour of more cardio and then rest. Weight lifting is a great way to lose weight, so keep it up. Your muscle will determine the rate of our metabolism. If you find weight lifting difficult, try aerobics or yoga.
The best time to eat is just within the hour of your workout when your metabolism is in high gear.
Regulary eat 5 to 6 times a day to keep your metabolism at a steady pace. Have smaller portions of food instead of 3 square meals a day. Strive to include all the fruits and veggies you can find for the 2 smaller meals. Drink green tea every morning (it helps with digestion which does help you lose weight)
Always eat breakfast. Metabolism is at it's highest at this time of day. Cut out any & all fast foods and sodas. Period.
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15/f. has anyone here ever use the MAC studio mist blush? is it any good? here is the link:
http://www.maccosmetics.com/templates/products/sp.tmpl?CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY15104&PRODUCT_ID=PROD10697
or is the creme blush any better?
http://www.maccosmetics.com/templates/products/sp.tmpl?CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY15104&PRODUCT_ID=PROD7518
just let me know your opinon on both! i'm thinking of getting one for christmas. thanks!
I've never used the mist blush, but i'm sure it's worth giving a try. It looks awesome. If you end up getting it and then liking it, let me know. I may invest in some =]
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my name is Rachel strickland and iam 17 years old and iam sorry if this in the wrong category but i didn't know weather to put this in school or parenting so i put under parenting but anyways lets get to the point of things.my mom works in the lunchroom at school so at the end of the day when the bell rang I figured like she always does she would wait for me in the cafetiria like i said she always does this and she wasn't there so i looked in the kitchen becouse sometimes she goes into the kitchen to clean up a little bit while she waits again she wasn't there so i looked in the media center sometimes she goes in there to get a magazine or a newspaper to read while she waits for me again she wasn't there so i begane to get scared even though iam 17 i don't like the idea of being by myself or my mom forgetting me anywhere becouse my dad died when i was 12 and ever since then i haver real bad anxiety attacks so anyway I waited outside for about an hour and half becouse if figured my mom had to do go pick up my 5 year old niece and 3 year old nephew from school first I understand that my niece and nephew have to come before i do becouse they are younger than me but what me mad was i got tired of waiting for 30 minutes outside so i went in and called my stepdad to com and get me he wouldn't come becouse he said he had to take somebody to work i thought he's 17 year old stepdaughter was more important than his social life so i began to get scared and upset so i told ok and hung up the phone and i started crying becouse this has never happened to me before ever so I went back outside to wait and i waited for about another hour so that was an hour and half waiting school gets out about 3:00pm and i waited about an hour and a half untill i got tired of waiting all day long like i was nothing so i started to walk home by myself when i don't like that anyways i got so nervous about walking about walking home my hands were cold and clamy and i started shaking my heart was beating really fast and i had a really bad headache and iwas still crying so by the time i got home my niece and nephew were on the floor playing like everything was ok i know they are only 5 and 3 so i wasn't mad with that what i was mad about to see my mom taking a nap on the couch I don't know why that made me so mad but it did so when my mom woke up i didn't wake her then becouse i needed to take a nap myself and get calmed down so i took a nap and when i woke up my mom was fixing dinner and then when she saw me she said i hi honey dinner's ready and then i said mom did you happen to forget something at school today like mabey your daughter and then she just said sorry like it was no big deal what should i do please help!!!!!!!!
You are 17 years old, and i'm sure your mother thought you would be fine on your own. After all, you will be out of her house in a year or less. Once you are 18, you are officially an adult, so I suppose she thought it was time for you to be more independent. I understand that you're scared to be by yourself, considering you lost your father, but it's time to get over your fear and start being more self effecient. You obviously did fine getting home on your own. Consider that a test that you've passed. If this bothers you that bad, talk to your mom and let her know. The clammy hands, headache, and extreme nervousness could be a sign of an anxiety disorder. If you let her know about this, she can get your help and counceling if it's needed. Just relax and breathe. You are fine now, and obviously your mom is under a great deal of stress. Seeing as how she has a 17 year old daughter, a job, and on top of that, she has to babysit toddlers. It's not easy and maybe she thought you could fend for yourself just one day.
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ok so sometimes i finger myself in the shower and i always pee. is that normal and what can i do to like stop thanks in advance
it's normal to feel like you need to pee right before you orgasm, but it's not normal to pee right afterwards in the shower. i always have to go to the bathroom after i orgasm, but i can hold it and it's not uncontrollable. if you can't control it, something may be wrong. if you just feel the need to get out of the shower and go, then that's normal.
also try using the bathroom before showering.
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Im kinda popular I guess.
Most boys are mean to me in school and then out of school all they wanna do is hookup with me.
Its weird, but they dont LIKE LIKE me.
I mean , no guys really like me for who i am , they just wanna hookup with me for some reason.
And I dont get it , im not even that pretty and im not that skinny.
Ive never had a boyfriend and I want a guy to actually like me.
Whats the deal here?
they apparently think you'll put out.
this could or could not be the case (hopefully not) the best advice i could give you would be to N0T hookup with them, but continue to be their friends. the being mean to you is probably just flirting. eventually a guy will come along that will like you for you, and not sex.
just keep being friendly and keep your eyes open for the right guy.
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for my party next weekend im gonna be having storbe lights muusic etc.
but i need to know where i can find like glow stick BRACELETS so i can hand out so the party can look more party ish in the dark lol thanks
walmart is the only place i could think of. you could look in the halloween section. it should all be 50% off considering it's after october.
or you could order it off the internet if you have time.
that's the only thing i could think of to do.
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Is there any way you can be pregnant and still get your next period? If so, how can you tell the difference between this and a regular period? I heard that one girl was actually pregnant for like 3 months and didnt know cause she had been getting "fake periods". Could this happen to me? I'm not sure if I am pregnant. I still have to wait like a week and a half before i can take a pregnancy test. I'm supposed to be getting my period any day now or I could even be a few days late. I'm really stressing out over this. I dont want to get my period and think that I'm not pregnant and then 3 months later find out I am. Is this true??
This can happen, but it's usually not a 'period' it's just spotting that women sometime mistake for a period. If you start your period on time, and nothing seems abnormal about it your fine. If you really just have to know if that it's a possibility for you, take a pregnancy test. If it comes out negative, then don't worry.
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how do you calculate your period, like if i got it today will i get another one in 28 days or will i get it 28 days after it ends?
Usually the only way to literally calculate the day your period will come and end is by being on birth control. It's idiot proof, because it's right there on the pill case. If you have a very regular period though, it may be easier. Keep in mind some women have 3 day periods while others have 7 day periods. Others have 28 days in between there periods while other have 18 or 30 something. The first month in calculating your period is simply just finding out how long your period is and how many days are in between. After that, get a calender and count the days out by how many days are in between. Then you'll know.
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if you have sex. and you;re supposed to get your period about two weeks after...will it just be late or will you completly miss it? i never under stood that..
if your period is late, it still comes that month, just at a later time. if you miss it completely, you don't have it at all that month. missing it completely is a sign of pregnancy. having a late period just means you have an irregular cycle or something's caused it to get off schedule. (medicine, sex, etc)
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Ok, me and my boyfriend are both 17 and have been dating for almost 6 months. We have had sex without a condom twice and im not on any type of birth control. The first time was Oct. 25 and the second was Nov. 8. I was scared the first time we had sex that I was pregnant but decided i would wait for my period to get all worried about it. I seriously doubt i could have gotten pregnant from the first time cause it was only for like a minute. I got nervous and we stopped. The second time we again didnt use a condom. He pulled out before he came but maybe he didnt do it soon enough. Some of it got on my leg and I asked him if he came inside me and he said he definitely didnt and i didnt feel anything. My period is usually 4 1/2 weeks apart and my period should be coming any day now or could be a couple days late. I dont want anyone to know so thats why I havent gotten a pregnancy test yet. Is there any chance I could be pregnant? I'm so nervous and this is all i have been thinking about. My boyfriend says if i am pregnant that we are not getting an abortion but i dont know if i can handle a baby at this age. Help me please!
if he didn't ejaculate in you, and you took a pregnancy test that came out negative, then most likely you aren't pregnant. try taking another one in three days like you say you are going to, and if that one comes out negative, then don't stress. If you don't get your period within a month, go to a doctor and get a blood test.
i've discovered it's a lot harder to get pregnant than people say. take my word for it or not, but i think telling people if they have sex, then they are most likely pregnant than not is a load of crap. i think it's very hard to get pregnant personally. and i think older people saying it isn't is just a scare tactic.
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well im almost 14 and i just started masterbating a little. it feels good but i feel like i shouldn't be doing it.
i was with my friends and they were talking about it and saying how gross it was. i was just like playing along and agreeing even though i do it.
am i too young?.. is there anyone my age that does it too?
thanks in advanced
i first experimented with "myself" when i was 13. puberty can do strange things to you, and if you just have to go with it. you aren't too young at all, you are at the age where kids start getting these sexual feelings and needs a healthy way to express them. this is how you do it, and it's perfectly fine.
i bet your friends probably do it or have done it as well. most everyone has at least tried it. whether it be for pleasure or just out of pure curiousity. it's not a bad or a gross thing. it's just natural human instinct. if your friends haven't done it yet, they won't be far behind you in trying it.
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My best friend has a serious load of stress on her shoulders. She's only thirteen years old and she is the only person in her family without a physical handicap. Her mother is narcoleptic and bipolar, her father has OCD and is anorexic, and her sister is most likely bipolar too. She is an incredibly smart girl-- a straight A's honors class student. Her boyfriend, who was her best friend before, recently broke up with her too. All this stress is really pressing on her. She can't see a therapist either because if she does her dad will get angry. She has been told by her parents that they hate her and wish she was never born. She knows that somewhere in there they care about her, but she cannot recieve family love. She is basically in charge of making sure her family doesn't fall apart. I honestly don't think this is even vaguely fair for her. I would love to be able to help in some way, but I have no idea how. Around me, everything seems normal. She puts on a straight face, but it's obvious it's tearing her up inside. Is there any way I can help her or she can help herself or her family? They refuse to go to clinics. I'm really scared that something is going to happen. Please try to help as best as you can. Thank you so much.
It sounds like your friend is indeed under a great deal of stress. I've been there also, so I know how she feels in someways. However I wasn't half as bad off as she seems to be.
It must be hard having a family full of mental diseases. I can only imagine the pressure it puts on this girls shoulders, and i'm sure it's tough. But you aren't her, if she asked this question my advice we much different then the advice i'm giving you. If she doesn't want to see a therapist, don't press her. You can't make her get help, in the end she can only help herself.
The only thing you can really do it hope for the best and be there for her when she needs you. Love her, hug her, listen to her. If she does want to get help, and her family won't let her, tell her to talk to the school guidance counceler. That's the first professional help I got, and then she got me more help that I needed. Mention this to her.
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how can i get my bangs like this and hair curly like that
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or this
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or hair like poofy like this
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or bangs like this
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i just want to be them lol so plz help me
For your bangs, you just need to take an exact picture of how you want them to your hair dresser if you don't already have them cut. I wouldn't advise cutting them yourself, but that's just me.
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For the first picture, I'm pretty sure they scrunched their hair. Use Aussie Sprunch Spray, just because it's the best. My hair won't srunch no matter how bad I want it to, just because I have stick straight hair. If you have a bit of a natural wave, try this:
1. Shampoo your hair with products meant to help your hair's flexibility and texture. I think they have shampoo out now formulated to prep the hair for straight or curly looks. Maybe invest in some of this?
2. After shampooing, towel dry your hair. Make sure it's damp, but not dripping.
3. Apply some hair gunk (as i call it) from the root to tip for firmness. Hair gel or glaze is better for thick hair and foam or mousse is better for fine. Experiment and see which is better.
4. Dry your hair. Use a dryer or let it dry naturally. Either way, you must be patient. Don't rush the drying process.
5. Grab a piece of hair in your hands and squeeze, pushing the ends upward causing it to scrunch. If you are using a hair dryer, direct the air towards the part of hair you are working with. Drop that piece and grab another. Continue this process until your hair is completely dry.
* Grabbing small chunks of hair and working slower gives you a more curly look. I am pretty sure this is what you want, because that is what it looks like in the picture.
* Grabbing large chunks gives more of a wave effect.
For the bangs in this picture, straighten them with a straightner. Use a glosser to give them a shiny look.
If this doesn't work, obviously you have very straight hair like I do. Try using a small curling iron and curling each strand of hair & then scrunching it.
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In the second picture, it looks like they've scrunched their hair again. Only in large sections and then teased it up a little with a comb.
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In the third picture (she's VERY pretty. urg) she's straightened her hair. I'm sure you know how to do that. If not, ask me in my inbox.
To tease her hair up like that, she took the section of hair she wanted and put the hair tye or barrette and put it 2 inches above her crown. Then she pushed the barrette up, which pushed her hair up as well. This hairstyle takes a lot of practice and is very hard to get just right. But keep practicing.
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To get the bangs in the last picture, they have to be cut like that. You really can't acheive all of these hair styles just like that with the same hair cut. But good luck. :]
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I always try to curl my hair like that girl from high school musical's hair (gaberella?) and it never comes out as perfect as that. does anyone have advice or tips for curling your hair ( with a curling iron) thanks!
She has professionals doing her hair, so most likely unless you've got one tucked in a closet somewhere, it's not going to turn out exactly like hers.
Try using a double barrel curling iron & lots of Kenra hairspray (just because it's the best) Sit down one day when you have nothing to do, and practice. Curl a certain section of your hair a certain way, and then another section in a different way. Just experiment around until you find out how you like it/want it. =]
Seeing as how I don't know how she does it, experimentation is the only advice I can give you. Sorry.
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I'm a teenage g i r l. There's a guy who I want to hook up with, and we planned it for next month. I want to do it really badly, as I'm not a christian so I can do whatever I want sexually. But the thing is: I just can't decide if the pleasure is worth the guilt I'll suffer from- if there IS going to be any guilt. I just don't know how guilty I'd feel afterwards. Especially IF and WHEN i happen to meet someone worth dating or marrying.
All advice will be appreciated.
If you are this worried about your future spouse, then you shouldn't do it. Obviously you are having second thoughts, and planned hookups always end in disaster. Most likely there is going to be some guilt. For you future boyfriend/husband or for his future girlfriend/wife. This kind of thing happens all the tine, and you need to step up and be a bigger person. Don't go as low as hooking up with someone and not paying attention to the consequences just for pleasure. The pleasure is good, but good enough to risk your reputation and his. It's much better to have sex with someone you love. The pleasure is 10 times better!
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Okay not to gross you out or anything but i have some weird odor down there all the time. It's the discharge or whatever thats causing this i think but i've had it since i started going through puberty. I wash with soap and water every morning and i tried the summer's eve feminine deodorrant spray.and when i have sex i get so nervous about how i smell but they boys don't complain but i want to do something about it just so i don't feel wierd. but i haven't tried anything else. suggaestions?
Vaginas aren't going to smell minty fresh no matter how much you wash them. Guys love the smell, taste, look, & anything else you can think of about vaginas though. So don't worry. Keep washing like you are everyday, & you'll be fine.
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13/f i have a persperation problem. i've tried all deodorants except for men's but it probably wont work. i asked my mom to make an app. for me to the doctors so they can remove some of my sweat glands in my armpits. i get so self-concious when im around people bc i always sweat. i cant wear light colored clothes but i do anyways bc i sweat anyways..
i'll do anything that works.. thanks.
i can't help you there. i have the same problem.
thyroid problem or something.
go to the doctor if it's that bad, it's the only thing you can do. seriously, it sucks.
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i have a bit of acne on my forhead and a tad bit on my nostrils. i also have a bit of it on my chest like at least 7 pimples on my chest. i just need a product that will work really weel for this. thank you.
does clean and clear foaming facewash really work.. well i want your advice for my question first. thanks.
Clean & Clear isn't expensive I don't think, I've never personally used it, but you can give it a try and see.
If all else fails, ProActive realy does work. It's costly though & you have to use it everyday or the acne gets worse.
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okay well theres something wrong with my eyelashes. like they fall out in the middle and it irritates me also when they're growing back so i pick them but i still have them in like each corner except for the middle and i still have bottom lashes. i've been on medication once for it. that didnt work. and also gone to the donctors a few times for it and seen dermatoligists and other "special" doctors. i want to try using fake lashes but im afraid people with notice they're fake and it will hurt my eyes and that they will like fall off somehow and someone will notice.. advice?
I've never heard of that happening, keep going to the doctor for it though, that sounds like quite the pest.
You can try fake lashes if you want, but I would suggest asking your doctor first. It could have some weird side effect to whatever is making your eyelashes do what they are doing.
I'd go with the individual lashes if I were you. It's wear you apply 3 or 4 lashes where they are needed with special glue. I used them once for a beauty pageant I was in, and they look good if applied correctly. But it burns like a bitch if you get it in your eyes..
Practice before you go out in it or something though. Because it takes a lot of practice. Trust me.
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2 days ago me n my bf were about to have sex but he wasnt hard and couldnt get it in and i was wondering what would make him get a hard on n is it possible to have sex for the first time without him being hard?? thanks =]=]
No. It's impossible to have sex without him having an erection. Don't try, it will only end in disaster.
If this is your first time having sex, it could be he's to nervous to get horny. Do whatever you can to settle his nerves and to turn him on. ie, touch him, kiss him, touch yourself, whatever makes him horny. I'm sure you know ;)
Or it could be any new medication he's on. Or a new diet even. These are probably less common, but still possible.
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