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I'll try to make this short. Ive been dating this guy for 4 months now and things have been great. We get along well, shares similar interests, and don't have too many disagreements. He's met my parents and I've met his (i feel as if we could have waited on this but he was so persistent about it) and I often spend time around him and his friends vice versa. The problem is that although we do everything any normal 20 something couple would do, he still will not consider us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. He said that he wants a relationship with me but wanted to wait it out. At first I was okay with this, but I increasingly grew to be more annoyed because it didn't really make sense to me. Especially given all of the things I have done for him that most girls wouldn't do unless the relationship had some seriousness to it. Either way I continued to put my own feelings to the back burner and just accepted that he'll come around. However I recently I found out that he had been on the dating app Tinder just casually checking out girls. I established that he hadn't actually met up with anyone nor took a number, but I was hurt because we both agreed to only seeing each other. With this I told him I was done and that I couldn't handle this situationship anymore and that these actions showed the real reason as to why he didn't want to be exclusive. After some time he came to me saying he didn't want to lose me and that if I gave him until May ( 1.5 months from now) that he'd be ready for us to take it to the next level. I agreed with this because I love him (he tells me he loves me daily) and don't want to lose him, but I struggle with whether or not I should continue to wait. Very confused. (link)
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I relate to this completely.
I would stick it out until May like you said you would. If he doesn't come around, just let things go.
For awhile I was in the same situation. We'd act like a couple and was intimate and met each others parents and spent so much time together. But he didn't want to make it official. I thought it'd be fine, thought he'd come around eventually so I just decided to be content with what we had because I loved him and didn't want to lose him.
But a girl could only do that for so long, at least I couldn't. I told him I needed all or nothing. He said he was disappointed but he understood. So I did what I said I would, I started dating other people. He started talking to me again and he told me he wanted a relationship with me. So we worked things out.
So I would say stick with May, if he doesn't come around, don't wait for him and move on. If he really wants you, he had a chance and he'll realize it. If not, you know he wasn't the right guy for you.
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I'm glad your situation worked out! I do love him, so I'll wait it out and see.
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