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So basically my sister went to a hair salon and 5 minutes into the hair styling the lady was criticizing my sisters hair and giving her hair tips on how to improve it. My sister didnt take offense to that cause it was just hair tips. then all of a sudden they lady asked my sister how many times a day she showers, she said once but twice if shes out the whole day, the lady said shes a women she needs to be showering twice a day and that starting now as homework she must shower twice a day. So a couple days later the lady calls my dad to speak to my sister my dad was kind of weirded out by it but gave the phone to my sister, the lady asked my sister if shes done the homework she has asked her to do my sister compeletly forgot what it was so the lady reminded her that the homework was to shower twice a day. My sister said she does when shes out the whole day and the women got mad and said no you must shower twice a day. So my mom found out and was pissed she said that, that women was using code to say my sister smelled bad, my dad was denying it saying no she was just giving my sister womanly advice and then my mom got even more mad and said how dare she tell my daughter to shower twice a day and then call her to make sure she is doing that, shes basically telling her she smells!!!. Anyways i was wondering if someone said that to you do you think its code for them telling you that you smell or do they just genuinely feel like giving advice, also if you are a mother or a father how would you feel if a hairstylist said this to your child and then called a couple days later to make sure your child was doing what they said?
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The hairstylist was out of line. I wouldn't go to her again, and if she calls again, she should be told to stop.
Was she trying to say your sister smelled? Probably not. It is possible, especially if your sister is a teenager. Teenager's bodies are going through a lot of changes and sometimes that means having to change your bathing routines to keep up with new sweating and smells. That does happen.
But it sounds like this woman wasn't saying you sister smells, just that she has a very firm idea of what is the right way to clean your hair. (A lot of people would disagree with her too—my hair would be a wreak if I washed it twice a day!) Regardless of what she meant to communicate, the way she choose to share that though, was basically bullying. Bullying a young girl. That is not okay.
Your mom and dad may disagree about WHY the hairdresser did this, but hopefully they can agree it was not okay to call up a young girl at home and berate her. You should all go someplace else from now on and stay away from this woman.
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