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Hi... I was in a long distance relationship... After texting and calling for what seemed like forever,a few years we saw each other...... We did this week... And we had a long talk.
And he broke up with me.. Saying we couldn't be together. That he couldn't give me 110% and that further down the road he would cheat on me. And to not wait for him anymore. And I was wonderful and all that crap....
Now,here is the confusing part..
He said right after 'don't wait for me' that he isn't 100% giving up on him and I... Us... Later he went on to say... All I needed to do was move out here (in the bay area) and get a part time job..
I asked him if he could do better than me.... He said no..
He said he didn't want to break up with me... He didn't want to do this... He loves me... And I saw it in his eyes that he didn't want to hurt me or break my heart.... His body language was so uncomfortable... And his eyes had some held back tears going on....
I've left messages... He hasn't responded... But he keeps viewing my Snapchat..
Also,he said he was going to pray for me and to text him when I got home... And he wanted to keep talking and stay in touch... Which obviously he has not...
Another thing.. I looked straight in his eyes... And I asked him... Is there a battle going on inside of you still even though you made a choice? He responded with yes..... I told him,that if he was still battling with a desicion after he made a choice,that it was the wrong one...
Advice please,what do I do now? Did he make the right choice? Even though he's still deciding in heart what do even though he made a choice? What is going on?? Thanks for the advice in advanced (link)
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Like the other adviser said, long distance relationships are really hard and you really have to work on them.
He's definitely struggling with the break up. I think he made the right decision for him. For whatever reasons he has, he's making the right one for himself. Because I think if has any doubts about your relationship, it's not fair to stay with you. I believe you do deserve 110% in the relationship and he doesn't believe he can give you that.
I believe the reason he's not answering your texts is so that it's easier for him to move on. Because if you guys keep talking, it'll make it ten times harder on both of you.
So in the end, you can't control what he feels or what he does. You can only control what you do from here on out. So since he made his decision, I think you should try to move on. It will be hard but it's the best thing to do in this situation.
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