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Hello! For those of you that have answered my other question about me leaving a note on my crush's car with my number on it, I would just like to say that it worked! He went away on a business trip this past week and had returned late last night so he called me today. I was away at a music festival this weekend and I didn't recognize his number when he called so I sent it to voicemail. He left me a cute voicemail apologizing that it took him so long to call because he was away for work and that if I called him back, that would be really cool. He's always so shy around me in person, but tonight it was like he was a new person, he was speaking well and at a tone where I could hear him (maybe because we weren't face to face). But when I found out it was him that had called, I called him back but I think I left him the weirdest voicemail ever. I know I'm reading too much into it but I only left him a less that ten second voicemail and I feel like I sounded all giggly and awkward and shy, even though it was over the phone I was still nervous. I said and I quote "Hey ____, it's _____. *awkward pause* I guess we can just talk tomorrow if you're working. *awkward chuckle* It was really nice to have you call."
He and my brother are pretty good friends and everyone is saying that him being a guy, he probably won't pick up on the giggling or even the awkwardness since he probably felt the same awkwardness. But I'm nervous that he'll think I'm weird now or something. AND, in regards to my title above, I'm kind of mad at myself for saying that I guess we could just talk to work tomorrow. Because now I'm thinking what if he doesn't work or what if I don't see him and we don't talk? How long should I wait (or he) before maybe shooting out a text like "hey haven't seen you around to talk, we should hang out" or whatever?
I am just so afraid that my awkwardness is going to ruin this. I've liked him since high school and now to find out that he's into me to....it sends my heart racing just thinking about it. But with him not being so nervous on his voicemail and me botching mine up, I don't know what to do. I'm still nervous and I feel like he isn't. Just any help is appreciated. If you'd think my voicemail would come off weird, how long I should wait if I don't see him, that kind of thing.
Thanks!
I'm 20/f.
He's 22.
The Answer
If he is into you, it doesn't matter how awkward your voicemail was.
But you are right: You broke the first rule of trying to take it to the next level, you left it vague. Next time you speak to him, either in person, or on the phone, HAVE A PLAN. Have a movie you want to see, or an activity in mind. Don't do the whole wishy-washy "Oh, maybe we'll hang out sometime." That doesn't work and it doesn't let someone know you are actually interested. Instead, say "I will doing X on Thursday night. You should come."
If they can't make it, that's a good lead in to make some other plan instead.
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