Razhie

"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." --George Bernard Shaw

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My official name is Manda, but I've been Razhie for almost as long. I'm a 28 year old woman who didn't use to be half as confident or brazen as she is now.

My advice is pretty good, not always perfect and rarely censored.

I can read what is written. I cannot read your mind.

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Razhie. Advicenators Member Since: June 13, 2005. Answers: 5077. Visitors: 211514.

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The Question
My brother in law had a heart attack, we have been doing his share of the work in our business for nearly a year. He isnt well enough to probably ever work, but he wants his income to continue so he wants us to keep doing his work. He has been careless in every aspect of his life, has substantial debt, and lives a lifestyle that will eventually kill him. How do we shake him loose? My husband is exhausted from all the extra work, I am frustrated and want to leave, my son feels like a slave. All we do is fight over this, we need him to stop being a burden to us.

The Answer
Your best bet is to speak to a lawyer. Even if your brother in law is simply an employee of the business, it is likely best to get a professional opinion about your legal responsibilities at this point. If your brother in law is an owner in some way, then you definitely need legal advice.

No matter what you choose to do, either on your own or as a family, it will be difficult, but before you can even know exactly what your options are for addressing this you need to speak to a lawyer. Even the best path will probably take a while, but if you make a misstep, it could take even longer and be even more expensive and difficult for you.
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(Rating: 4) Without giving too many details ----he is neither an employee or a partner with us. We are two separate entities, we are just doing his work for him, my husband told him that he should hire an employee to help out but he refuses to pay anyone.

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