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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. We had been fighting a lot in the past month and he hasn't been the same since. Then yesterday he said he loves me,but he doesn't know what he wants and he can't be with me right now. We were together for 3 years. I am studying medicine and I am extremely busy,yet I still made a lot of time for him. I gave all my love,support,I always listened to him and offered my help,I was 100% loyal and devoted. He is younger than me and will get to college this year. I know the amount of pressure he's under. I had it a lot worse in my senior year in high school but I never let him suffer because of that. So I end up giving it all and I get this. And it's always been like this for me. I am no doll when it comes to appearances,but I am a good,loyal girlfriend. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. What was my mistake? I realized that no matter what I do I will just get hurt. The sooner I accept nobody wants me,the better I guess. (link)
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Just because a guy broke up with you doesn't mean that nobody wants you. That's a stupid way of thinking.
My ex of over two years broke up with me a few months ago. It was an awful experience. It was for the same reason you and your boyfriend broke up. He said he loves me but doesn't know what he wants and he's also under a lot of pressure from school.
The thing is, people deal with things differently. Not everyone is going to handle stress the same way you do.
I think the best thing to do is give it some time. Maybe a short break will give him time to realize he misses you and he made a mistake. In about a week, just talk to him face to face and let him know you want this to work. That you'll be supportive during his stressful times and won't make him even more stressed with fighting.
You don't need to blame him or call him out on what he's doing wrong. He'll end up getting defensive. Find a good way to express your feelings to him.
One more thing, each person you date will hurt you. You'll even hurt them, even if it's no intentional. So I guess you just gotta make sure that person is worth getting hurt for. Just some people make it through and some don't.
Pick yourself up, take care of yourself and I'm sure things will work out.
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You're right and it's sort of a relief that somebody knows how I feel. I won't get back with him though,cause once I break up,that's it. Thank you anyway.
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