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So I had a boyfriend and I told him that I did not want to have sex because I want to wait and im a Christian. So he said okay, but then preceded to pressure me into doing other things such as bjs, hjs, fingering, etc amd they were things i really didnt want to do, told him i didnt want him to do but hed take out his take and be like please just touch it and please just finish for me and put your mouth on it and id really hate it and didnt want to but i did. Hed also tell me like dont you love me? Cause by you not wanting to have sex with me and all that its like saying you dont love me. And he just pressured me into doing all those things. And one day, and please dont judge me cause its so embarassing and I hate to think that it happened but he pressured me into having..anal. And told me at first it wouldnt mean me losing my virginity and i said i really really dont want to and that its weird and he begged and begged and begged and wouldnt let me put my clothes back on and told me just once and we didnt have to do it again and itd make him really happy and its a normal thing and eventually i broke and was like okay once and no more. And he did one thrust and i told him to pull out and he just pushed deeper in and say you just need to give it a chance and i scratched him trying to get him out of me. And before he had also forced me to show him my ass and i really didnt want to and hed try to flip me over and id struggle against him and even said rape rape and hes like its not rape unless im inside you silly. And idk. Is what he did rape? Or sexual harassment? Or what? My friend thinks its both. And im just angry at it all. I mean i blame myself for not just breaking the relationship off but i was fooled into believe everything we did was normal and sure maybe but we had only been together for like two weeks before i had to start giving hjs and ugh:( and i even knew what i was doing didnt feel right..afterwards id feel like sobbing cause i felt like i was just being used for sex and being dooped like every other 16 year old girl whos tricked into believing their 17 year old bf loves them. And ah:( so what is this called? Rape? Harassment? Being forced or constantly persuaded and begged into doing something i really didnt want to do..and then doing it and feeling awful? And if he ever finds this post by some chance, fuck you:( (link)
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You did break things off with him right?
This is sexual harassment. It was consensual sex up until you told him to pull out and he didn't, then it turned to rape.
Love isn't about sexual things. You had your standards and he didn't care. He didn't care about you as a person, he obviously only cared about sex.
Don't beat yourself up over this. You should go to the police though. You might even want to talk to a therapist. The same thing happened to me and I should have gotten help much sooner but at the time I was more upset at myself for letting it get as far as it did. I think you feel the same way right now.
Just know that if a guy even tries to persuade to do ANYTHING that you aren't comfortable with, don't continue talking to him. Teenage guys are filled with hormones but eventually you'll meet one who will respect you.
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Rating: 5
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Yes we did break up. And thank you very much I doubt ill go to get help cause I just want to keep it in the past but i have learned a lot from it and yes youre right I will not take that again from another guy. And hopefully I can find someone who will respect me. And im very sorry this happened to you also. Thank you for the advice.
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