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Hey guys, I'm 19 and female. My best friend is 20 and male. I went out the other night to a party (please spare the whole speech about that). I texted him and asked if he wanted to meet me at the party because I just wanted him there, he said definitely so I told him the address and he met me there in about ten minutes. He called me to let me know he was there and I went outside to get him, I hugged him to say hi and he hugged back. I brought him inside, he got a drink and we were hanging out. He went off to talk to some guys for a bit and when he came back, I was making out with some guy. He let it happen and everything but when I get drunk, I get a little emotional and I'm going through some weird stuff right now so I'm known to have panic attacks. So, I started crying. My roommate told me that he was the only one who could get me to stop crying and having a panic attack. When I did stop crying, he would take my hand and just be there for me, talking to me and telling me everything was okay because he was there. My friend that I went out with that night has a GoPro and he likes filming parties at school because he's making a montage video of his freshman year. We were later looking back at some footage he took and there was one that I don't remember but my best friend was just holding me, I was in his arms and his hands were down on my waist. It looked like, to us, that we were the only two people in the room. My roommate also told me that he had to carry me out to the car when we left because I couldn't walk. (I was a shit show that night, I already know, don't judge me). He then walked home because there wasn't room for him in the car and when we got back, he was waiting there and got me inside and upstairs.
Now, all of this, you might be thinking "wow, girl, he totally loves you." Well, he's got a girlfriend.. yea, weird, huh? I was talking to him the other night and he told me that he didn't tell his girlfriend anything that happened that night because she is already intimidated by me and he doesn't want her to get upset at what happened and he said out of common courtesy to me, he won't tell anyone that wasn't there to see it themselves.
All of my best friends said that night was so weird, I was with him all night and when I wasn't, I'm told that I was asking for him. They said it was weird, too that he was the only one that could make me feel better. My best girl friend has diagnosed anxiety so I know she would be able to talk me down from a panic attack but for some reason, he's the only one that I wanted that night and he was there for me all night.
Aside from that night, he still is always there for me. We hang out in my room all the time, we have weekly applebees dates where we go for karaoke night, we also have weekly tv dates where out favorite show comes on and we can't fathom watching it without each other.
Please, tell me what you think about this. My friends and I think it's weird that he wouldn't just explain to his girlfriend that I got drunk and he took care of me. They also think it's weird, like I said, that he was the only one to make me feel better and that when I did need him, he was there. I even texted him the next morning that there was no amount of apologizing that I could do to make that night better and he said "you did nothing wrong, you were fine, I had fun, the night was great, don't even think about apologizing." My friends think we exceed best friend behavior but even if we do, he has a girlfriend so, it's like, nothing can go beyond that.
Please tell me what you think. Thanks. (link)
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This is difficult to answer since we don't know either of you.
Of course there is a chance that there is something between you. Believe it or not, people do have feelings for someone outside of a relationship.
Maybe he's just a really, really good friend that truly cares about you, but maybe he might also see you as something more.
It's just hard for me to exactly tell you because I don't know his feelings. Your friends see you guys though so their judgement is better.
As for him not telling his girlfriend. He probably doesn't want her to feel threatened by you. Girlfriends do get jealous of other girls who are close to their boyfriend. He probably doesn't want to make her upset or start a fight with her.
Anyways, if you really want to know, then ask him. But it really could be either or.
And I second what the other two said about the whole too many people in one car thing. People need to be smarter about that.
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