Hi. My name is Farrah, I am 13 years old and this is me. I love to crochet, read, listen to One Direction, help others, and other things, but I am chasing my dream of becoming a famous pop successful singer. One of my inspirations are Katy Perry and many more. I am young, but I am not too young to realize that a dream is wanted to come true! And I am still wishing and hoping it comes true. I am a nice girl, the shy type, generous, etc. You can talk to me so don't think you can't! I will try to help you the best way I can and you can help me answer my questions! Even though I may not know many of you, I will be your friend! :)
Gender: Female
Location: Richmond,VA
Occupation: chasing my dream of being a singer! :)
Age: 13
Member Since: July 21, 2012
Answers: 15
Last Update: July 22, 2012
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Hi, I'm an 18 year-old female, fresh out of high school, and I've never dated anyone. Ever. Never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never been on a date even. I've been asked to a couple dances, but that's about the extent of it. And that's sort of on purpose. See, I never wanted to date anyone, firstly because most of the guys at the schools I have gone to have been complete jerks, but mostly because I'm very serious about relationships. Most middle school relationships last about a month max. Plus at the time I wanted to focus on having fun with school and friends, and sports. High school relationships have a bit more potential than middle school ones of course, but they're so drama-filled, time consuming, and just plain stressful. Plus, there's a slim chance they'll actually succeed after high school. So, I made the decision not to date anyone until college, and that was probably one of the smartest decisions I've ever made. I could just focus on growing up, focus on MY issues, and I was free to do what I wanted, when I wanted with my friends (with my parents' permission, of course, haha).
Now that I'll be in college, I'm allowing myself to date. But... I'm EXTREMELY inexperienced. So I know basically nothing about relationships. The main problem is, I'm a Christian, so I really want to save myself, my virginity, until marriage. It's just... something that I've had a long time to ponder and pray about, and it just feels like something God wants me to do. And it's something I want too, for me and my future husband. But nowadays, ESPECIALLY nowadays, that's not an easy task. We're bombarded with sex on TV, in movies and media, it's just everywhere! Even a lot of my own friends are no longer virgins. And the majority of sex is featured with non-married couples. I know it's okay to go without sex in high school, (although it's becoming increasingly uncommon), but is it the same with adult relationships? I mean, premarital sex has just become a common thing.
Basically, I just want to know if I'll be able to go out into the relationship world and not be a laughing stock who'll end up dying alone (after all, that is a huge fear of mine). >>; I mean, sex seems to be this regular activity for couples, and I don't want to be laughed at by a boyfriend when he goes to take off my pants and I tell him no. I'm prepared for that, but I want to know if it's possible nowadays to even have a successful relationship without sex. Is it possible? Do couples HAVE to have sex? Thank you for your time. :] (link)
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First off let me say I like you! You were not worried about relationships until college. You are a smart girl! To answer your question, let me say that NO! When people are in a relationship, they do not have to have sex. They can you know cuddle, kiss, and just be intimate with each other, but who said they had to have sex? You are a grown women and should do things your way now that you are grown. But I honestly think that you should not have sex while you are in a relationship……………or if you are in college. The cost of college is approximately the amount of money to raise a baby! You should wait till you are married and you have the amount of money to take care if your baby. I hope I tried to answer your question! :)
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Hahaha, thank you! Yeah, I was hoping I was making the right decision... :) Thanks again!
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