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Q: Hi, I'm 14/f
I've had a huge, and I mean HUGE crush on this older guy for years now. We're talking I forget my own name around him! Now he has a girlfriend and he really likes her. They're long distance, so he calls her every night & he always has this huge cheesy smile every time he's on the phone with her. I am, surprisingly, not jealous of her at all. It's normal to be at least a little jealous when I think about something like that, right? But all I can think of when I think about him with her is happiness for him & I'm glad that he's happy with her. That's all I seem to care about. I don't like being so calm about all of it. I don't want to cause problems either, but it drives me insane that I'm not at least a little jealous!

So my question is: Is it possible to make yourself jealous? If so, please share! I don't want to give up on any chance I might have to be with him & by being so calm it seems like i AM giving up! Someone, anyone, please help me. Anything will be appreciated.

Thanks for reading & answering in advance!

I honestly don't think that you can make yourself jealous. Someone has to make you jealous. Maybe, your calm because you really like this dude and that all you want for him is to be happy. Maybe, you're not at least a little jealous because you DON'T see them practically together. You could probably ask him if his girlfriend could come visit for the holidays and see if you get jealous when you see them together. You're not worrying because you have him and his girlfriend is somewhere far away. You'll be jealous when he focuses on his girlfriend more often. hope this helps.
~MC~

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That's true but with my personality I know it won't work. Tank you for the answer!

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