Razhie

"This is the true joy in life - being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances." --George Bernard Shaw

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My official name is Manda, but I've been Razhie for almost as long. I'm a 28 year old woman who didn't use to be half as confident or brazen as she is now.

My advice is pretty good, not always perfect and rarely censored.

I can read what is written. I cannot read your mind.

Razhie. Advicenators Member Since: June 13, 2005. Answers: 5077. Visitors: 211514.

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The Question
I am dating a guy for a month, and known him for two months. I am finally starting to have feelings for him, but I think he lied to me.

I found that he had a Facebook page (social page online) and he promised me he wouldn't add anymore girls on there. I just noticed he added one, and when I confronted him he said the following.......I saw a girl requested me on my cellphone (that's where he got the request) but I swear on my life & kids (he has kids) that he didn't approve her. I don't know what to think? He kept telling me he really does care for me and doesn't want to loose me. Should I let it go, or should I dump him?

I'm very confused, please help : /

I'm suppose to see him tonight, and don't know if to end this or not.

By the way, he knows I have a facebook too and yet hasn't requested me as a friend nor asked me about mine....Kinda weird too :(

The Answer
Stop the game playing. You are way too old for this shit.

You are not a teenager, you should be way past trying to make rules about who your boyfriend can friend or not friend online.

If you want to be his friend on Facebook, just add him yourself for Christ's sake.

And most importantly:
Be mature enough to realize that cheaters cheat, and that no amount of policing someone's online life will stop them from cheating if they want to cheat. People who don't cheat, don't cheat. And no amount of attractive Facebook friends of the opposite sex will turn a non-cheater into a cheater.

If your gut is telling you this guy is a cheater or a liar, than yes, you should listen to that feeling and you should dump him.

If you are throwing a fit 'cause he added some random girl on Facebook, you should also dump him - not because he's a liar - but because you have a lot of growing up to do before you are ready for a serious relationship.
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