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18/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now. I'm in love with him. He's honestly the best person I have ever known. He's my best friend and I just feel so amazing around him :) We have gotten into many arguments and he is starting to doubt our relationship. He has considered breaking up many times but thank god he decided not to. I really really do love him, with all of my heart. Anyways, I was wondering if anybody had some ideas or advice on some ways I can show or do something to show him how much he means to me? I've done things like bake him a cake, made him a blanket, made him food, bought him some things like clothes and rings. But thats not what i'm looking for.. I want to do something or get something for him that will make him realize that he is everything to me. I want to do something for him that I wouldn't do for anyone else.. something extraordinary.. It can be crazy :) I am the type of girlfriend who loves to do things over-the-top and make his jaw drop and be in a state of awe with surprise and happiness.
If you have seen the movie A Walk to Remember, theres a part when the guy names a star (in the sky) after the girl. It was soo adorable and I want to do something random and extraordinary like that.
Another idea I had was this- I'm going to be spending a month in Europe this summer. Italy specifically. My boyfriend has never left the state.. so it would mean so much to him if he got to travel to a different country. I'm considering maybe buying him a plane ticket to visit me for a few days/week? But this idea is a little tricky because plane tickets are expensive and i'm only 18. Plus my parents are not too fond of him, so it might be a little awkward. But to be honest, I'm doing this for my boyfriend.. not my parents, so they can make it awkward as much as they want, but my boyfriend will still be happy. Do you think this is a good idea? (If i did this, I would obey my parents rules 100% because they would be doing us a huge favor if they allowed him to come with)
Oh and another idea was to buy him tickets to his favorite band's concert, but i'm not sure if this will show him my passion and love for him.
Besides these 3 ideas, does anyone have other ideas? remember- I'm looking for something over-the-top, extraordinary, something he won't expect or see coming. Something to show him how much he means to me and how madly in love I am with him. Thanks!! :) (link)
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Hi,
There is this thing called 5 love languages, and it is really worth reading up on.
Basically it says there are 5 different ways a person feels loved, and you should try and give them love in the way THEY like receiving it, which may actually be different to your way that you like receiving.
these are the 5 ways:
PHYSICAL TOUCH like cuddles, kisses, play fighting, arm rubbing, holding hands, etc
GIFTS, giving of gifts, whether you bought them or made them yourself
ACTS OF SERVICE, doing something that makes the persons life easier, like making them a cup of tea, or doing their dishes, ironing their clothes, tidying the lounge, cleaning their car, etc
TIME, spending time together doing things THEY like, so as an example, I may hike up a hill with my husband, as he really enjoys that, when I would not really ever want to do that myself. He loves it, so this is quality time for him.
KIND WORDS, either spoken or written down, saying nice things about the other person to make them feel good.
Basically we all like all of these things, but we like some things more than others (and they can change over the years) at the moment I really love gifts and acts of service.
My husband like acts of service and kind words.
This means if I give my husband a gift, even if I put my heart and soul into the gift, he will like it, but may not really feel loved. But if I make him a massive dinner with dessert and write a card that says how much I admire him, then he feels like I am head over heels in love with him.
So you need to find out what your boyfriends love languages are, and treat him in those areas.
It sounds like YOU like gifts, which is why you are thinking about giving him these expensive gifts. They sound nice, but if his top love language is something different, then he may really feel more loved if you do something in the other area.
I would also suggest, with all the arguing going on, and with the fact that you have only been going out a short time, that you don't spend a lot of money on what ever you do. It won't make him love you.
You should spend the money on your guy when he loves you, instead of trying to MAKE him love you.
Or spend it on him to be nice, but don't expect anything in return (like his love).
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