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Ok, so the first question is easy really. Though it's something I've kinda worried about for a while about myself. To put it simply, I prefer to be friends with girls, perhaps date them, over sleeping with them. I'd rather stay in for a movie and cuddle than have sex. Does that make me weird, for a straight guy? None of my guy friends see what I like about it. (But my female friends tend to love it haha)
My main part to the question is, I see this aspect of me ruining future relationships. I tend to have a couple of female friends at all times, who I often spend an evening with alone. We might go out together, or watch a movie, or whatever. Nothing happens, we're just friends. At the moment I'm single. I worry though that when I have a girlfriend, she'll be always jealous of the fact that i'm alone with other girls (Because I thought about it, and I don't want to stop haning out with friends the way I do because some girl doesn't want me too). I do think that this will make it incredibly hard for me to start a relationship. When the trust isn't built yet, how do you persuade her there's nothing going on?
Any help would be appreciated, but don't insult me, I get enough of that already.
Having girls that are friends is fine, but what you do when you are around these girls is another thing. I guess the best way to look at it is this. Say, you just start dating this AMAZING girl and you find out after 3 weeks or so of dating that she keeps hanging around several of her guy friends and they hang out just the two of them alone and cuddle and watch movies... I am pretty sure you would be pissed. Cuddling isn't sex, but it is a side of emotional and physical intimacy. That is something a guy should not do with other females, if he is in a relationship. If you get a new girlfriend the best thing to do is distance yourself a little from these girls you are friends with for a while so you get accustomed to your new relationship. Let your girlfriend know first off who your girls are that you are friends with and maybe invite one or two of them over WITH you and your girlfriend, so she can meet them and know that they are trustworthy. You may also have to talk to these girls you are friends with and make it clear where the lines are crossed in regards to how much and what you guys do when hanging out. You may not realize it, but some of these girls you are friends with might even like you more than friends because of what you are doing, so making sure you have appropriate boundaries between your friends and your relationship is VERY important. I have had issues with my boyfriend and his "friends". A little bit different though, considering some of them he has slept with. We have agreed that the ones he has slept with just aren't worth him causing problems with us. Because the way I see it is, if you are really FRIENDS you do not sleep together. That is definetely crossing the line between friends and more. Now cuddling, I wouldn't be comfortable with my boyfriend cuddling on another girl. That is just too friendly and would definetely be taken the wrong way. So just try to see it from a possible girlfriends perspective. Hope I helped you!
(Rating: 5) Your assumption about me isn't correct, I would not care if she had male friends she was close too, I wouldn't encourage it but if she wants to hug guys then let her. As long as it's nothing more.
The reason I rated you 5 is because you went on to say what I've been thinking the problem would be. It's not something I haven't heard before but it's good to have the point reiterated. Thanks.