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alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :)

Girl, relax :) In reality, there is probably only a handful of people who have actually had sex, rather than a bunch of people that claim they have just to feel cool. And to be honest, some of them who have had sex may regret it because it wasn't with someone they actually love.

There is no reason to have sex with a guy you date in high school, especially if you date him simply because he's available and fun for the time being. Enjoy being young, enjoy being innocent. Think about how much less stressful it is to not be sexually active at this age. You won't have to constantly worry if you may have gotten pregnant. You won't have to worry about getting money, supporting a child, missing out on awesome opportunities. You have so much ahead of you in life, much greater things than meaningless sex with a high school boyfriend.

I have nothing against sex what so ever, so I'm not speaking to promote prudence. I support sex in loving relationships. So, if you are in love with someone, and in a comfortable, stable, and loving relationship, AND you feel ready, then sex may only benefit your feelings.

But, if having sex is more like something to do on your How-To-Be-Cool-List, then hold off. The time will come when the time comes. For now, be young, be fun, love. :)

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