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I am a redhead and grew up hating it because I was different than the rest of my family. I never felt like I fit in at all. I love it now, but back then, I wanted to dye it brown so that I would be like everyone else.
Well now I have an almost-3-year-old son who has sandy brown/blonde hair and a 5.5 month old son whose hair matches mine perfectly. I knew that someday people would start commenting, but I didnt realize it would be so soon. We went to the doctors office and she said to my 5 month old "look at that hair!" and then to my 3 year old "where's your red hair?" He didnt understand (he did say "I dont know") but I know that, one of these days, he's going to feel like people are saying that he doesnt belong with us and they are singling him out for being different.
I dont necessarily want to be rude back, but I do want for these people to know that they are being rude. I want something that will be appropriate for him to say in later years too.
The only thing I can come up with is something like "I shared" which doesnt nearly get the point across. I dont know what kind of response these idiots are looking for anyways. They just say things like this to make the person uncomfortable. They deserve to be made to feel uncomfortable/stupid in return.
your son has taken on the genes from his grandparents. you didn't get the genes from your parents but it skipped you and passed down to your son. soo.. someone wants to be stupid and come up to you and ask a stupid question like that that then they aren't very smart. chances are their kid probably as one green eye and one blue eye.
"You are very good at observing the obvious. Thanks for noticing how different my sons are they are beautiful boys aren't they. oh what's that? where's his red hair? he wasn't born with it. as you can see they skipped me and he got them. his grandparents had brown hair. oh look you have a pimple." lol i don't know..it could be something because it's a dumb question really "oh where's your red hair?" umm...where's your common sense? your son is healthy boy and what others think should even matter. like i said chances are they are making others uncomfortable because they aren't comfortable with their own family.
(Rating: 4) lol... I like the pimple part... I think I can work around that idea. Thanks!