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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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So my bestfriend was dating this guy, who had it really bad for her, they had only been official for a little over 2 weeks, but they had been spending alot of time together & he really liked her. Well one day, she decides she likes her guy bestfriend,(her ex boyfriend who took her virginitys brother) her & her "bestfriend" wanted to keep it all under wraps so her ex wouldn't find out, so they decided they wouldnt go out, they would just do physical stuff without being together, & she only told me & another girl.
Well at first she was just going to cheat on her boyfriend, but then she decided to break up with him. She told him that it was because she was grounded for the rest of the summer & wouldn't be able to see him. He knew it was a lie & he kept texting me & begging me to tell him the real reason, & he swore on his fathers grave he wouldnt say anything. I finally just said "Okay, shes gotta thing for her bestfriend, but their not going to go out, she just felt bad about it & didn't want to hurt you." Well they ended up getting in a fight, & at first i kept denying it was me who told. When she finally figured it out, i admitted to it & we got into an arguement. I eventually apologized for telling him, but now shes going around & posting things on myspace about how she cant trust anyone & shes only got herself.
Is it just me or is she blowing this a little out of proportion? & did i do the right thing by telling him?
I kind of understand what your friend is going through. I mean yeah, that boy did have a right to know, but you also didn't have a right to tell him either. It wasn't your relationship. I understand how your friend feels, because I have gone through something somewhat similar. It's not so much that you told him, but it's that she trusted you with something, and i'm sure you probably promised not to say anything, and you did anyway. i was so hurt when my friend did that to me. & then after that you denied it. that only made it ten times worse. (atleast when it happened to me, i thought it made it even worse) because you were lying to her face too. i'm not sure if she should really go be posting things around on myspace about how shes so upset, that's kind of ridiculous.. but she is obviously really upset. If I were you I would apologize constantly, just tell her how sorry you are, and you don't blame her for being mad, & you know.
It really sucks when a good friend of yours lies to you, it really messes with the friendship, & its really hard to overlook it.
good luck, hope you guys work it out. :)
(Rating: 4) Yeah i totally understand, but the only thing is i didnt promise ha. We had numerous discussions about it & i kept telling her how wrong it was that she would offer to be her ex boyfriends brother first time also. So i told her i didn't want any part of it. & then when she broke up with him, she said she was going to tell him the truth eventually. But i do understand where your coming from. (: